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Getting through the bad days!

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helen louise

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Type of diabetes
LADA
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Insulin
This is a sort of continuation of the how do you all cope thread I started a couple of weeks back but I am looking for hints & tips for boosting your mood on those days when you just feel like bursting into tears & it all feels like its too much effort :(
 
I wish I knew a good answer but I don't.

I cope by going to bed early (or staying in bed longer), stops me from eating and I can have good dreams and not have to face reality.

I know I am supposed to keep busy and occupy my mind and time with other things but sometimes it's just so **** difficult. It's easier said than done.

Sorry I can't be more help to you but hopefully others will post some good ideas for both of us
 
Think about your DB as a very nasty person with all the habits you hate :twisted: You are not going to let it beat YOU :lol:
CAROL
 
Thinking of the good days will help you get through the bad days :)
 
Attack the housework and get it all done in one go.. Then have a nice long hot soak in the bath..

Finally, pat yourself on the back and congratulate yourself for doing so well. :clap:

Or

I bury myself in a book and forget everything...
 
If I feel like crying, I go ahead and cry. I hate keeping a good cry in and feel better once I've got over it.

Sometimes I go to Church, or pray (like the freakish religious nut-case I clearly am). :angel:

Sometimes I go for a brisk walk, or buy some (low carb) lipstick, to cheer myself up. Or I order something from Amazon. :wink:

Sometimes I just shout at the cat. :twisted:
 
"Sometimes I just shout at the cat." LOL!! :lol:

My poor boyfriend gets a right earbashing sometimes!! I have terrible PMT at the moment, plus an irritable bladder and terrible cravings for cake and chocolate, it's not a good combination! :evil:

I had a really bad crying fit Saturday night, but felt so much better afterwards. You just have to do something nice for yourself that doesn't involve food I suppose. I like to watch a film or read a book, or if I'm having a very bad night I go to bed early, usually in a grump :roll:
 
I've been a type 1 Diabetic for 45yrs now, the way I get through bad days and god I've had thousands of those, people say there is always someone worse off than you and yes that's true, when I'm out I see people in wheelchairs I hear of people with Cancer with only weeks to live then I feel how lucky i am, I know I might go blind and lose my legs and lots of other problems, but that might be in the future not now, I think of others and that gets me through the bad days
 
Sadly thats not working for me as being 6ft under sounds quite appealling at the moment :(

I wish I had never taken the urine sample into the Dr's & at least then I could have lived in ignorant bliss for another 5/10yrs, anything is better than how I feel at the moment
 
helen louise said:
I wish I had never taken the urine sample into the Dr's & at least then I could have lived in ignorant bliss for another 5/10yrs, anything is better than how I feel at the moment
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What is making you so unhappy? Is the treatment/diet depressing you, or the fear of complications, or both?

Ignorance would be sort of bliss but slowly being poisoned isn't really what you'd want is it? And being dead is all a bit too final, when living a slightly modified life is the alternative...

I'm glad you took the urine sample in, for your sake. You can fight back now and you can stop making things worse. You'd have found out eventually anyway and sooner (in this instance) is better than later.

That said, I'm sorry you're so down about it, I've cried a lot myself and it IS horrible to be told you are diabetic. Maybe see your GP? Or maybe you could distract yourself with a hobby, or voluntary work, or classes... Or something.

I'm sure you'll bounce back soon. *hug*
 
Can't pinpoint anything, I have tried thinking about each aspect of diabetes but nothing stands out as causing the sadness, I seem to be in a constant state of tearfulness, its like i have been so consumed with the whole thing that I have just had enough, the only thing I can liken the feeling to is grief, I spend all day crawling the net looking for a cure that no one else has found, I read about the newcastle diet but then you read all the people knocking it because the effects doesn't last long apparently,

I just don't want it anymore :cry:
 
Hi,
If your day to day living is so badly affected then I think you need to ask for help. We all have different levels of coping skills and it is what we have learned from childhood, not something we can easily improve.

There is a checklist of things that you should expect after diagnosis and if you look at the link I have provided you will see that No. 15 says that you are entitled to emotional and psychological support.
I would advise you to go back to your Dr. and explain that your quality of life is affected and you are consumed with your diagnosis and can think of nothing else. He should be able to offer you the support you so obviously need.
http://www.diabetes.org.uk/upload/About ... cklist.pdf

(((hugs)))

CC.
 
catherinecherub said:
Hi,
If your day to day living is so badly affected then I think you need to ask for help. We all have different levels of coping skills and it is what we have learned from childhood, not something we can easily improve.

