It's not a competition but feeling fed up

[douglas99]

Your post is understood Douglas, and I thank you for what you've said. We sound similar in some ways, despite my outburst yesterday (which was on the tail of a really tough couple of phone calls), I try and live in the moment, and I truly value the strength of my family.

I'm on another couple of unrelated forums, for Carers and for those with depression and anxiety issues - oh, and a cancer one. I try and give back too, not out of obligation, but because I know I can sometimes offer some help. I've come across some real ar*eholes, but have met some amazing people.

Anyway, enough of all that. Thanks for your post, and my very best wishes for you and yours too.

Thank you for your understanding, and all the best for the future.

 

[HEG]

There are a couple of things that you might like to consider.
Resistant starch - If you cook potatoes, pasta etc and then, once cold, put in the fridge overnight then when you re-heat, you will have reduced significantly the amount of nasty carbs and no one the wiser.
Disguise the veg. I got good at this with my children and grandchildren. For example tonight we are having stuffed ham:
Beat eggs, scramble in butter season with s and p, adding grated cheese, chopped tomato, then cooked mushroom, then fold in some baby spinach and chopped parsley. Now put mix onto slices of ham, roll up, put in a dish and then under the grill until the ham starts to brown - what's not to like.

As previously mentioned, look up some scrumpy LCHF recipes and just put them on the table.

You are doing so well. Keep smiling.

Going to try the reheat carb approach on him as that would not make his foods too different. Doctors called today to say they want him to have another blood test for cholesterol as the first one went wrong. so what joy.

 

[ladybird64]

That's a hell of a lot to cope with and you have put it very eloquently.
Does your husband really know how you feel ?
How about writing something like this for him ? Sometimes seeing it in black and white can have an effect.
Sending hugs x

Daisy, sorry I didn't answer yesterday. Yes, he does. But like so many, although he doesn't say it specifically, he thinks nothing bad will happen to him. I'm very much hoping the eye issue isn't serious but have a nasty feeling it may be connected.

HEG - hoping things get easier for you. X

 

[dunelm]

Going to try the reheat carb approach on him as that would not make his foods too different. Doctors called today to say they want him to have another blood test for cholesterol as the first one went wrong. so what joy.

I find that it works best for me if I leave the cooled pasta or potato in the fridge overnight and all the next day until dinner time. I think portion size is important and new potatoes cooked in their skins seems to work better than other potatoes. You could also try making mash with instant potato and putting that in the fridge and then adding some mashed cauliflower when re-heating to cut the bulk. I check my blood before I eat and then after one then two hours and so far there has not been a spike. However, it's a journey so every little step forward helps. Best of luck.

 

[nomoredonuts]

I have been guilty of trumpeting my success - in dropping from 100+ at diagnosis to 41 after six months - to my Scottish T2 neighbour. I have eaten out with him where he blatantly enjoys a Baileys bread-and-butter pudding while I have cheese. His nightcap is a glass or three of scotch. In short like the OP's other half, he is doing most things wrong. When I met him over the garden fence last week, smugly enquiring about his latest A1c, he said " it's come down so far they've halved my medication".
Too right life ain't fair!