I am 58 and with no partner because of df and not likely to get one,ive tried everything but nothing works so that's that.
Myself and Mrs G have now been married for 42 years. The bond between us does not depend on such matters. We have been through very good times and some truly awful times.
Every thing that life has thrown at us has made us stronger and closer we are above all the best friend either of us have.
And I do not believe there is anything on God's Earth that can brake that bond.
We can discuss anything and if there is a problem together we can sort it out so no I am not embarrassed by this topic as I have already discussed with the only other person who is affected by it.
Must add I see no reason that should prevent any one commenting in this thread male or female
In a previous post I welcomed the ladies to post on this thread - but now the thread seems to have dried up and I wonder if it is because ladies are posting on something which men feel uneasy talking about.
I personally must admit to choosing my words very carefully because of the delicate subject matter. Yet I still think MEN should open up a little more in order to help other men.
COME ON MEN - EITHER AGREE OR DISAGREE WITH ME. YOUR COMMENTS COULD HELP OTHER MEN.Perhaps the problem of male embarrisment could be solved if ONLY men were to post on this subject even though ladies could still read it. Or would it be necessary for ladies to be excluded altogether?
See posts #23 and #25.COME ON MEN - EITHER AGREE OR DISAGREE WITH ME. YOUR COMMENTS COULD HELP OTHER MEN.
Yes Squire I read your posts and we seem to agree on most things - but it seems difficult to encourage men to OPEN UP.See posts #23 and #25.
- but it seems difficult to encourage men to OPEN UP.
If any one has a problem with a female posting support, then report it. If it has made anyone feel uncomfortable,
I think it was OP's purpose to do just that but it ran aground as you have noticed. I don't have an answer to exactly why that is and even if you asked only men to post it seems like censorship and anyone can read it anyway.
I believe that the intention of the OP was laudable but it hit rocks and stopped and the question now revolves around whether women can advise men and vice versa.A Forum like this helps men to "OPEN UP" to reveal their inner "hurts" and uptain guidance from other men "WHO HAVE BEEN THERE". A woman CANNOT give that advice. Similarly, men CANNOT giving meaningful advice to women on their sexual feelings. As a pastor I have SUCCESSFULLY given advice to women living apart from their husbands on how men feel and react to living alone, and advised these wives on how to SAVE THEIR MARRIAGE. Neither MEN nor WOMEN want their marriage to break up - but they BOTH need advice on how to deal with difficult situations.
Both of my marriages have enabled me to have a better understanding about marriage relationships than college ever taught me. Because MEN find it difficult to OPEN UP to women.
I believe that the intention of the OP was laudable but it hit rocks and stopped and the question now revolves around whether women can advise men and vice versa.
I have a simple view. If I see a thread entitled "Ladies- ***** etc." I don't go there. I think that if I began to advise women about their lady bits I would be as welcome as a well known odour in a space suit. The comments in my earlier posts were to express surprise that the obverse is not true.
I don't know the answer to all this except to say that the ladies may well have advice about the emotional problems caused and offer comfort but the men probably are more worried about the physiological aspects and don't like to discuss them.
Or between two men. Or two women Any two adults in general, really.Marriage is supposed to be between a man and a woman who have very different life experiences and yet are committed 100% to supporting each other.
Many men will also find it difficult to open up to other men. Either because men are supposed to be 'strong' and not express their feelings. Or because they may be embarrassed to talk about what they regard as sexual inadequacy.A Forum like this helps men to "OPEN UP" to reveal their inner "hurts" and uptain guidance from other men "WHO HAVE BEEN THERE". A woman CANNOT give that advice. Similarly, men CANNOT giving meaningful advice to women on their sexual feelings. As a pastor I have SUCCESSFULLY given advice to women living apart from their husbands on how men feel and react to living alone, and advised these wives on how to SAVE THEIR MARRIAGE. Neither MEN nor WOMEN want their marriage to break up - but they BOTH need advice on how to deal with difficult situations.
Both of my marriages have enabled me to have a better understanding about marriage relationships than college ever taught me. Because MEN find it difficult to OPEN UP to women.
@Kyambala like it or not this is an issue very few people will discuss, and even less so in an environment (on line) where they might attract trolls.
Just look at the reaction of the daily wail to a photo of Emma Watson in vanity fair. To discuss changing your pencil from a 8H to an 8B just isn't public bar talk.
I am not sure it is possible to exchange ideas and techniques in the same way that it is possible with Blood Sugars and diet. Either you have lead in your pencil or you haven't. Viagra may work for some, but it is a well recorded side effect of Diabetes