Re: Have you ever had mental health issues related to diabet
ElyDave said:
Grace,
I forgot to mention my pre-diagnosis altered mental state, I was definitely mentally affected by my diabetes before it was in control. Not so much depressed, but very short tempered, angry, dealing badly with my my colleagues percieved "idiocy" etc.
I won't say I'm a placid wallflower now, but I'm definitely more stable and more likely to reflect before pushing the reply button on an e-mail.
Ely ... before I turned 39 and all these hormonal changes hit me, I was the most placid person on earth. In fact I'd go so far as to say that the word 'meek' and even 'bovine' comes to mind. And then it felt like I 'woke' up to a lot of things and people and started voicing opinions I didn't even know I had. It must have seemed like I'd had a change of personality to some people, but in all honesty it felt to me like I'd repressed most of my true feelings all of my life and had become a 'people pleaser' and 'forgiver of all trespasses'.
I think the female hormones in particular gear us up to be more passive and malleable in order that we continue to populate the planet! Once my female hormones began to diminish, so did my marriage. I had been madly in love with my husband for 20 years, or so I told myself and then almost overnight, like two reversed magnets, we actually physically repelled each other! I began to realise that 'feelings' aren't perhaps everything that we think they are, and that when all said and done we're all just hormone driven robots who 'think' it's our own hearts and minds that make decisions when in fact, it's the balance of hormones that makes us who we are.
That goes for men as well as women.
I laugh with my younger colleagues at work when they ask me why I never remarried and I tell them that in all honesty, that because of hormone fluctuations, I've never fancied anyone enough to even want to even go on a date, I'd rather have a cup of tea and a biscuit and the thought of having to live with another person banging around the house, stirring their tea noisily in my kitchen when I'm watching Emmerdale, talking about stuff I'm not interested in, leaving their **** for me to tidy up and being totally invisible to them most of the time - fills me with dread now, whereas in my youth I'd have been more than happy, because of hormones, to 'take care of' the men in my life to a great extent. So in some ways, I think hormone issues might actually be a blessing for some women, perhaps natures way of saying "Oi! You're a bit TOO nice, time to take some of these hormones away before you get trampled into the ground."
:wave: