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I have a new partner with diabetes, need help!

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angharad-r

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Hello! I hope someone can help me,

I have been seeing my partner for the past 10 months and he has type 2 diabetes which he controlls by eating healthly and through exercise. He is 43 and I am 27. As things are getting serious and we are looking to move in together, he has begun stressing about the long term implications of his diabetes on our relationship.

He is worried that in a few years he may become ill and that I will be "lumbered" with him whilst I am still in "my prime" as he puts it. I have tried to re-assure him that I am here for him regardless of what happens and will look after him. He says I need to think long and hard about what our future could be like if he was taken ill so I am asking you to give me an idea of what I am getting myself into. I will stick with him anyway, I just want to show him that I understand and try to settle his fears. I know everyones different but would appreciate it if some of you could give me some advice based on your experiences.

Thanks for reading!
 
No one can predict the future but if your partner takes good care of himself and keeps tight control on his BS he has every chance of a long and happy life - My dad was about the same age when he was diagnosed and he is now a very fit 75 yr old enjoying his retirement to the full. Lifes too short for what ifs - go out and get on with enjoying your lives together and making each other happy :D
 
Hello, Angharad.

I'm 71 & have been diabetic 10 years. I still play a good game of tennis & table tennis.

At 50, with no specific health problems, I was inactive & 2 st overweight, couldn't run for a bus, & felt I was approaching late middle age. I'm a lot fitter now. At that point I joined a tennis club - I felt that I had to take up an activity I enjoyed & could maintain. Try to do a physical & other activities together.

With care, sensible diet & physical activity, he should stay healthy. It will be important to note any signs of "ageing" & NOT accept them as signs of ageing but as conditions to be tackled. Conditions like sleepiness, thirst, aches & pains may be signs of treatable conditions.
 
I'll have what Ian D is having, ******** I've already got it. Keep it up Ian, you almost inspired me to get off the couch.
 
Hi Angharad,

I think we all have these concerns when there is a age differential in relationships, more so when one also has a condition like diabetes. At 43, provided he looks after himself and keeps good control of his diabetes, which he obviously does by eating a healthy diet and exercise, there is no reason why he shouldn't lead a full and healthy life.

In the mean time, why don't you search this site and read up on type 2 diabetes, there are some good books to be found in most library's too. It is nice that you have taken a interest in your partners health, and can see beyond his condition, I would say he is a very lucky man!

Good luck and I hope you both have a long and happy life together! :D

Nigel
 
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