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babycham

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HI

I have posted on here in the past but never come back, as everyone seems to be in control of their lives and diabetes, and I am not, still in denial, although I was diagnosed about 2 years ago (I think) and never made a note of date.

I have periods where I test regularly and do my best to get my numbers down, but then like the last 4 weeks or so I have gone off the rails, my reading at 11.35 was 14.1, I had no breakfast, but finished off some chocolate. I am now feeling very low, tearful and thirsty, which I know is not a good sign for my sugars.

I know the answers I will get back will be the same as usual, that Its only me who can take control of things, that I am doing my body harm by having hight BS, but its easier said than done, I know what I need to do, (lose weight) I have done this before but how do you get your head around things.

I like food, all the wrong things, sweet, fat, and when I am low/depressed/stressed I turn to food, and sometimes only chocolate can hit the mark.


If you are only going to tell ne to pull myself together, don't bother to reply, as been told that on here many times in the past, but it doesn't help, I want to hear something positive.

Teresa :(
 
Babycham, don't know about me being able to help you, I was diagnosed type 2 last week, still have no idea what I should be doing, ( saw the nurse yesterday, ). I am told I should cut down on sugar, salt and fat, (all the things I like) did have breakfast this morning for the first time in about 20 years, think I feel better today,
I dont know if I should be testing my blood glucose, I think I want to, so I can understand what foods are doing me the damage, but the nurse said we should look at that in 3 months.

Doubt this is helping you tho....

Just know you are not the only one out there in denial, and confused,

When you find a better way, let me know, 'till then I will try to come to terms with my own stuff.

Rickscott.
(you are not alone, I am starting to think that all of us on here feel the same, just you are the only one brave enough to make it public!!)
 
hya,
a lot of people do feel the same, and im sure noone likes to have to change :?
as you already said ,you know what to do and only you can do it, have you thought about maybe telling your g.p how you feel? could u be depressed? i cant tell u what to do to fix it sadly but am here if u need to chat or let off steam
 
Teresa.

What you want and what you get are sometimes different. If you think I am going to 'gush' and tell you it will all be alright, just carry on the way you are. You are sadly mistaken. There are many on here, me included who were knocked back at the diagnosis and the thought of what it might mean to my life. I quickly updated the Life Insurance and made sure my will was up to date. I was severely depressed to the point that it affected both my work and my home life. Something had to change.
A decision I made.

Then after some years of wondering why I was different to everybody else and why couldn't I eat the same, Burger's, Chips, Chocolate etc I found this website and I listened to the advice here. I didn't add any caveats about what I didn't want to hear....!

Have you had any counselling from trained pro's who can help you come to grips with all the issues you obviously have over your Diabetes. It's something only you can deal with. We can support you, we can advise you, we can help you to a certain extent. Just don't tell us what we should be saying. That sort of help is going to do you no good at all.

You know what you have to do. You know what is required. Don't close your mind to good advice.
As far as I am concerned.......That's POSITIVE. :D
 
babycham,

Sorry to say this, but I tend to agree with Ken (cugila) on the problems you are experiencing at present.

Best to see your GP and discuss all the issues in your head concerning diabetes. Perhaps with a some counselling and some medication, things will seem more clear, and your outlook will be more positive towards managing your condition. Turning to sweets and chocolate is a emotional response to your difficulties in coming to term with a lifelong condition such as diabetes.

When you say that you believe that 'everyone seems to be in control of their lives and diabetes', things are not always as they seem. I have had type 1 for a number of years, and have experienced every emotion possible, being in denial, cursing the condition, even down to self-pity. Nobody manages their condition with ease, everyday is a challenge and with the appropriate help and self-believe, you can and will learn to control your diabetes within more aceptable limits. Good luck and do keep us informed of your progress.

Regards

Nigel
 
hello babycham, i am also new was advised last week friday - still gettin my head round it but i have changed the way i eat as of then, wasnt sure i was doing the right thing to be honest but kind of panicked.. I saw doctors today and advised them im struggling to eat every 3hours - she has advised to not worry but ensure i have breakfast (2 weetabixs) - struggled with lunch but had it... i think its triaL and error... im not sure if im doing the right thing at mo but i have cut down on all the stuff i love :wink:
 
babycham
I have a lovely DSN and if I'm down, I can go chat to her. Do you have a good one too?
The other thing is
You can use your meter as a "booster". Every time your BG is on target make a note somewhere.
You could even make a starchart like children have.
Hana
 
Hi Babycham,
I was diagnosed as "Gestationsal diabetic" 25 years ago, after my daughter was born I was told it had gone away. I thought that was what they said, my doctor kept referring to me as a diabetic, I never really heard her as I was in denial. My wake up call was the birth of my grandaughter 6 years ago, I want to witness as many days of her life as I can. She is so precious to me.
i am no where near perfect, my weakness is cakes, my dad loved them and so do I. 5 years ago I lost 4 stone and have not put it back on again, I do struggle at times but it is worth it to keep in control, we are all human so at times it can be difficult. If you fall off the wagon, just pick yourself up dust yourself down and start again, don't beat yourself up.
Life is too short as it is without us shortening it by not being in control ( most times that is )

Good luck matey,
Bernie xx
 
Many thanks to all who have taken the time to post back, I have read them all and taken on board what was said (some with anger, some with tears), and I am trying to make a new start my BG before breakfast today was again 14.6, and I am already on 4 metformin and 2 gliclazide? (excuse spelling) a day.

Today is a new day and I WILL SUCEED.


Now off to check the rest of the site.

Teresa
 
Teresa,

You've come to the right place - there's usually someone here who has 'been there - done that'. If not, someone is bound to research for an answer. Any problems - talk to us here - there's an awful lot of us. You may get a figurative cuddle or a kick up the bum :wink: , but it's always positive with your health and well-being in mind.

Cheers!
Barb
 
Hi Babycham,

I've only been on this site for a day or 2 myself and already have come to realise that some people 'know it all' and others are a bit more diplomatic and sympathetic! But bottom line, if you can spare the time to read all the posts you can pick up lots of basic, good advice. I have been Type 1 for 22 years and am still learning, 2 years is still a newbie! Best advice I can give is keep testing regularly and try new things (meds/food/routine) and with the help of the people here and your Diabetes Nurse you will find a solution that suits you :D

All the best :D
 
Hi Teresa,

I know where you are coming from...there is nothing like feeling down, or knowing you are not doing the right thing to make me curl up in a ball and shut the real world out.
No one is perfect, and I am sure we all have lapses, some more than others, andsmoe lapses are bigger than other too!
For what its worth, I am a T1, who is a natural lazy glutton! The only way I can live with my diabetes is to think of what not "working at it" will mean for teh rest of my life i have2 very yound children, and like the new Grandparent, time with them is worth any diet in teh world. On a day to day level, all you can do is live day to day....I wake up e very morning and try my best....usually I do well, sometimes just OK, and occasionally, I am embarassed to say! Thsi is not a course I would really advise, however, it stops me throwing in teh towel and saying s*d it, where is the golden syrup?
This really is a good place to come, as you get great advice (usually, except me rambling! :oops: ) but the advice is sometimes brutal, and not what you want to hear....Cugilas post may have caused some tears, but I guess we all know that he is right!

Stick with it. Even if you are "good" 50% of the time, that is an improvement, and something to work on
 
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