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Spirit01

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Please don't be upset with me for posting this but I'm confused with myself. I was diagnosed type 2 in February this year & my attitude was & still is "yep & now what". I need to lose a lot of weight & have lost 2 stone. Since January I put myself on LCHF to lose weight. My blood counts fell dramatically very quickly & I feel great. I have 1 Metformin a day & that's it. I have diabetes but never give myself the handle of "Diabetic". I read that bits may have to be chopped off & if I'm lucky I "could" have a normal lifespan. WTH does that mean?? I've lost so many friends to Cancer & other friends that have it I believe I'm a lucky one. I got myself into this & I'll take the responsibility but I actually see this as my crutch to losing weight because if I don't I'm going to be very ill. I explained this to a friend at work & she got really cross & said "you've only been diabetic for a couple of months". She has 3 injections a day & 4 Metformin but she is very overweight & eats big sandwiches every day & is regularly at the vending machine for crisps, chocolate, full fat coke. Am I in the wrong here for the way I am or should I just give up & await my fate?
 
Hi. Sounds like you are doing all the right things so keep at it. Your friend isn't doing the right things and may well pay the price in later life with all the problems diabetes can bring unless she has well-controlled blood sugar. With well-controlled blood sugar you can have a normal life. BTW do you have a glucose meter? If not do get hold of one and the SD Codefree is one of the cheapest.
 
Being re-diagnosed with type 2 diabetes after 10 years was an unexpected blessing.

My initial reaction was shock, perhaps shame and embarrassment too. All I wanted to know that day was "How bad is an A1c of 9.9%?" One of my online search strategies took me to a post by blogger David Mendosa. In it he described how Richard Bernstein, M.D.'s diet restored his blood glucose levels to the normal range. I was all in (and at the same time both angry and disappointed that neither my doctor, my endocrinologist, or my endocrinologist's nurse told me about the low carbohydrate diet).

I bought the book, Dr. Bernstein's Diabetes Solution, 4th Edition, and a glucose meter kit. I gave away or threw away the foods I could no longer eat. Within days I was on the diet. I dusted off my scale, began weighing and journaling the food I was eating, and graphed my blood glucose levels as they began to drop. I began reading more books, often while I was walking.

I learned the difference between healthy and unhealthy foods, learned how to cook, and continued to walk. Initially, I lost 26 pounds, gained 12 pounds back over the holidays, re-lost 4 pounds with 8 more to go, but I'm in no hurry. My BMI is just above the normal range now.

I feel so much better. I got an eye exam. Eyes are fine. All my health markers improved, some dramatically. What I now realize was the beginnings of peripheral neuropathy reversed. Feet swelling that began when I crossed over from pre-diabetes to diabetes is now minimal.

Today, when I talk with friends and acquaintances who have diabetes, I wonder if in time they'll be persuaded to travel the road I chose.

When I started my support, education, and walking group almost a year ago, I really thought I'd be overwhelmed with people who'd want help. Sadly, the group grew by an average of one person a month. Most continued, a few didn't. It's been inspiring to watch them move forward. When they, like me, begin to experience improvements too, it makes me want to work harder, both on my behalf and theirs.

@Spirit01 I believe your co-worker feels trapped. My best guess is that she feels she's gained too much weight, has done too much damage to her body, and wrongly believes there's no going back. She's likely felt helpless for a very long time, dutifully seeing her doctor, talking her insulin and medication.

When the time is right, have a copy of of Bernstein's book handy with links to websites that helped you written inside. I suggest you wrap it with no tag so she doesn't know what's inside until you present it to her. It may take months or years, but hopefully, someday, she'll do more than just leaf through it, and then perhaps she'll regain a glimmer of hope...

She's watching you. I know it's discouraging to watch someone you care about not doing well. Try not to feel too discouraged. Instead, inspire her through your example. You won't have to say or do anything. She'll follow your ups and down, but when you begin to change, trust that she'll notice. The hardest part about caring for others is patiently waiting for them to realize they're not trapped, they have choices too. If she has no hope, hold on to her hope for her.

