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[douglas99]

This is just a moan.

Well, we did the Xmas visiting today.

Running a bit late, so my relatives had decided to go to the pub for lunch, and phoned us to say they were eating, and the restaurant was closing shortly. My wife answered the mobile as I'm driving. Now obviously she knows I'm T2, but once again, it appears to has totally gone over her head. (Completely unsupportive normally to be fair). So she asks me, (low cal, good carbs diet), "they're ordering, do you want them to get you fish and chips, or a steak and ale pie, or a Xmas dinner?"

I have to be honest, I stopped the car, and got out. If she doesn't know I haven't eaten that type of food for two years, I give up.
She honestly had no idea what to tell them to order for me. Her excuse, "I didn't have the menu"
Like I had it then?
She really , really, couldn't tell them what I could/would eat? After two years?

Anyway, we got there too late to order, so we missed lunch.
Talking about type 2, and complications, and future problems from high bs.
But it's obviously me being "awkward" as I hear the conversation later.
Relative - "I know someone, diagnosed type 2 at 60, that was 20 years ago, and he's not on insulin"
My wife nodding away.

So I get home, I've eaten nothing for about 12 hours, checked my bs, 3.2.
Meatballs for tea, and a mince pie, massive overshoot to 15, (within the 2 hours) but back down to 6 now.

Normally I'm ok, maybe it was the lack of food for such a long time, as I normally eat little and often.

 

[Andy12345]

im in a very similar relationship im not sure if someone else going through it makes me feel better or worse, i think its the reason i spend so much time here, so im around people that get me (well mostly lol) we just have to try to understand their point of view........ ummm dunno what that is though, whats ridiculous is, when she has a sniffle im unsympathetic lol, great now you got me moaning too lol

 

[douglas99]

It's worse than beating your head on a brick wall.

She's organised dinner, well a low carb chicken sauce for me. Which is very good but that's all for me. They're having jacket potatoes with theirs. She never does any veg. I gave up and made a curry.

Even better, the sauce she chose for theirs, has 180g, (yes 180) of sugar in it. I actually measured that, it's two mugs full. Total carbs is even more. She was actually quite proud of that.

Then, she's bought a new "sea salt" grinder. Everything, especially chips, taste better with salt. The kids repeat it like a mantra.
It's now the third one in the cupboard.

So, can I secretly, a little bit, deep down, just a bit, hope it comes back to her one day?
Or is that bad of me?

I should add, all the kids, and her, are all thin, active, healthy, so it's not a health problem, but she's quite pleased they're picking up her eating habits, and "she's ok, the doctor said so at her health check"

 

[Andy12345]

It's worse than beating your head on a brick wall.

She's organised dinner, well a low carb chicken sauce for me. Which is very good but that's all for me. They're having jacket potatoes with theirs. She never does any veg. I gave up and made a curry.

Even better, the sauce she chose for theirs, has 180g, (yes 180) of sugar in it. I actually measured that, it's two mugs full. Total carbs is even more. She was actually quite proud of that.

Then, she's bought a new "sea salt" grinder. Everything, especially chips, taste better with salt. The kids repeat it like a mantra.
It's now the third one in the cupboard.

So, can I secretly, a little bit, deep down, just a bit, hope it comes back to her one day?
Or is that bad of me?

I should add, all the kids, and her, are all thin, active, healthy, so it's not a health problem, but she's quite pleased they're picking up her eating habits, and "she's ok, the doctor said so at her health check"

ok ok i got one....

ive been leaving the house at 6am and getting home at 7pm or later the past 3 weeks oh and working 7 days....

i get in from work (the wife dosent work) and she says, we have had pizza tonight, you wanna cook yourself an omelette?

and that is her way of being kind

lol



this is better than the grrrr thread

 

[douglas99]

ok ok i got one....

ive been leaving the house at 6am and getting home at 7pm or later the past 3 weeks oh and working 7 days....

i get in from work (the wife dosent work) and she says, we have had pizza tonight, you wanna cook yourself an omelette?

and that is her way of being kind

lol



this is better than the grrrr thread

Previously...........


After yesterday,

I was working this morning, trying to finish off enough jobs to get some sort of break over xmas..
Should manage to finish enough jobs by noon on Xmas Eve, she's finished now until the new year.
"It's better working for yourself, you can have any time off you want to" is her usual phrase if the kids have a doctor/dentist/hospital appointment etc......

We've arranged last night she phones up friends to either go over at lunch or evening. So at 1.00pm she decides to go to Tesco's. Hasn't phoned them at all.
Arranges the visit for 3.00pm.Sends me a txt. I come back at 3.00pm, earliest I can manage, to be met with her and the kids, screaming, "we have to go, we have to go"
I tell them to go. (longer version of go)

I eat, I'm not missing another lunch.
(They had a McDonalds she went for earlier)

So I go over at about 4:30.
My family leave as I arrive, to go to a carol concert.

And then I go home, and post my previous post.

 

[Andy12345]

Previously...........


After yesterday,

I was working this morning, trying to finish off enough jobs to get some sort of break over xmas..
Should manage to finish enough jobs by noon on Xmas Eve, she's finished now until the new year.
"It's better working for yourself, you can have any time off you want to" is her usual phrase if the kids have a doctor/dentist/hospital appointment etc......

We've arranged last night she phones up friends to either go over at lunch or evening. So at 1.00pm she decides to go to Tesco's. Hasn't phoned them at all.
Arranges the visit for 3.00pm.Sends me a txt. I come back at 3.00pm, earliest I can manage, to be met with her and the kids, screaming, "we have to go, we have to go"
I tell them to go. (longer version of go)

I eat, I'm not missing another lunch.
(They had a McDonalds she went for earlier)

So I go over at about 4:30.
My family leave as I arrive, to go to a carol concert.

