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Help! I have so much weight to lose

Hi Zand

I can't offer you any specific advice at the moment other than to say hang in there and keep communicating (that's courageous in itself) - a number of your posts must have been very hard to make. The main thing is to get back on the (or a new) programme as soon as you can. You know you can rely on the support and encouragement of many on here.
Yes they were very hard to make.......I have been struggling for a while. Thank you for noticing, I'm just so upset that I binged today, I haven't done that for a very long time. I'm usually so mad at myself if I eat one little thing that I shouldn't and today I just lost it. Thank you for your kind words, they made me cry............:)
 
I am attending class when I can. I'm struggling with the heat so I can't do as much exercise, or as strenuous exercise as I would like. When I say my eating hasn't been right, I've eaten a couple of things I regretted when I visited my Aunt, and had some bread just over a week ago and some beer a couple of weeks ago, but the rest of the time I've stuck to the plan fairly well......Except for today. Today was my first real 'self-sabotage' eating episode for a very long time. I was so fed up with having put on so much weight and couldn't see my way past this stumbling block so yes today (after weighing) I ate a 200g bar of Turkish delight (haven't eaten that much chocolate for maybe 3 years. Also 3 packs of plain crisps and 1 of cheese and onion and 3 peaches. I haven't eaten any crisps or choc since starting this diet in April. The reason I ate it all was that I had put on weight already. It wasn't comfort eating, it was different.

I am depressed because I know what I want to do and can't do it. I thought having my hair cut might cheer me up. I was wrong, the hairdresser confirmed what I was already knew really, and that is that I have lost clumps of hair, probably due to stress. She doesn't think it is the metformin causing it.

The good thing is that this is the point when I would normally walk away and I'm not doing that, but I am hurting right now. I will adapt the old plan when I get my strength back

Sorry about the hair loss- my friend had something similar at a time of great stress- her GP did give her something I think - but it took that period of stress to die down before it was back to normal. It might be worth having the GP run some bloods as your thyroid might be playing up.
I know it's easy for me to say, but just put all that emotional eating behind you and call tomorrow a fresh start.I think it is hard when we have other issues to tackle as well as the diabetes as often they make everything else that much harder. Try not to beat yourself up over all of this- maybe set smaller goals that you can achieve quickly just to boost your self-belief.
The heat is a killer though I have managed to keep going- I think having lost some weight has helped me cope better this year- I have a really cheap exercise bike that I use indoors with the curtains closed to keep room cooler and that has helped. I do what I can on it when I can- sometimes a big chunk other times 4 shorter blocks, depending how I feel and time. I am finding that the exercise is helping my mood which was at rock bottom prior to diagnosis.
I think you just have to keep plugging on- it's all any of us can do. Perhaps you could get some counselling via your surgery that might help you overcome the mental roadblocks that you are coming across?
 
Big hugs to you, Zand. I so know the self-sabotage thing.

So you've binged - it happens - but not all time. Mostly you've been doing well and you know that you can get back there. It is just a blip and will slow you down this week, but that's not forever. You can get back on track.

I'm struggling a bit a the moment, which is why I posted asking for lovely low carb meal that are also low cal - but I got very few replies, so I'm having to invent my own. Eating nice, yummy things will keep me from the carbs sweet stuff.

I really don't think the heat is helping. I know it's making me feel just one huge sweating lump. I struggled out walking the dog today and just wanted to lie down and hide away somewhere cool (and eat ice-cream - Oh no - did I say that out loud?)..
 
OK so this is me trying to keep communicating. Hubby has been really lovely and supportive today. This made me cry again.
 
OK so this is me trying to keep communicating. Hubby has been really lovely and supportive today. This made me cry again.

Oh dear. I know what that's like. Just try and be kind to yourself and take support when offered.
 
Zand it may help you to know that I also have been having a terrible week. It is so hot here that I seem to have thrown all dietary control out of the window why I don't know as I have been here 13 years and should be used to it by now. All I have been eating is ice cream ! Made the mistake of stocking up in Lidls the other day for my husband and I have made a substantial hole in the cornettos and Lollies. This is so unlike me maybe it's the stress of waiting for the phone call for my operation who knows but I can't keep this up I feel bloated and horrible .
I think we both need to take a deep breath put behind us this blip in our control and start again tomorrow . I am willing to give it a go if you are !