I know it's hard, especially when you feel hurt by her comments. Stay the course. :)
 
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Thank you so much for the replies. My life is a gentle one & very spiritual & one thing that I'm passionate about is finding positives in everything. My belief is that if there is no positive there can be no negative because they need each other to survive so my post shows my positive. Moving on, I don't have any meters & when I asked my diabetes Nurse she said that I didn't need one. Apart from full blood checks & urine checks I've not had anything. The Nurse says my next check will be in October when I have my flu jab.
 
Please don't be upset with me for posting this but I'm confused with myself. I was diagnosed type 2 in February this year & my attitude was & still is "yep & now what". I need to lose a lot of weight & have lost 2 stone. Since January I put myself on LCHF to lose weight. My blood counts fell dramatically very quickly & I feel great. I have 1 Metformin a day & that's it. I have diabetes but never give myself the handle of "Diabetic". I read that bits may have to be chopped off & if I'm lucky I "could" have a normal lifespan. WTH does that mean?? I've lost so many friends to Cancer & other friends that have it I believe I'm a lucky one. I got myself into this & I'll take the responsibility but I actually see this as my crutch to losing weight because if I don't I'm going to be very ill. I explained this to a friend at work & she got really cross & said "you've only been diabetic for a couple of months". She has 3 injections a day & 4 Metformin but she is very overweight & eats big sandwiches every day & is regularly at the vending machine for crisps, chocolate, full fat coke. Am I in the wrong here for the way I am or should I just give up & await my fate?
Your friend at the vending machine sounds like a T1. The last time I looked up the advice to diabetics it said something like, "Eat what you want and just take more insulin". I am choosing my words carefully since it gave the same advice to T2's until some of us pointed out that T2's, by and large, don't take insulin. This advice sounds unbelievable but I took a hard copy of it before it was changed just for the sake of my own sanity.

Historically the care given to diabetics was abysmal and often wrong. The revolution happened when people didn't take so much notice of the official advice and took control of their own diets etc.

No you shouldn't give up and await your fate. Your diet is the only way you have of effectively controlling your condition. I know there are pills but some of them don't work too well.
 
@Spirit01 I found the cheapest test strips available and bought the glucose meter to go with them. Almost a year and a half later, I'm still using it to learn how different foods, walking, sleep, etc. affect my blood glucose levels. It's been a huge help, that and finding a diet that works for me.

After thinking about this for a few minutes, I don't know how anyone manages their diabetes without a glucose meter. Without it, I can't tell if my glucose levels are high, low, or average. I pay out of pocket for my test strips.
 
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Please don't be upset with me for posting this but I'm confused with myself. I was diagnosed type 2 in February this year & my attitude was & still is "yep & now what". I need to lose a lot of weight & have lost 2 stone. Since January I put myself on LCHF to lose weight. My blood counts fell dramatically very quickly & I feel great. I have 1 Metformin a day & that's it. I have diabetes but never give myself the handle of "Diabetic". I read that bits may have to be chopped off & if I'm lucky I "could" have a normal lifespan. WTH does that mean?? I've lost so many friends to Cancer & other friends that have it I believe I'm a lucky one. I got myself into this & I'll take the responsibility but I actually see this as my crutch to losing weight because if I don't I'm going to be very ill. I explained this to a friend at work & she got really cross & said "you've only been diabetic for a couple of months". She has 3 injections a day & 4 Metformin but she is very overweight & eats big sandwiches every day & is regularly at the vending machine for crisps, chocolate, full fat coke. Am I in the wrong here for the way I am or should I just give up & await my fate?

Like Winnie, my diagnosis, whilst totally overwhelming for a few days, was simply one of the best "klaxons" to ring in my life:)

My lifestyle has totally changed as have all my metabolic markers and I feel healthier than I have ever felt for 30+ years. So invest hope, believe for better things and continue as you already are by taking personal responsibility.

Well done:)


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I love this forum because I learn more on here than anywhere else. Thank you all so much & I will invest in a meter. Bless you all
 
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