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masueuk

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Location
St Andrews, Fife
Type of diabetes
Type 2
Treatment type
Diet only
I was diagnosed with T2 roughly 10 years ago. Since then for most of the time I managed to keep my FBG in the under 6 but it has been steadily creeping up and since the beginning of the year it has been hovering between 9 and at its worst 11.1 a couple of days ago. I have a Freestyle tester despite GP telling me I didnt need it.

I had blood tests done in February and my HbA1c was 65.... I also has a high reading for ALP at 107 (I was planning to be put on a medication for nail fungus and despite a really bad reaction the previous year to another medication for it, the GP had to be really forced to do a blood test). Prior to all of this my HbA1c was never above 50. I was supposed to go back for a 6 week test but due to us Shielding (my other half has leukemia) I have not been anywhere since 18 March. Despite my much higher HbA1c, no one from the doctors has even mentioned it, I only know because I asked them to email me a copy of the results.

I am feeling very down about everything, seem to spend most days either crying or wishing it was my last day, but my other half needs me and I am failing to see how to get out of this mess I am in. He has been keeping himself occupied by making bread, tortillas and doing all the shopping and cooking (he was trained to be a chef). My mood is so low that part of me just doesnt care.

I'm not asking someone to adopt me and take me in hand but can someone who has been where I am just tell me that it is possible to get myself out of this mess and if they have time, point me to a really straightforward plan I could follow.

I'm really sorry if this has triggered anyone, I really dont want to upset anyone.
 
If my hubby spent his days baking bread and making tortillas, I would probably shoot him :)
The smell of freshly baked bread would have me climbing the walls.

Stress doesn't help our numbers, you probably have that in spades.

Are you eating low carb?
 
masueuk said:
I was diagnosed with T2 roughly 10 years ago. Since then for most of the time I managed to keep my FBG in the under 6 but it has been steadily creeping up and since the beginning of the year it has been hovering between 9 and at its worst 11.1 a couple of days ago. I have a Freestyle tester despite GP telling me I didnt need it.

I had blood tests done in February and my HbA1c was 65.... I also has a high reading for ALP at 107 (I was planning to be put on a medication for nail fungus and despite a really bad reaction the previous year to another medication for it, the GP had to be really forced to do a blood test). Prior to all of this my HbA1c was never above 50. I was supposed to go back for a 6 week test but due to us Shielding (my other half has leukemia) I have not been anywhere since 18 March. Despite my much higher HbA1c, no one from the doctors has even mentioned it, I only know because I asked them to email me a copy of the results.

I am feeling very down about everything, seem to spend most days either crying or wishing it was my last day, but my other half needs me and I am failing to see how to get out of this mess I am in. He has been keeping himself occupied by making bread, tortillas and doing all the shopping and cooking (he was trained to be a chef). My mood is so low that part of me just doesnt care.

I'm not asking someone to adopt me and take me in hand but can someone who has been where I am just tell me that it is possible to get myself out of this mess and if they have time, point me to a really straightforward plan I could follow.

I'm really sorry if this has triggered anyone, I really dont want to upset anyone.
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Tell him to research keto baking. You wouldn't be surrounded with good smells of foods you shouldn't eat, just the good stuff you can enjoy too.

Seriously, if your partner can get on board, it's a lot easier to adhere to a low carb diet. https://josekalsbeek.blogspot.com/2019/11/the-nutritional-thingy.html <-- this might help you guys get started.

One very, very important thing to keep in mind: High blood sugars feed into depression and anxiety. Get control of your blood sugars, and your mood will improve too. And not just because it is so empowering to get a grip on this condition.

You'll be okay. Have a little faith.
Hugs,
Jo
 
masueuk said:
I was diagnosed with T2 roughly 10 years ago. Since then for most of the time I managed to keep my FBG in the under 6 but it has been steadily creeping up and since the beginning of the year it has been hovering between 9 and at its worst 11.1 a couple of days ago. I have a Freestyle tester despite GP telling me I didnt need it.

I had blood tests done in February and my HbA1c was 65.... I also has a high reading for ALP at 107 (I was planning to be put on a medication for nail fungus and despite a really bad reaction the previous year to another medication for it, the GP had to be really forced to do a blood test). Prior to all of this my HbA1c was never above 50. I was supposed to go back for a 6 week test but due to us Shielding (my other half has leukemia) I have not been anywhere since 18 March. Despite my much higher HbA1c, no one from the doctors has even mentioned it, I only know because I asked them to email me a copy of the results.

I am feeling very down about everything, seem to spend most days either crying or wishing it was my last day, but my other half needs me and I am failing to see how to get out of this mess I am in. He has been keeping himself occupied by making bread, tortillas and doing all the shopping and cooking (he was trained to be a chef). My mood is so low that part of me just doesnt care.

I'm not asking someone to adopt me and take me in hand but can someone who has been where I am just tell me that it is possible to get myself out of this mess and if they have time, point me to a really straightforward plan I could follow.