There is a checklist of things that you should expect after diagnosis and if you look at the link I have provided you will see that No. 15 says that you are entitled to emotional and psychological support.
I would advise you to go back to your Dr. and explain that your quality of life is affected and you are consumed with your diagnosis and can think of nothing else. He should be able to offer you the support you so obviously need.
http://www.diabetes.org.uk/upload/About ... cklist.pdf

(((hugs)))

CC.
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I completely agree with Catherine. It's better for you and your family to get the help you need now rather than let it fester and turn into something really bad. Don't be ashamed, embarrassed or worried that you need some more support we all have to find our own means of coping.

Take care
 
Thank you catherine

I'm hanging on to the hope that I am only feeling like this because I am newly diagnosed (4wks) & once it has sunk in I will feel better
 
The hospital I attend has it's own diabetic physcologist whom I have just started seeing as I get no support at home my family do not really want to know and my friends are alot older than me and have there own illnesses and I am the one with the listening ear
 
I have to admit, Monday evening after diagnosis, I have a huge pity party. I cried buckets. But then I realised that I just had to pick myself up dust myself down and get on with it. I have been fine since. I will admit, I wouldn't be where I am now, without this forum. I have read and read and read, and do feel a little more empowered by the knowledge gained.
 
I think when you're newly diagnosed you fear the worst. I guess you've made changes already so when is you're follow up appointment? Or if nothings planned just book an appointment yourself, I bet you'll be pleasantly surprised by the effect of your changes so far, realising that you can get control without wholesale changes to your life is a weight off your mind. I get through bad days by thinking of the girl I love she hasn't had it easy & I intend being around to be a positive influence in her and her daughters life.
 
Helen Louise,

I just came across your post, and it is kind of akin to my new one ' Good days - not so good days?' http://www.diabetes.co.uk/diabetes-forum/viewtopic.php?f=25&t=28462. Although I do not profess to be as down as you seem to be. I know many kind people have been writing to you and that you are finding cold comfort right now. Having not seen your original post I am not sure of quite where you are at diabetically - I see that you say you have been fairly recently diagnosed, and I assume you diabetes if T2.

I can only say that when I was diagnosed I was devastated and sat and cried like a baby when my GP told me, I just did not even consider diabetes as neither of my parents had it and I did not fit into the 'at risk' category. I felt like I had been handed a life sentence - both parents lived into late 80s and were comparatively fit up until very late years - so assumed I would be too! However, it does appear further down the line genetically and my brother was diagnosed shortly after me.

It really does get better, there are good and bad days to be sure, and you will never stop wanting it to go away and I know that, like me, you know there are people with far more to deal with than diabetes, or with diabetes and suffering so much more, but sometimes that knowledge just does not help. However, as someone else mentioned, if you are really depressed about it then I do advise you seek further help - I am sure your GP would be happy to assist, one of the questions I am regularly asked by diabetic nurse is 'Do I get depressed?', fortunately I can say 'no', most of the time, but I recognise that it is easy to let it get to you.

I do wish you well, and please remember that the people on this site are all in a similar boat, mostly happy for you to share your distress, moans and all that go with it, very supportive and I really do not know that I would cope so well without them. Sometimes I do not come on here so often, other times I would like to ask some questions and also share experiences, plus today, when I felt a bit more than overwhelmed by this wretched thing :x . But please do keep posting and reading replies, and I do hope that eventually things will improve hugs to you.
 
Hi Helen,

Sorry to here you've been feeling so fed up.

I think that there are a few ways of looking at this. Firstly if you are clinically depressed go to your GP as is it not just something that you can snap yourself out of, and you should not feel ashamed. Often if it is clinical depression people telling you to count youself lucky only makes it worse as you cannot help it and then start to feel guilty :(

If however you are fed up with something in particular see if there is something that you can do about it.

And finally I do tend to also look at others less fortunate which is like a kick up the bum. I know of a lady same age as me, she has terminal cancer, her little boy is same age as mine and plays with my son. She is so strong and positive yet I dont think she knows how long she had with her son. I am thankful that my child is healthy and that he is here (things could have been so different). I am thankful for the fact that I am here (my Mum died at 35 yrs old) and I am thankful that I have a future. There are all different levels and causes of feeling down and therefore different ways of dealing with them. Either way I hope you find a way to feel better as I hate to think of anyone feeling miserable....... :)
 
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