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JShep07

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Type of diabetes
Type 1
Hi guys my names josh and I have been diabetic for 14 years and am only 20! I am really struggling with it and feel like I can't talk to any of my friends or family about it without them treating me differently :( how do you all cope with it?
 
Hi @JShep07 ,

Welcome to the forum..

My personal coping mechanism? (On anything.)

I just take one of these... Then and adorn whatever the issue is...

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I'm all ears... :)

Seriously. Are you having specific diabetes issues right now?
 
i don't want to burden you with my problems but thankyou so much for wanting to help :) I really do appreciate it
 
I don't talk to anyone about it.
That's what this place is for.
Would you feel the need to tell a girl in the bar .... I have a boil on my bum.
Probably not.
How about I've got crohn's disease or irritable bowel syndrome?
My piles have been bleeding for days?
I'm mentally unstable can you help me?
Why do people want to talk about these things beyond family?
 
I do feel for you youngsters getting stuff before you've even begun.
Life is very unfair.
 
Hey @JShep07
welcome to the forum.

it is great for us to have you on the forum , there are a lot of young people like yourself that want to talk with similar aged D's.

I don't fit the age criteria but I am a friendly set of ears if you want to talk.

I have never had any friends or family that understand the life we live in .

hope you keep posting with us

all the best !!
 
Hi @JShep07 - Do you feel like you might have a bit of burnout going on?

There are several threads talking about it on the forum. This is just one, for example.

I'm sorry you're feeling so rough.
 
Hey, Josh. This is who we are now. Try not to be ashamed or embarrassed. If you can, use this opportunity to educate your family and friends. I never knew much about T1 before I was diagnosed. You will never be able to control how they treat you, but I think the more they know, they more they will adjust. It's really their problem. Try to find a support group and/or a meet-up (not sure if they have them where you live) with others in your age group.
 
Hi Josh
There's a section on here for young people / adults. You'll find you're not alone I'm sure and you can perhaps develop some 'virtual' friends.
As you can see from my photo I'm an old git (or middle-aged git at least) but I, like many others on here, are friendly and approachable. Sometimes it's hard to share things with those close to you and it's easier to talk to strangers. Perversely some strangers can be more friendly than friends. I would suggest that two of the reasons that your family and friends are not as receptive to you as they may be is that a) they don't know HOW to react to your condition and b) they don't understand it.
When my wife was diagnosed with a life-threatening illness (not diabetes) some of her friends disappeared. Most were scared and simply didn't know what to say, some were not friends at all. She came through thankfully and the original friends who stuck with her are now better friends, and she's made new ones.
You say your friends treat you differently. Well, you are different. You're probably stronger. To have coped with your condition for so long you are bloody strong. You can't tell people how to react to you, all you can do is be you. Ultimately people will like and admire you for who you are, not for what they want you to be.
Keep going and good luck. Keep popping back here for a chat.
 
Hi @JShep07
What do you want to say to them? And how would you like them to respond in an ideal world?
 
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