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Nicky_2612

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My hubby aged 52 is currently in hospital. He has a history of poorly managed type 2 diabetes. This was mainly due to a horrenfous GP. He lost all faith in doctors snd the nhs. I now have a changed man.
Guys...please do not think you can get away with putting off tests or appointments.
Keep your feet in good order. Do not attempt to remove hard skin yourself. My hubby has:
Early Charcot foot
Severe peripheral neuropathy
Retinopathy
Gasttoparesis and bowel incontence.
He is currently in a cardiovascular ward due to using a ped egg. He went to far. His sandals broke the skin and he has (fingers crosses) narrowly escaped amputation. He has had surgicsl debridement an angioplasty in his leg, maggots and now a vaccuum.
Please please take note.
If your GP sucks...find snother one.
Keep taking your meds
Go for your screening.
Get a qualified podiatrist to care for your feet
Keep EVERY appointment
Take your meds.
Don't ever understimate this by thinking you can control it yourself...you can't.
Get advice on foods. And learn how to understand the presence of sugsrs ESPECIALLY in foods you THINK are healthy. Please please take care of yourselves and do everything you are supposed to. Thank you for reading me...xxx
 
Hello Nicky. It is good that you wanted to warn us. I am sure that we would all like to say thank you for taking the time to post.
There is a section on the forum for Carers and I am sure you would benefit from joining in to speak with others who know what exactly you are going through.
Please take the time to look after yourself as well as your hubby. I hope he recovers quickly and maybe, just maybe the threat of amputation will make him see the light. I'm sending you my best wishes.
 
Sorry to hear your news @Nicky_2612 but I am glad to hear he has been woken up. Happily for this site it is full of people who are already dealing with the problems, that's why we are here. I suggest that you stay and read as much as you can since I am certain it will be of help to your husband. I wish the two of you well.

This site has 250,000 members who have registered but there are over three million diabetics estimated in the UK. You can help us get to the rest of them.
 
Nicky_2612 said:
This was mainly due to a horrendous GP. He lost all faith in doctors and the NHS.
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Welcome to the forum. It's very sad when a GP is so bad that you lose faith in ALL doctors AND the NHS. They are different and I'm assuming that the NHS and it's doctors are currently doing their very best to save your husbands body parts.

Diabetes, like most diseases is one that we have to take responsibility for and I hear, at first hand, tales of people (mostly men for some reason) with diabetes who do nothing to help the situation.

Nicky_2612 said:
And learn how to understand the presence of sugars
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I'd change that to carbohydrates, it isn't just sugar that's the problem. Perhaps somebody could persuade Jamie Oliver and then everyone would listen.

I think it's fair to say that everyone on this forum is on board with your recommendations, it's the others we worry about.

Here's to a successful outcome to your OH's present predicament. All the best.
 
Squire Fulwood said:
Sorry to hear your news @Nicky_2612 but I am glad to hear he has been woken up. Happily for this site it is full of people who are already dealing with the problems, that's why we are here. I suggest that you stay and read as much as you can since I am certain it will be of help to your husband. I wish the two of you well.

This site has 250,000 members who have registered but there are over three million diabetics estimated in the UK. You can help us get to the rest of them.
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Well said.
 
Yes @Nicky_2612 . Thank you for posting and I wish your hubby well wishes.
He can have this situation a whole lot better. I bet he doesn't even know that and how disheartening for him, and you. No cure for diabetes, as yet but those carbohydrates are very damaging, just as much if not worse than sugar.
Can you hubby try a diet of no bread, no rice, no pasta and no potato products? It's called low carb.
Even tiny amounts would be a huge imorovement to his control.
I eat reheated fresh potato only. No potato products as they as so messed around before put in the oven.
I have 2 young kids and its hugely easier to buy precooked food so I just need a microwave or oven heated. These 6wks have been ok until last 2 wks where I ran out of money.
I'm trying to keep as low that's practical and satisfactory to the whole family. 90% I achieve low carb and good control. My new hba1c (diabetes control blood test) is now 48 from a horrendeous 117.
Your hubby can do this too. If he chooses to.
It doesn't have to be too much hard work. I just don't buy these items unless a treat or eating out.
I've always prefered meats and fish/foods so I've found it hard to just ferment a new food shopping/eating habit.
I wish I know now yrs ago. I may have not needed the nhs so much.
Do you think low carbing would be something you and yourhubby would consider?
 
Hi. I'm really sorry to hear about your hubby. Part of the problem with GPs and diabetes is the bad diet and other advice they have been given over the years from Government bodies and they are discouraged from deviating from it. As DavidGrahamJones says it's all carbs that are the problem and not just sugar (sugar is merely another carb) and fats are not a problem as they help you feel full. The usual advice to reduce sugar, fat and salt misses the point for us. Sadly the right advice may now be a bit late for your Hubby but make sure he does the right things when leaving hospital bearing in mind he may now need specific advice for his condition.
 
Hello and thank you for posting. I am so sorry you and your hubby are having such a tough time. I'm sorry chaps but it can be quite hard for us wifes to take care of you! My hubby was diagnosed T2 a few years before I was and I've been desperately trying ever since to change his diet, motivate him to exercise (he has arthritis too), etc. Since I was diagnosed as T" in August, I've really changed things - we're on a low carb diet and we're walking more. So please chaps, please listen to this lady's story and help us look after you!
 
What a terrible situation Nicky-2612. Thank you for posting. I realise you came here to give us a warning, but you are largely talking to the converted on here. The fact we are here shows we want to improve our situations. I think you can help your husband, and now he has had that shock, he is likely to be receptive. On this site you will find a wealth of information which has been found out by, and used with great effect by the membership here. Read everything you can here to find out the answers to your thoughts about what to do next. Ask questions! Most of us have had experiences with the medical profession that leave a lot to be desired. That is probably a large driving force behind this site! Arm yourself with knowledge, and when your husband is back with you, then go to work, get him to read what is here. Show him there is hope and something you can both do to improve this situation. Don't forget to look after yourself too. Good luck!
 
I agree. He needs to know there is a comfortable easy alternative.
Most men I know if it's too much like hardwork they just brush it off.
Of course the men on this site don't. Hence why their diabetes improves.
He might need a male mentor as he may see us women nagging him, even though we won't.
As a newee he may get overwelmed with the huge response.
If you think your husband will do that try slowly slowly catch thee monkey! ;)
 
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