I have downgraded diabetes to "mere nuisance," I will not allow it to rule my life. I've got used to eating low carb and it now comes naturally, even if I slip up occasionally. and I am in control of this. It is NOT in control of me. I have the same attitude to housework. "This house is my servant NOT my master, so if it's untidy. I don't care, and if you do, then you don't have to visit.
It's taken me a lifetime to gain this much confidence. I'm now over 60. I don't say things might not have been different if things had happened when I was younger, but I survived infertility testing and that's depressing, whilst watching people, who didn't want them, having babies. I eventually got one by adoption, who is a better daughter than many young folks I know.
I do believe in "a pattern". I can't define it more closely. Some things are meant to be, but " pray to God and keep your powder dry" not "it's my fate and I can't change it"