Probably because it's an easier outlet to post on here for Molly as some people cannot face( or find) confrontations very difficult, even though as seen by us, the onlookers, something that must be said...........
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Molly the question has been asked if you actually want help and are prepared to stand up and be counted where your partner is co concerned. If your answer is no, than please have the decency to let the good people on here know so that they don't waste their time or energy unnecessarily. If you are just looking for friendship be honest about it. If you take The trouble to read through what has been written by so many caring people on here you will realise that friendship would have been offered without the need to solicit help when you have no plans to action any of the suggestions.@Robinredbreast ...thank you.......I think you have summed this up perfectly...I know that many people have said that this is the way to go but confrontation is not in my nature, ......never has been and probably never will be........its just not the way I am....
It is for this reason that I have found the last couple of days particularly difficult and distressing given the messages posted on this thread on Friday evening...whilst I would love to give a response (and feel I need to reply to those that posted) I am concerned that what I say will easily be misinterpreted...
.....I hope that in time I can give a sensible and coherent response to what was said but for now will just leave it as this....
Molly the question has been asked if you actually want help and are prepared to stand up and be counted where your partner is co concerned. If your answer is no, than please have the decency to let the good people on here know so that they don't waste their time or energy unnecessarily. If you are just looking for friendship be honest about it. If you take The trouble to read through what has been written by so many caring people on here you will realise that friendship would have been offered without the need to solicit help when you have no plans to action any of the suggestions.
This is a community that cares, and you should understand that feelings will always run high especially as most of us understand the danger that your other half is in. Perhaps you would be better off starting a thread about you and leaving this thread to the archives..
Well said Pip.....Hi Molly I may not be as articulate as some and i hope I use the correct words here that I mean to. It's not meant to distress you. I'm sure that those who have posted these past few days have not intended this either.
We're all diabetics here and know the dangers of high bs. I'm reasonably new at this but seeing how diabetes has affected others in my family, I know that I never want to suffer the neuropathys and various other problems they all suffer from if I can do anything to avoid it.
It's for this reason I have tried to advise you, both on what I know of diabetes and a couple of other health problems too from personal experience.
Of course it's upto you whether you take any advice given and act upon it, but I myself feel that you have been given informative advice from some of the best diabetic advisors there is. That's why us newly diagnosed all come here.
I for one, have become increasingly distressed over a few of your recent posts and I won't repeat which ones again, but I feel that now, there's no more advice you can be given that you've not already received concerning your partners health problems and lack of commitment to his own health.
This thread has indeed run it's course and I for one will no longer be participating. I've tried to help you by reliving some of my own health problems and experiences in the hope that it might be of some good but although it's 'good to talk' it's not nice to remember certain times in your life that maybe are best forgotten.
If it's genuine advice, that you are willing to act upon, concerning your partners diabetes then we are here for you. If it's just a place to release your frustration, without asking for advice on him then I'm sure you could start a thread on this and others in your situation will respond and you can all have a 'moan' together, and maybe you will see how others are/have coped and got through it.
I wish you well Molly and hope you do find a conclusion to your dilemma.
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@Mike D .....this is exactly my point.....I just want everyone to draw a line and move on ...but no-one seems to see that.....don't know what else I can say or how else to put it...Hi Molly
With the greatest of respect, that's a "go nowhere" message and repeats much of what you've said previously. This is going around in ever diminishing circles.
Sorry to say it, but it's useless to those that have taken their time to support you. I'm amazed (call that STUNNED) at the patience of so many posters (GREAT people) as I'm sure as heck I couldn't have put up with this.
Guarantee you this is my first and very last message on this topic.
@Mike D .....this is exactly my point.....I just want everyone to draw a line and move on ...but no-one seems to see that.....don't know what else I can say or how else to put it...
@FergusCrawford .....yes it has helped .....unfortunately at the moment I am too frightened to say anymore even though my partner is not well and I would usually seek words of advice from other members...@Molly56
Good luck , However things go!
Perhaps being able to "vent" has helped you to cope with the situation!
Is it possible to IGNORE a thread?
I've been trying to avoid it for weeks. But every time I see it bumped up to the top of the list, I find myself clicking on it with a kind of horrified fascination. Rather like watching one of those slow motion car crashes, with dummies.
Except, Mollie, that you and your partner are very real, and in a very unfortunate circumstance - which, despite 600 posts and months of 'support' has deteriorated significantly.
Clearly, this thread is not helping the situation.
In fact, I think the well meaning posts are giving Mollie a way of avoiding her situation and enabling her to blow off steam in what is clearly not a constructive way.
Unfortunately, Molly seems determined to continue with this thread (as is her choice), and the moderators are willing to let it run its course (as is their choice).
I can only encourage everyone to make their own choice - and not respond.
Mollie, I would enjoy the chance to interact with both you and your partner on the many other threads and other subjects.
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