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Yes, but you needn't think I'm letting some strange woman measure me! I am still having nightmares at what happened at the airport on the way to Boston. You should be able to choose whether you want a man or a woman feeling your boobs for like.... 5 minutes! I went to pieces. It really was not nice.
I won't fly KLM again for a similar reason. A couple of years ago I was "frisked" by a woman at schipol ... Below the waist, with hands, by a woman!!! I think she was bored that day. Disgusting ... Shocked me as I wasn't expecting it.



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Zand it may help you to know that I also have been having a terrible week. It is so hot here that I seem to have thrown all dietary control out of the window why I don't know as I have been here 13 years and should be used to it by now. All I have been eating is ice cream ! Made the mistake of stocking up in Lidls the other day for my husband and I have made a substantial hole in the cornettos and Lollies. This is so unlike me maybe it's the stress of waiting for the phone call for my operation who knows but I can't keep this up I feel bloated and horrible .
I think we both need to take a deep breath put behind us this blip in our control and start again tomorrow . I am willing to give it a go if you are !


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Yes Connie...please can we both try together, that would be really helpful. Now tomorrow I have to wise up a bit and not eat what my Aunt wants me to eat. And I hope you get your phone call very soon because it is undoubtedly what's causing your stress at the moment. Thanks for this, I feel brighter already.:)
 
I won't fly KLM again for a similar reason. A couple of years ago I was "frisked" by a woman at schipol ... Below the waist, with hands, by a woman!!! I think she was bored that day. Disgusting ... Shocked me as I wasn't expecting it.

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Well if it happens again next week I shall go ballistic 'cos I really don't like it.....below the waist though, eeuggh. poor you! Now I'm used to being frisked at footie grounds and that's OK.....except in Italy
 
Yes me too, oh, I have several packs of crisps and quavers left.....Oh I'll think of something to do with them. OK tomorrow I start using myfitnesspal again because it makes me drink enough water! Thanks Connie:)
 
Dear Zand

I know how you are feeling because I've been there so many times in the past. Reality ... How many calories in total for the crisps and Turkish delight? Probably not more than the 3500 calories that = 1lb.

Now 1lb is nothing in the grand scheme of things. So, you're ready for that, if it comes. But actually you may find that the 3lbs might be partly water retention. You may even find you break even next week or lose a pound. Also be prepared for that pound on calculated earlier.

So ... Go to get weighed next week and whatever the outcome, you'll be ready for it. Laugh in it's face!!! What's done is done ... But it can be undone. 32lb ... 29lb ... Whichever way you look at it, it's a great achievement.

Well done!!!

Don't forget to drink water. :-)


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Yes me too, oh, I have several packs of crisps and quavers left.....Oh I'll think of something to do with them. OK tomorrow I start using myfitnesspal again because it makes me drink enough water! Thanks Connie:)
Put them on the kitchen floor.
Jump up and down on them.
Sweep it all up.
It's called sporty floor-ty
:-)


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Dear Zand

I know how you are feeling because I've been there so many times in the past. Reality ... How many calories in total for the crisps and Turkish delight? Probably not more than the 3500 calories that = 1lb.

Now 1lb is nothing in the grand scheme of things. So, you're ready for that, if it comes. But actually you may find that the 3lbs might be partly water retention. You may even find you break even next week or lose a pound. Also be prepared for that pound on calculated earlier.

So ... Go to get weighed next week and whatever the outcome, you'll be ready for it. Laugh in it's face!!! What's done is done ... But it can be undone. 32lb ... 29lb ... Whichever way you look at it, it's a great achievement.

Well done!!!

Don't forget to drink water. :)


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I've just fished the wrappers out of the bin and added together with the rest of the food I've eaten today it comes to 2110 calories....and I'm meant to be having at least 1200, so that's not too awful is it?

Thanks, I just haven't binged for so long it really threw me this time.

Yes, drink the drink...I've just started using myfitnesspal to calculate the rest of my food today and that will remind me to drink enough from now on.

Yay, thanks everyone I'm back again:)
 
I knew if I waited long enough everyone would say what I wanted to say but in much better words...and I wonder where my son gets his communication problems from. Seriously though you have done great Zand and that is a fantastic weight loss. Tomorrow is another day:)
 
I knew if I waited long enough everyone would say what I wanted to say but in much better words...and I wonder where my son gets his communication problems from. Seriously though you have done great Zand and that is a fantastic weight loss. Tomorrow is another day:)
I don't know why you worry about what to say...you always say it perfectly! Yes tomorrow is another day, and to think I usually walk away from a diet/eating plan after the first binge!

Thanks guys....I nearly didn't share this with you all 'cos I was too ashamed.:rolleyes:
 
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