@Robinredbreast, thank you.
I haven't considered myself to be a victim for a very long time. My main problem was that memories were supressed until I was in my 40's so I had no idea what was 'wrong' with me. Now I have remembered and worked through everything that happened, I am fine. I am well adjusted to what happened and have forgiven all those concerned. They have all died now, but if I ever had the chance to meet them again, I would simply ask 'why?' I hold no hatred or malice towards them, it's all finished. My past is an important part of me, just like height and hair colour. It's what made me who I am. If I had the chance to go back and change it now, I wouldn't. What I need to do now is sort my body out and lose the weight I put on while these memories were surfacing. I was doing this with the help of the forum. However it is becoming a place where people get offended by jokes and criticize each other. There are very few jokes which aren't laughing at someone. If I can forgive what happened to me as a 0-6 year old child, why can't forum members forgive each other for mere words? Often replies are posted quickly so of course sometimes people may go beyond what others believe is decent. But we are adults and it's only words, it takes more than words to physically hurt a child. I really don't understand what happened this evening between two people I like and respect. I am very sad about the whole thing. Whilst I wouldn't change my past because it has indeed made me stronger, if I could I would turn back the clock and change what happened here tonight.