@donnellysdogs .....thought a Stilton salad would be good for him tonight....opted for cheese rather than the usual pork pie!....am doing some new potatoes for some potato salad for myself (have got an individual quiche for myself I bought the other day) but he is happy to pass on the potatoes...did think some walnuts would go well with his Stilton but he said no to that idea...Glad you have got out Molly and spent sometime (and money) on present buying for your boys.
Look at total carb value Molly for buying pre made foods. If they've got potatoes or rice or pasta in they'll be higher carbs..
Dods OH like cheese by itself? If having the main meal with a heavier load of carbs than say 30-50g try to have a pudding of just cheese.. Or defrosted berries with cream or yogurt.
Glad you took some me time...
@donnellysdogs .....thought a Stilton salad would be good for him tonight....opted for cheese rather than the usual pork pie!....am doing some new potatoes for some potato salad for myself (have got an individual quiche for myself I bought the other day) but he is happy to pass on the potatoes...did think some walnuts would go well with his Stilton but he said no to that idea...
Will take a look at some other ideas later on....
When we saw the diabetic nurse a couple of weeks ago I asked the question about what to do if I had any worries or concerns whilst waiting for the referral appointment and she did say that I could contact her / speak to her…..I do feel that this would be helpful ….
This morning I popped into the surgery to see when it would be convenient to have a quick word with her but it seems that it is not that easy….I had hoped that perhaps a quick conversation at the end of one of her clinics would allow me to ask a couple of quick questions off the record and set my mind at rest but but it seems that it is not that straightforward…
…. the earliest ‘appointment’ that the receptionist could offer me was 22nd December….I didn’t really want an appointment ….just wanted to ask a couple of quick questions…
Furthermore she has had to make the appointment in my partners name but attach a note to say that I would be attending to discuss my concerns….not even sure if this is allowed but did briefly explain the circumstances…
Just wondering if there is anything else I could do…..I remember that @alliebee mentioned that it would not be breaking patient confidentiality if I were to write to the nurse but not sure that I want to formally write it down…
I am concerned that his blood sugars are in the high teens and that his referral appointment is not until the end of January / his current medication is clearly not sufficient and not having the effect of reducing his blood sugar levels and the damage it is doing in the meantime…..and he is not testing etc so I have no idea if it is reaching dangerously high levels..…but not sure that I want to commit this to paper and send it to the nurse…
Any suggestions as to what I should do / what would other people do….thanks
You don't want to write it down, in a confidential letter to a confidentiality-bound medical professional, but you are willing to write it down and post it on the world wide web, with the potential for anyone and everyone reading it, and this in favour of having a discussion with your husband?
I should really stop reading this thread. I'm actually starting to feel sorry for the poor bloke..........
Molly; at what stage are you going to have any form of direct conversation with your husband? That, in my view, should be your priority action right now. You want everyone else to act, and rally round him, but don't want to trouble him with the reality of his pretty serious situation.
That may well be but posting on here for advice and ignoring it is not helping the man is it.Probably because it's an easier outlet to post on here for Molly as some people cannot face( or find) confrontations very difficult, even though as seen by us, the onlookers, something that must be said...........
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That may well be but posting on here for advice and ignoring it is not helping the man is it.
I haven't read all of this thread, just the beginning and these last 2 pages. To me the key is his depression. It is so hard to function at all if you are depressed and it feels like no-one else understands. It is a horrible place to be, your husband needs counselling and as someone else has said his medication needs changing or tweaking. If you have never been depressed yourself you cannot understand this. It's like being half alive, just existing from day to day. At times it's like being nothing at all. It doesn't just go away without help. How did I know I needed help? A couple of people from this forum told me so, and they listened to me. Your husband needs to seek help for himself, you can support him but you can't do it for him.
I haven't read all of this thread, just the beginning and these last 2 pages. To me the key is his depression. It is so hard to function at all if you are depressed and it feels like no-one else understands. It is a horrible place to be, your husband needs counselling and as someone else has said his medication needs changing or tweaking. If you have never been depressed yourself you cannot understand this. It's like being half alive, just existing from day to day. At times it's like being nothing at all. It doesn't just go away without help. How did I know I needed help? A couple of people from this forum told me so, and they listened to me. Your husband needs to seek help for himself, you can support him but you can't do it for him.
Hi, @Molly56 seems there is now a lot of impatience with you Molly, from this forum, as you have taken a lot of advice but very rarely acted upon it.
I am maybe being a little brutal here, but I get the feeling that by you posting on here and talking about 'your' problems when it is really your OH who has all the problems not you, your supposed to be passing this information back to him to help his circumstances but that is not how it is.
I believe that you are consistently posting on here because it actually relieves some of the guilt of not being able to help him directly.
Confrontation is and will be the only way, and you should have lots of fantastic ammunition that you could pass onto him which would help him and he needs help now from what you have explained.
I have explained this to Molly on at least 2 occasions she will not act on anything.
I won't be commenting on this thread anymore.........
Hi, @Molly56 seems there is now a lot of impatience with you Molly, from this forum, as you have taken a lot of advice but very rarely acted upon it.
I am maybe being a little brutal here, but I get the feeling that by you posting on here and talking about 'your' problems when it is really your OH who has all the problems not you, your supposed to be passing this information back to him to help his circumstances but that is not how it is.
I believe that you are consistently posting on here because it actually relieves some of the guilt of not being able to help him directly.
Confrontation is and will be the only way, and you should have lots of fantastic ammunition that you could pass onto him which would help him and he needs help now from what you have explained.
I have explained this to Molly on at least 2 occasions she will not act on anything.
I won't be commenting on this thread anymore.........
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