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Wendy53

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Don't know where to post this.
My husband is type 2 and I am pre diabetic. Things seem to have been moving along OK. Keeping every thing under contol diabetic wise, but wonder if I am trying too hard. We are both on same diet Low carb high fat which seems to be working. After BS results tonight which were slighly high for husband I comented that they were bit high but seem to have hit a nerve.
How can I help with out being seen to be interfering. Don't know where to draw the line. I only want to help but ma be not doing it the right way .
 
Maybe if you use the comments as part of a - What can we change? or to suggest it informs your meal planning and buying?

How high where they?
 
They weren't massively high but don't want then to be. Blood sugars were 155 or 8.6 2 hours after eating. Just trying to help but seem to be getting it wrong. Thank you so much for your reply x
 
155 is probably mg/dl which we do not use in the UK. It converts to 8.6 mmol/l which is at the top end of readings for a Type 2 after meals. Not exactly earth shattering and it really does all depend on what the actual meal was. I've seen higher readings than that on occasions and my Bg levels are well controlled.
 
Here in France we use a variation of mg/DL - but the French have to be different. So for me, 155 would be presented as 1.55 g/L. Anyway, as cuglia says, 155 is a bit high but not wildly so - the published "ideal" is 140 (about 7.7mmol/L) but one isolated reading isn't something to worry too much about.

There are lots of explanations possible - for instance, a minor infection can do silly things with the numbers. Another possibility is that the test strip was contaminated - I've had a few very strange results which disappeared after I washed my hands (again).

Also, even if you both had the same meal everyone is an individual and will get different answers to the same question. Your own pre-diabetic status should mean you usually handle the load better than the OH.

I think anniep's suggestion is probably the right approach but whilst it's just the one unhappy value, a "wait and see" approach might be appropriate.

John
 
Perhaps your husband needs to have his own self imposed limits. If he has and that number was higher than HE would have like then he might have been feeling defensive about exceeding it and reacted. His recovery of his control over his BGLs will have to be led by him. Until he says that was too high for him and let's find out what in particular caused it you will not be likely to help him further, just yourself.
As I no longer take medication I can only control my BGs with with what I eat and I sincerely don't want mine to EVER rise above 6.0, not one, two, three or fours hours after eating. My personal choice based on my extensive reading and my Endo's encouragement. Good luck with preventing your pre-diabetes from going further.
Alison
 
Wendy
As Clearviews has already written
Your husband has to set his own targets. I have been married for 40years tto a type 1 diabetic, who did some pretty stupid things in his young days and got into various kinds of trouble. I developed T2 about 8 years ago and am VERY tight on my own blood sugar control. T1 husband has improved a LOT with maturity and seeing what works for me. Which is TIGHT CARB CONTROL.
In your own case, I would say look after your prediabetes[which I would consider to be early diagnosis of diabetes] You might still be in a stage wwhere you can reverse it. Keeping your levels as close to non-diabetic as you can is the key.
Hana
 
Thank you all for your comments. I will have to try to take a step back but find it so hard at times.
Sorry I thought I had put both BS values in 155 is 8.6 . I does help to just put things down in writing at times. I hope by keeping tight control of my pre diabetes I can halt it.

Wendy
 
A hard one I know, somehow to get over that 'I am supporting you fully and interested and concerned about your health' and not to have it percieved as 'I am trying to take control'. And of course it may vary depending on how he is feeling rather than what you are doing.

Good luck with it

Annie
 
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