Don't know if this is right feed but here we go. I'm type 1 insulin Dependant and am suffering with severe neuropathy in my legs. Since last Friday I've been using crutches to help. Today I felt confident enough to walk my boys to school my eldest(6) kept running off and hiding. When we caught up he told his wee girlfriend that "my dads a loser" so I took him aside an asked what was wrong now he's very smart and knows what he said he told me I was embarrassing him. I've never been so gutted in my life the worst heartache since my dad died just needed to get it off my chest the wifes really upset because he explained it to her because she didn't think he would know what it meant.
my wee boy's embarrassed by me
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Debloubed
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kids! does it help to know that ALL children are embarrassed by their parents?! I'm 37 and mine still embarrass the heck out of me! Sorry, I'm not trying to patronise you and I can only imagine how you must have felt, but I am almost 100% sure that he did not mean it to be hurtful and he was embarrassed in a usual, 6 year old boy kinda way 
my daughter told me earlier today that she would hold my hand in the car park but not inside Tesco in case she saw anyone she knew from school ;-)
my daughter told me earlier today that she would hold my hand in the car park but not inside Tesco in case she saw anyone she knew from school ;-)
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Ham 79,
Agree with Debloubed, sometimes kids can come out with things that can be hurtful to hear, my kids have done it in the past, not meaning to cause distress, as I am sure your lad didn't, I think that they pick up on words and sayings without knowing the full comprehension of what their saying.
Hope you feel better soon!
Nigel
Agree with Debloubed, sometimes kids can come out with things that can be hurtful to hear, my kids have done it in the past, not meaning to cause distress, as I am sure your lad didn't, I think that they pick up on words and sayings without knowing the full comprehension of what their saying.
Hope you feel better soon!
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ham
We parents exist to embarrass our children and I'm sure they don't mean to hurt us.
Recently, my dog did something that upset my 30 year old daughter and she attacked me verbally as if i'd done it myself. I'm now waiting for grandchildren to find out that Grandma is in some way embarrassing. As It is I'm still flavour of the month.
Hana
We parents exist to embarrass our children and I'm sure they don't mean to hurt us.
Recently, my dog did something that upset my 30 year old daughter and she attacked me verbally as if i'd done it myself. I'm now waiting for grandchildren to find out that Grandma is in some way embarrassing. As It is I'm still flavour of the month.
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although kids will say things that hurt us, deep down their love is so strong that it makes up for the hurt we felt.
I know how your feeling having been there, but my kids are still living with me at 19 and 21 :roll: will they never leave home :lol:
although kids will say things that hurt us, deep down their love is so strong that it makes up for the hurt we felt.
I know how your feeling having been there, but my kids are still living with me at 19 and 21 :roll: will they never leave home :lol:
I think kids are embarrassed by anything that draws attention to themselves whether it is their parents or something that their parent’s have innocently inflicted on them.
For example:
I was talking on the phone to my son the other night when for some reason he suddenly brought up the fact that when he was 12 years old I had made him wear some really unfashionable trousers to school and he was really laying in to me about how it had made him feel and surely I realised how cruel kids can be to each other. :shock: :shock:
I must confess that I was a little taken aback as it was a while ago now and I had forgotten all about it. But he hadn’t and really gave me an earache about it until I lost patience and said to him that it happened, I was sorry that I had hurt him but he really needed to get a grip and get over it.
Now, I am not normally so assertive and he was obviously shocked by my reaction as he said nothing more to me and the next voice on the phone was his wife’s!
I said to her, “I know he was clearly upset about the trousers but you might remind him that it was nearly 30 years ago!”
:lol: :roll: :roll: :lol:
For example:
I was talking on the phone to my son the other night when for some reason he suddenly brought up the fact that when he was 12 years old I had made him wear some really unfashionable trousers to school and he was really laying in to me about how it had made him feel and surely I realised how cruel kids can be to each other. :shock: :shock:
I must confess that I was a little taken aback as it was a while ago now and I had forgotten all about it. But he hadn’t and really gave me an earache about it until I lost patience and said to him that it happened, I was sorry that I had hurt him but he really needed to get a grip and get over it.
Now, I am not normally so assertive and he was obviously shocked by my reaction as he said nothing more to me and the next voice on the phone was his wife’s!
I said to her, “I know he was clearly upset about the trousers but you might remind him that it was nearly 30 years ago!”
:lol: :roll: :roll: :lol:
At 6, he may well have an understanding of what the words mean, but he has no clue of the impact that those words will have on other people. I understand how gutted you must have been, but honestly, he didn't mean to be hurtful, and you will remember his words LONG after he has forgotten he even said them at all.
I really don't blame him or resent him it was the shock of the impact it had on me. I'm pretty tough and have dealt with things that are unimaginable to most but the little farts comment completely floored me. He has told his uncle that I embarrass him but I'm ok now and tell him I'm putting pink streamer and glow sticks on my sticks and wearing a dress to pick him up from school which the youngest thinks would be cool :shock: to show him embarrassment
My daughter has forbidden me to stitch my grandaughter's mittens onto an elastic and thread them through the sleeves of her coat, because she was embarassed when I did it to her. Grandaughter isn't 2 yet and a while ago Ispent an hour looking for a lost mitten which turned up 3 shops ago.
Hana
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I'm 18 and i'm always embarrased by my parents.
I honestly wouldn't take any notice of it Ham79. Children sometimes don't understand how what they say can affect other people. Or they just say something without even thinking about it, I'm a prime example of that!
I honestly wouldn't take any notice of it Ham79. Children sometimes don't understand how what they say can affect other people. Or they just say something without even thinking about it, I'm a prime example of that!
