If you want stories similar to yours, my wife even before her painkillers put a stop to most of it, saw her grandparents when in her twenties and she witnessed her mother begging for understanding, for being the way she was. Her father died last Boxing Day, and she is still not able to go in his room. She insists it changes and always cold. Yes the room changes back to when he was alive.
no one else, just her dead grandparents and parents!
I was on the ward where my mother died after her second stroke put her in a coma of which she never recovered. My brother was in the med on holiday when it happened and wasn't able to fly back straight away. When my mum was pronounced brain dead and taken off meds and fluids which was day five after the stroke.
My brother got on the next flight available, which was three days away. In the meantime I spent every hour I could sitting with her being there for her. It was hard.
My brother not being at all religious had visited a church on a day out. He was told by a stranger who was sitting outside the church in perfect English that his mother was waiting for him. He phoned me that Evening and was beside himself thinking that my mother had gotten better. Which of course she had not. My mum was just lying there all peaceful but still breathing, I have never experienced something like this before. I was scared, anxious, totally sad and obviously in mourning, sitting there looking for signs of movement or a change in breathing, any movement, anything!
My brother arrived early on a Friday morning, he was relieved that my mum was still with us, we went for a cup of tea, he had five minutes alone with her. And like me resolved to be there for her when she passed.
so, as we went for a cuppa in the cafeteria. Typically in the next five minutes she did pass. Alone. But I would like to think my mum was waiting for my brother to be there before she passed over.
Afterwards I came to realise that it was as if my mum had waited for him. I was told by another brother, that the brother who had flown back was my mum's favourite. I wasn't aware of this. It never occurred to me. But it was strange.
Medically, my mum was alive longer than the doctors and nurses predicted, it was five days after they turned the meds and fluids off. The hospital staff were brilliant in their care and were very obliging to my needs, my questions, my requests.
My period of grief because of the hospital watch, the time I had to realise that my mums time was up, was in some way placating my feelings. There was sadness but relief that my mum never suffered. But I can't help it, just how did these events fall into place? I have no idea.
Finally, my dreams are recurring. I won't go into much detail, but it does seem that I'm living a different life in a different time in a different place. violent, physical and effectively felt as if I had been battered.
I have suffered many times, through bruises, pain, headache, like a really bad hangover. I have found myself on the floor many times, out of bed across the room. My wife won't sleep with me for years because I flail. I have kicked her.
I have discussed this with my doctors, my counsellors, my family and close friends, shown them the bruises and marks of battle.
The worst is I get, a fiery itch in my left upper arm, which I have had for most of my life, no one knows what it is. My tricep is aflame into my bone. I get similar to pins and needles in my lower arm for no reason. I have been seen by a neck and arm specialist because of my spondylitis, but doesn't understand what it is.. I have a bag of ice on tap just in case. Cos nowt else will help.
Now, I have my own theories, I don't understand it, but from young my fascination for certain things, have come from my inquisitive instincts, very similar to my research into Hypoglycaemia. I have found some very interesting things and have been told by one of my counsellors that he has had another with similar experience. And he didn't want to explore it. I did ask, he asked my explanations. I told him of the strange coincidences I had found, he said, that it could be looking for things that aren't there, wishful thinking, putting two and two together and making twenty two!
I know one thing, it's not normal to be found after sleep on the floor, with injuries that cannot be explained. And recurring vivid dreams that have historical coincidence, that I have had no knowledge beforehand, and I wouldn't unless I researched it. Why have I always had a fascination with certain periods of history. My son is WWII mad because of my father. I learned it and got an A level. But my true historical passion is not that part of history. My secondary passion is another period not related to modern times. But I have read so much of it. I live by the sea and obviously naval history was pushed but not me, I was in the library studying Rome, Carthage, Egypt. Then because of O level, the industrial revolution.
You tell me.