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Mother extremely ratty and sharp

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Hi

You may have remembered my mother posted this

"I was diagnoised as having Type 2 diabeties 6 years ago and found that the NHS doctors/Nurses to be insensitive to my situation. I have always had a phobia to needles and all they seem to want to do is force the insulin upon me. Their are so many drugs on the market , which they refuse to try on me - I have even been refused by my doctor to be referred to the diabetic clinic within walking distance to where i live.

My gp has only prescribed me Metformin and gluscose-With the Metformin i have experienced intense stomach craps, loose of weight and recently discovered that this contributed to the killing on the cells in my body as a result i have been immune system has been more suseptaible to infections.As a result i have stopped taking Metformin and my appetite, my energy levels , have improved.yes from time to time my sugar level maybe a little high, but nothing major

Just recently i was struck down with shingles ( which i have NEVER had before). I would like know if i can make my own appointment to the diabetes clinic in London as i feel that i will be given better treatment "


Well as a daughter of her's i am starting to feel concerned . She and i had never been that close ( which isnt a big thing or even so much of an issue) but in the last month i have noticed she has become very sharp and very ratty. Sometimes we would not speak for hours and when i call i feel like i am a nuisance , she constantly starts the convo by " What!" or ends the conversation very adruptly

I live 250 miles from her and for years i have felt she has resented me for being ambitious and a high achiever without the support of her or my "so called" father , but she has never been so sharp as she has in the last month

When she was taking metformin she was sluggish and at times letheagic- do u think this recent behaviour could have something to do with lack of some kind of medication or could it be an early sign of something more as she is approaching 65? or could it be she feels like a failure because of her illness because it stops her from doing what she wants ie: go to work,lead an active life

She use to work for the NHS for over 40 years and liked her job, but retired because she felt she wasnt treated well - she would often speak of her yearnings to go back into working for the nhs but her medical condition prevents her from doing that because it is so unpredictable - she doesnt want to join a social club because she feels that mixing with people her age makes her feel old

She doesnt want to come visit me a) because we are not that close b) because my witnessing how successful i have become only makes her more depressed

arrgh! help any advice?
 
Hi. She may well be running high blood sugars which can affect the mood.Do you know if she is testing her blood sugar levels regularly? She may also just be affected by the change in her circumstances and the feeling of losing control of part of her life and just generally getting older,I think a lot of us can sympathise with that feeling.
Just be there for her when she wants you.
 
Hi

A couple of years ago I became very stressed and my blood glucose levels went high. I am not sure if I was more easily stressed because my bg were up or the other way round. I think it is a kind of viscious circle thing. But the thing I noticed was that for a few days I found my tolerance levels were very low and I was snapping at my hubby over things that wouldn't normally annoy me and it rather alarmed me. Fortunately this was only for a short time. After that when I find I am getting snappy I test my bg levels and act to bring them down if they are high. I also find that when I am very stressed my bp goes up too. I think your mother needs to see a doctor if she remains stressed and/or has constantly high bg levels in order to sort out her bg levels or to sort out possible depression. It isn't a good situation for her or other people in the family.
 
When I got worried about my own mother( not a diabetic, but 90 years old) I called her doctor and asked if he could advise me. I didn't try to get confidential information. It helped!
It alerted the doctor to my worries and a District nurse was sent out on a visit. the problem was resolved.
 
jenrose said:
I think your mother needs to see a doctor if she remains stressed and/or has constantly high bg levels in order to sort out her bg levels or to sort out possible depression. It isn't a good situation for her or other people in the family.
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She doesnt have a good r/ship with her doctor as she had mentioned - She has gone through a series of doctors who are just obessed with trying to put her on insulin and not try her on any other thousands of drugs available on the market. The last doctor even made threats towards her because she refused to go onto insulin :evil:

The Doctors that works in Wandsworth have been no help or support to her and time and time they seem to get away with it - She felts discriminated against because of her condition
 
hanadr said:
When I got worried about my own mother( not a diabetic, but 90 years old) I called her doctor and asked if he could advise me. I didn't try to get confidential information. It helped!
It alerted the doctor to my worries and a District nurse was sent out on a visit. the problem was resolved.
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I was told to rephrase my comment<which i still totally stand by> but doctors in Fransican Road ,Tooting are the most incondiserate, selfish and brutal people - they would only help themselves at the expense of others

Ok is that moderator? :roll:
 
Hi

Have heard of people having changes in mood due to lows or highs but it sounds a bit more complex than that. Although her experience of GP is hopeless, it may be that if they are 'obsessed' with pushing insulin then it is because she needs it and BG is running high. I personally get a bit 'nippy' when my sugars are lower, its as if I cant tolerate any outside interference while I concentrate on testing, getting something to eat etc.

It may be also that its nothing to do with diabetes (it gets soooooooo hard to seperate whats what, especially with heightened awareness of your body) and that she is just feeling depressed, preoccupied and frustrated. Only you can really comment on whether the dynamics between you are a contributory factor to her behaviour (esp if they are long standing) but might be worth while speaking to another family member/friend who could maybe ask some questions re how she is doing, if she isnt opening up to you. Although not ideal, you could call the GP. It may be that if you start making comments re concerns then it would be more than their jobs worth to ignore them.

Also worth checking out other underlying stuff such as thyroid? Hormones?
Or in worst case scenario, look into private appts with Endocrinologist?

L
 
lilibet said:
Hi

. Although her experience of GP is hopeless, it may be that if they are 'obsessed' with pushing insulin then it is because she needs it and BG is running high. I personally get a bit 'nippy' when my sugars are lower, its as if I cant tolerate any outside interference while I concentrate on testing, getting something to eat etc.
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Hi

I totally disagree- (read what she said above) - she whined herself off Metformin because it made her sick , lost weight etc- apart from the tempermental bm levels which happens whether she is on insulin or not. If she feels 99% fine without metformin it is really stupid to stay she is in need of insulin

These doctors are simply looking for an easy and more profitable way to make money and shoving her onto insulin is both easy and less messy for them- Her own cousin died of diabetes and because he was not experienced and educated enough to "not listen to everything a doctor tells him" - he followed everything the doctor said and died very young it wasnt until his death, we all learned that he didnt need insulin

The doctors in Tooting in a lot of cases are really not experienced and i think that because they have large families -most with the same names -its very easy to pass off as that a cousin /brother who is a junior doctor and the person who claims to be a doctor isnt very qualified

In this country the goverment is more interested to save money by getting the cheapest "so called" doctors they can find and people like my mother has to suffer at the hands of such carelessness and inconsiderate behaviours

She has worked for the health service over 45 years and this is the way she is paid back -having to fight to get the standard of health treatment she is rightfully entitled to, its a darn disgrace

I think the goverment should get off their ass and start look about reviewing the salaries that they pay the doctors because a lot of them are not entitled to the stupid amounts they are paid

The only doctors that have credibliity and are well deserving of such pay are doctors who themselves work in the local hopsitals
 
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