And then I go home, and post my previous post.

lol isnt this fun?

 

[douglas99]

lol isnt this fun?

Either this or leave her.

 

[Andy12345]

Either this or leave her.

 

[Patch13]

Oh goodness. I guess I should feel lucky to have a husband who really tries to remember what I eat and tries to make appropriate meals (when he does actually get time to cook). Maybe you could attach a list of things you can eat to the fridge?!

 

[Alanp35]

Fellas, my heart goes out to you. I am on my own and it is difficult enough to organise jabs, pills (18 a day), maintains house n garden etc. BUT at least I know that nothing is getting done for me, means I at eat what I should when I should etc.

 

[AnnieC]

I note that this is all men who are having the rant on this thread but what about the diabetic women with husbands that don't understand about the food etc bet there are far more of them but I don't see them complaining on here

 

[NicolaB70]

Mines slightly different, it's my mother. I have just spoke to her about boxing day asking her if there is anything we can take round there as we are going there boxing day. Her answer was no thanks as she has everything including drinks, then went on to say that she's brought me a bottle of coke as I don't like the diet stuff!! Hmmm, (a) she knows I haven't drank coke in months, (b) I do like diet coke but choose not to drink it and more importantly (c) I'm ruddy diabetic. She had the hump when I said sorry but you know I don't drink it anymore and would she mind if I took a bottle of coke zero round there which is what I do drink. She really hasn't got a clue. The irony of it is that she is diabetic (t2) herself, so she should know what is good or not but saying that I could go on for ages on her view and what she eats as a diabetic that the rest of us avoid!!

 

[douglas99]

I note that this is all men who are having the rant on this thread but what about the diabetic women with husbands that don't understand about the food etc bet there are far more of them but I don't see them complaining on here

Fair enough, the bets on then.
Anyone is welcome to post, so how's your husband with you?

 

[Lenny3]

With some people I think Its an ingrained Hosting need. My dad who is always saying you shouldn't be eating that, or you need to lose weight etc, always seems to offer me some kind of dessert when I have dinner round his. Last night I was offered chocolate gateau, or fruit or yog. He forgot that I actually gave them some pots of sugar free jelly to keep for me for such occasions.

Its the way we've been brought up. You hurt yourself as a child and to distract you or comfort you, your given a biscuit. Or if your good you get a treat which was usually sweets or chocolate.

Anyway Merry Christmas everyone.

 

[izzzi]

Hi Duglas99.

This is just a moan.

Well, we did the Xmas visiting today

I know it is just a moan, but dont you think your going a wee bit over the top If your wife reads what you have written I sure she would say rubbish.
You could have sorted that slight problem out straight away.
The pressure of Christmas may be getting to you.
Have a lovely Christmas with your family and do not moan because it is not really you

 

[2131tom]

With some people I think Its an ingrained Hosting need.

There's also the 'strange kind of love' syndrome at work sometimes, too. When I used to visit my mum, she'd load my cup of tea up with 4 spoonsful of sugar, although she never took it herself until she came down with Alzheimer's (but that's another story). My wife, on the other hand, was always trying to get me to give it up.

Which one loved me most? Answers on a postcard please to ............

Merry Christmas to you all, too.

 

[AnnieC]

Fair enough, the bets on then.
Anyone is welcome to post, so how's your husband with you?

Well mine hasn't got a clue about it simply because he is not a diabetic as far as he is concerned diabetics just don't eat sugary stuff which he would hate if he was diabetic as he has a very sweet tooth...Diet is a very difficult thing to explain to a non diabetic
Perhaps some diabetic men expect more from their partners or families than they should

 

[AnnieC]

Hi Duglas99. I know it is just a moan, but dont you think your going a wee bit over the top If your wife reads what you have written I sure she would say rubbish.
You could have sorted that slight problem out straight away.
The pressure of Christmas may be getting to you.
Have a lovely Christmas with your family and do not moan because it is not really you

Hi Duglas99. I know it is just a moan, but dont you think your going a wee bit over the top If your wife reads what you have written I sure she would say rubbish.
You could have sorted that slight problem out straight away.
The pressure of Christmas may be getting to you.
Have a lovely Christmas with your family and do not moan because it is not really you

 

[douglas99]

Hi Duglas99. I know it is just a moan, but dont you think your going a wee bit over the top If your wife reads what you have written I sure she would say rubbish.
You could have sorted that slight problem out straight away.
The pressure of Christmas may be getting to you.
Have a lovely Christmas with your family and do not moan because it is not really you

I'm sure she would say rubbish also.
If fact, you sound very like her.

 

[Andy12345]

Well mine hasn't got a clue about it simply because he is not a diabetic as far as he is concerned diabetics just don't eat sugary stuff which he would hate if he was diabetic as he has a very sweet tooth...Diet is a very difficult thing to explain to a non diabetic
Perhaps some diabetic men expect more from their partners or families than they should

lol, so you didn't read the thread? i wonder would you have taken our side if the conversation were reversed? this wasn't about men and women this was about moaning about living in an unsupportive relationship, but its become a man woman thing? lol, i assume being the fairer sex that there is a lot more unsupportive men than women out there but maybe I'm wrong and it dosent sound like douglas (who i nearly always disagree with hehe) is being unreasonable, it sounds like he's suffering and i feel his pain, personally i believe i have caused my own situation by not expecting enough for so long, i could explain but you don't want to hear it and i don't want to say it hehe