Hello Justconfused
Welcome to the forum.
I know from personal experience, like most of us in this forum, that being diagnosed as diabetic is one hell of a shock, even if it runs in some familes, and it most certainly is very, very confusing, so much so that we think that our life is over and done with, sometimes we even think that its not worth living any more...
Well of course it is worth living, but it means that we have to have the courage to be flexible and to make adjustments so that we can live a healthy life and not develop complications and that means that we need to do our best to keep our blood glucose levels to non-diabetic levels,
It also means that we need to educate ourselves about this condition, the more we learn the more we lose our fear and realise that from all the available diseases out there actually diabetes is one of the better ones to have, sounds very stupid, but at least this is one disease that we can control ourselves, to a large extent at least, and basically we are forced to lead a healthier lifestyle than ever before in order to control the bg levels.
I said it takes a certain amount of courage, and I think you have that, you are living there in not so ideal circumstances in another country but you seem to be doing very well, despite the problems, so first go and give yourself credit for that, this is an achievement in itself!
So now about what you can eat, first remember, the important thing is that you get all the important vitamins and minerals and protein, that is what your body needs to function, whether you are diabetic or not, and it doesnt matter really when you eat certain foods, eg what is considered to be breakfast food late afternoon or you eat dinner at 6 in the morning, this is where flexible comes in.
I notice in another thread you say Vietnamese food is awful and downright dangerous, so you also say in another post that you feel your life is over because you cannot cook any more, you and your husband enjoy cooking and this pleasure has been taken away from you?
Ok, so before I go on here making suggestions on what to eat/cook/whatever, can you please write down a couple of days of a typical menu, what did you eat for breakfast, lunch and dinner? Lets see if we can all try and help you work out something there.
Tell if you are able to test your blood glucose, can you get hold of books, eg Dr Bernstein or Dr Charles Clarke, as some of these would really help you learn more about diabetes. I know things are not easy for you, but you are clever, you found this forum and you have been brave enough to post, this also shows that although you are confused and feel like giving up, you are also intelligent and searching for information and willing to try to find a solution to your problems, I think everyone in this forum will do their best to help you through, who knows what me might be able to come up with as a team, lets just see, I dont think things will be as bleak as you fear it is.
All the best
Karen x