I'm really sorry if this has triggered anyone, I really dont want to upset anyone.
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Hugs for feeling so down, @masueuk. Many of us have been where you are now and can empathize with how you feel. You are not alone.

If your profile is correct, you are not on any medication. This is a good thing because you could try a low-carb (or even ketogenic, i.e. about 20g of carbs per day) diet.

My suggestion would be to try to just cut out most carbs (or as many as your comfortable with) and see how this affects your blood sugars (as it seems you already own a meter).

The rule, many of us use on this forum, is to measure before your first bite of a meal and two hours after your first bite. Blood sugars should rise no more than 2 mmol. Using this rule, many of us have seen our blood sugars drop to non-diabetic levels, though this may take some weeks or even a couple of months. So why not hang in there, and see where it takes you.

Also some great advice by @xfieldok and @JoKalsbeek above.
 
masueuk said:
I am feeling very down about everything, seem to spend most days either crying or wishing it was my last day, but my other half needs me and I am failing to see how to get out of this mess I am in.
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Life is very anxious making right now. For me insulin resistance messed with my moods: anxiety up, miserables up. Daily crying is an indication that you may have slipped into depression, failing to see a way out is an indicator of depression. So hugs to you. Depression is a thing and sometimes you need help with it (either medication or counselling or a change in behaviours). As people have said above - can you get your chef partner to engage with low carb? It's an excellent challenge for those who like to prepare food! For yourself I recommend lots of extra self care. Get enough sleep, try a little light exercise, revisit books/films/music that make you feel better (even if it doesn't seem to work). Can you do something creative and/or messy? Children and animals are great partners for these activities. Keep it simple, keep it light. First goal, acknowledge you are hurting. Second goal, ease up on yourself.
 
Gosh thank you all your lovely people. I have spoken to my OH and he made me a lovely big salad with pulled pork for dinner. He said he will work on changing our diet and I will take your other advice on board. I was wondering if I might be getting the liver dump I have read about in here. The day that I took BG at 11.1 when I woke it was 9.8 2 hours after breakfast...or have I got the wrong end of the stick? Not unusual. I have also been worrying about my memory, it is noticeable to close friends and OH that for a long time I am forgetting things too much. Nothing to be done just now as I mentioned it to my GP. I will try to keep busy doing things which distract me, making face coverings from fabric for one. Thank you all again ❤
 
have a look at The Diabetes Weight loss Cookbook at amazon. It may give your hubby some inspiration.
 
Once you have brought your numbers back to more normal levels, your btain fog may will lift.
 
masueuk said:
Gosh thank you all your lovely people. I have spoken to my OH and he made me a lovely big salad with pulled pork for dinner. He said he will work on changing our diet and I will take your other advice on board. I was wondering if I might be getting the liver dump I have read about in here. The day that I took BG at 11.1 when I woke it was 9.8 2 hours after breakfast...or have I got the wrong end of the stick? Not unusual. I have also been worrying about my memory, it is noticeable to close friends and OH that for a long time I am forgetting things too much. Nothing to be done just now as I mentioned it to my GP. I will try to keep busy doing things which distract me, making face coverings from fabric for one. Thank you all again
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Brain fog certainly is "a thing" with high blood sugars. It could also be a side effect of statins, which a lot of newly diagnosed diabetics are automatically put on, whether they need it or not. (A large chunk of our brains is made up out of cholesterol, so it does make sense). Something to mull over. And no, you don't have the wrong end of the stick: Dawn Phenomenon happens to pretty much all of us, but it will gradually get better as your liver figures out it shouldn't dump so much glucose in the morning.
 
Hi,

Great advice. And also great that your husband is willing to explore other options. Looks like he is a keeper ;)
My husband is also incredibly supportive, and willing to accommodate with all my little foibles, so I know just what a huge difference it can make.

So, in the spirit of that, can I suggest that the two of you have a sit down at the computer and look through the recipes on these links. Having to cut carbs is either a hugely resented indignity, that we rail against or a fascinating deep dive into exploring new and delicious food options, and exploring a new way of living that actually makes us feel better than we have for years - and that is feeling better both physically and emotionally, since having high blood glucose affects us deeply both body and mind.

Hopefully you can both pick out a few interesting things to eat from these links:

https://www.dietdoctor.com/low-carb/recipes

https://stepawayfromthecarbs.com/the-ultimate-guide-to-fathead-dough/

https://www.dietdoctor.com/recipes/keto-pizza

https://lifemadesweeter.com/keto-granola/

https://www.lowcarbmaven.com/?s=cake
 
OK, I know this isnt brilliant but think it is a wee bit better.

Took BG when I woke and it was 9.1 (it was 11.1 a few days ago) and two hours after having yogurt with a teaspoon of fruit it was 8.3. Thank you for all the links, other half is studying them today with me so we can change things up.
 
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