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Bunny2shoes

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Hi,

I'm desperately hoping someone can help me. I went for my first scan at what I worked out as 6 wks pregnant on Xmas eve. The midwife had put me at 8 wks because she said they overestimate. When I got there I was asked why I'd come for a scan so early! They tried to find a heartbeat via ultra sound and then internally. Sadly everything was there including a tiny 3.3 mm foetal pole, yolk etc but no heartbeat. I was then sent off and told I'd have to "wait in limbo". They said it had either died or was just too early. I'm due to return on New Yrs Eve. It's been the saddest, worst Xmas ever. I still feel pregnant as my breast get more tender all the time and I've had no bleeding. Has anyone else experienced this? I'm driving myself insane waiting. Please help if you can x
 
It could be that it is just too early, especially if the dates are not sure, I'll keep my fingers crossed for you, unfortunately there is nothing you can really do but wait and see, and I know that's probably the worst bit. I know it is very hard to get a heartbeat before 6 weeks though.
 
its so hard to be in limbo land...i have been there several times....all you can do is wait....if you still feel pregnant. thats good...fingers crossed......not long to wait now.....xx
 
Thank you both so much for your posts. I really appreciate the support. Is difficult when it's your first time and good to know I'm not alone. At least this time I'll know one way or the other. Wishing you an early happy new year x x x
 
Hi,
I was sorry to hear your news. It is a worry. I know how it feels as my husband and I have been there. It is a case of waiting and seeing. Which is really difficult to handle especially at this time of year. In my case there was a possibility it was ectopic so I had a scan and like you was told either my dates were wrong or I would miscarry. We went through a stressful fortnight of ups and downs as I was scanned at ante natal clinic (I was there as I was diabetic) and told one week everything was OK and the following week that the baby hadn't grown. I miscarried when my period was due around 8 weeks. It was an awful time but after counselling and time we have come to terms with it. I hope and pray everything will be OK with you but please be reassured that whatever happens you will get through it.
Wishing you all the best.
 
Bunny2shoes said:
Hi,

I'm desperately hoping someone can help me. I went for my first scan at what I worked out as 6 wks pregnant on Xmas eve. The midwife had put me at 8 wks because she said they overestimate. When I got there I was asked why I'd come for a scan so early! They tried to find a heartbeat via ultra sound and then internally. Sadly everything was there including a tiny 3.3 mm foetal pole, yolk etc but no heartbeat. I was then sent off and told I'd have to "wait in limbo". They said it had either died or was just too early. I'm due to return on New Yrs Eve. It's been the saddest, worst Xmas ever. I still feel pregnant as my breast get more tender all the time and I've had no bleeding. Has anyone else experienced this? I'm driving myself insane waiting. Please help if you can x
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Hi Bunny2shoes

I will thinking of you tomorrow and keeping my fingers crossed for some good news. Good luck
Best wishes RRB
 
Oh, I will be thinking of you today too!! How dreadful for you to have all this worry. I will check in later in the day to see if you have posted. Fingers firmly crossed for you here.
Closest I came to this was many,many years ago when I had an ectopic pregnancy, an experience I have never forgotten.
Do hope you are ok.
 
Thank you so much. I'm just drinking my pint of water before I head for the ward. I'm so sorry to hear about your ectopic pregnancy. My sister in law had one earlier this year after IVF and she lost a fallopian tube after it burst. I'll keep you posted. Should know by 9:30! Once again thank you for your kind words, they really do help x x x
 
Thank you all for your fantastic support. Sadly there was no heartbeat and I've had a silent miscarriage. I'll have an op on Wednesday. I'm heartbroken but I'm sure in time the pain will heal x x x
 
Bunny2shoes (((((((((((((hugs))))))))))) I am so so sorry to hear of your devaststing news. I didn't want to say earlier, but I had a miscarraige in 1998, but I bled, the doctor examined me and she said everything felt fine, but I then went to have a scan at the hospital and the baby had died, there was no heartbeat, I was just 8 weeks. I didn't want the op, so I had my miscarraige at home, naturally, a few days later, just like going into labour, its something that will stay with me forever and I still have the scan photo. I went on to have a baby girl in 2000, at the age of 42 1/2, so never give up,you are not alone, mother nature can be cruel at times. My 'baby' is now 12.

I send you all my love and best wishes. RRB X
 
Thank you for your kind words. You've given me hope that I will be able to have a healthy baby in the future. I appreciate your discression earlier about the miscarriage. I'm sorry you too had to go through that. It's certainly been a Christmas ill never forget!
Lots of love and happy new year x x x
 
I have been there and it is heartbreaking. I now have 2 children and 4 grandchildren so there is hope.
Thinking of you in your sadness
 
So sorry to hear your news :cry:
Please don't give up hope. My other half's daughter-in-law had 3 or 4 miscarriages when they first tried for children but they have gone on to have 3 lovely sons all under 6 years old now and she announced to us just before Christmas that they are expecting another (totally unplanned as they had intended to stop at 3 and a 'snip' had been mentioned!!). It was a very upsetting time for them but the eventual outcome has more than made up for the heartache and made them stronger as a couple.

Good luck for the future and may 2013 be better.
Angie
 
Thank you for your encouraging words Angie. I'm just going to hospital for the operation to remove it now. Trying to stay positive and your message has given me extra strength. Take care and I hope your 2013 is a great one too x x x
 
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