I have given up

[Chook]

Patrick, why not make a list of the foods you enjoy, go to a supermarket and get them then just eat what you feel like for a while. You can sort out your preferred way of eating later. Right now you just need to learn to enjoy eating again.

An autistic man i used to support to live in the community used to get very stressed over work and, in particular, his personal relationships and, working together, we found he felt more grounded and secure when he had strict meal times and chose his meals from a very restricted list of foods. Maybe you could try the same.​

 

[NicoleC1971]

I don't feel confident about doing anything on a daily basis.

My better half looks after me but has to remind me to take meds, eat anything, even dress appropriately...my choice of colours is apparently a bit "strong" lol..

I lost all my confidence in myself many years ago. I went from someone who taught himself to read hieroglyphs to someone who no longer can because two strokes messed up my head and anhedonia came in and ruined the rest. Then fibromyalgia decided it was missing out on the fun and wrecked the physical side of my life.

Patrick, I'll be a little challenging here but is your answer to my question of what can you do, nothing or are you just focussing on your limitations, which sound truly tough, and asking for permission to give up?

 

[Deleted Account]

Well I cant take any time off nor be signed off. Works totally manic. We already have three people off and we are snowed under with work which has suddenly gone haywire. Its just how it is and whilst I was off things just exploded.

Unless you own the company you work for, the situation at work is not your fault, and should not be your problem. Going back before you are physically or mentally ready is wrong. It could make your recovery longer, it could cause a flare up in the future, could cause you to make a mistake (which will cost your employer) and your employer has a duty of care to their employees ... and that includes you.

I believe, you should be focusing on sorting yourself out and, once you have done that, you can think about work. Until then, don't let anyone make problems at work be your problems no matter how bad they seem.

 

[lovinglife]

I'm already on the max dose of metformin.

Its just food in general. Taking an already restricted spectrum of foods I will eat (including some bad stuff) and then squeezing it even more. Then going back to bad habits, feeling guilty, doing that more, then trying to stop, then just losing interest in food...or 95% of it.

I want to enjoy LCHF and I did for a while but now there's nothing left and even the bad stuff upsets me because I know I shouldn't eat it so don't really enjoy it then try to be good...and it falls apart again.

There are lots more medications that can help you besides metformin - even if it's just short term - I really do think you need to speak to your GP about more help all round. Don't put the rest of health in jeopardy by forcing yourself to eat LCHF - imho you have a lot more going on to be punishing yourself about the food you can face being bad. At the moment the priority is you begin to eat and get your nutrition and feeling better about yourself.

 

[Patrick66]

Patrick, why not make a list of the foods you enjoy, go to a supermarket and get them then just eat what you feel like for a while. You can sort out your preferred way of eating later. Right now you just need to learn to enjoy eating again.

An autistic man i used to support to live in the community used to get very stressed over work and, in particular, his personal relationships and, working together, we found he felt more grounded and secure when he had strict meal times and chose his meals from a very restricted list of foods. Maybe you could try the same.​

That’s a nice idea but there’s so little I like that the list would be very short and, unfortunately, what I like today I won’t want tomorrow.

 

[Patrick66]

Patrick, I'll be a little challenging here but is your answer to my question of what can you do, nothing or are you just focussing on your limitations, which sound truly tough, and asking for permission to give up?

No, my answer is that I’ve lost all confidence in myself.

 

[Patrick66]

There are lots more medications that can help you besides metformin - even if it's just short term - I really do think you need to speak to your GP about more help all round. Don't put the rest of health in jeopardy by forcing yourself to eat LCHF - imho you have a lot more going on to be punishing yourself about the food you can face being bad. At the moment the priority is you begin to eat and get your nutrition and feeling better about yourself.

I’ve been told that the medication changes...the only ones they’ll sanction, will result in my having to give up my driving licence which will drive up our car insurance...every thing has a knock on effect.

 

[lovinglife]

I’ve been told that the medication changes...the only ones they’ll sanction, will result in my having to give up my driving licence which will drive up our car insurance...every thing has a knock on effect.

i think you are being given a lot of misinformation- you really do need to see your GP and ask for some help with both your diabetes management and your mental health issues. I don't know of any drug for diabetes where you have to totally give up your licence. What are the drugs they've said they'd sanction?

 

[Mbaker]

Hi Parrick, you are not much older than me. I wish you lived in Essex, as you like walking and weight training, so I would invite you for some light workouts...

Have you considered trying some carnivory. I often treat myself to a quality sirloin and ribeye and "get" what some say about how that gorgeous creaminess makes me feel - just an idea.

 

[DCUKMod]

Well I cant take any time off nor be signed off. Works totally manic. We already have three people off and we are snowed under with work which has suddenly gone haywire. Its just how it is and whilst I was off things just exploded.

Unfortunately I'm just so disillusioned with the job and other things its self-perpetuating badness all round. The wounds healed nicely now so there's no physical reason to be off and mentally I'm just as bad as I have ever been and being off, at home, with no focus or routine, can be even worse.

Patrick, I have never, ever had a job that wasn't back to back bonkersness, however this poem says it all:

 

[Chook]

That’s a nice idea but there’s so little I like that the list would be very short and, unfortunately, what I like today I won’t want tomorrow.

That's okay - just get what you feel like each day until you are in the right head place to plan further in advance.

Straight talking now. You've had some good ideas suggested here all of which you've discounted. I can't think of anything else anyone can suggest to help you move forward out of this. You haven't let anyone down but noone else can make the next move for you, that's up to you. As I see it you can either carry on looking at all the negatives (as you see them) or make a start on the rest of your life and I think that will involve asking your doctor for help.

 

[lucylocket61]

I strived because I had an operation to do it for; a target. But now I just don't feel like I can manage which only makes things worse.

Post anesthetic depression is a thing. So is post infection depression a thing. Sometimes our bodies react to injury, operations and illness by shutting down and making us feel very low. Its a real and horrible thing. Can you give yourself a few weeks of not struggling, so you can start to regain your strength from your op and infection?

You are welcome here, whether you low carb or anything else. You are part of this community and I, for one, will miss you if you go.

This forum is not mainly about who eats what, although it can sometimes seem like it. The MAIN focus of this forum is for a group of people, who happen to have various types of Diabetes, to support and bond with each other.

 

[Patrick66]

i think you are being given a lot of misinformation- you really do need to see your GP and ask for some help with both your diabetes management and your mental health issues. I don't know of any drug for diabetes where you have to totally give up your licence. What are the drugs they've said they'd sanction?

Not sure.

Everytime my HbA1c goes up I get dark looks and threatened with new drugs or injecting insulin...which, being needle phobic, just wouldn’t work.

My diabetes was being managed, if not brilliantly, then...not so bad. But getting to speak to someone who knows is hard especially as my last test was good...so..they’re not really interested unless my next test is high.

 

[Patrick66]

Hi Parrick, you are not much older than me. I wish you lived in Essex, as you like walking and weight training, so I would invite you for some light workouts...

Have you considered trying some carnivory. I often treat myself to a quality sirloin and ribeye and "get" what some say about how that gorgeous creaminess makes me feel - just an idea.

Ah, if I could afford such things. But knowing my luck I would buy some and then not be able to face it.
I do eat a lot of meat. Well, quite a lot.