Relationship issues

[Shah1985]

Hi. I hope I have come to the right area of the forum, but I am seeking advice.

I have been in a relationship with my partner for 10 months.

We are both 40 years old and I was aware she had diabetes type 1 insulin dependant when we started dating 9 months ago.

The first 5 months were great and her diabetes never effected us.

However recently over past 2-3 months our relationship has gone downhill.

For some reason we argue a lot and this always raises her stress which doesn't help her diabetes.

I feel I can never say anything right because she always blames her diabetes bidway through an argument.

I would like to hear some views from other diabetics on how it effects your relationship.

I try and be helpful when I see she is suffering, but there is nothing I feel I can do right. She doesn't really explain to me how she feels when her blood sugar is high/low.

What are your experiences with your partner during an argument? Is there anything I can do to try and understand?

 

[novorapidboi26]

My wife has accepted my diabetes just fine fortunately, but I don't bring my diabetes into our relationship............and I have been with her 7 years too........

its true that when your running high or low your mood can change and therefore arguments can follow, but as long as you both can acknowledge that fact you should be able to move on from any arguments you have....

do you feel the arguments are because she is high or low or are they coming from other issues between you like financial or emotional for example.......?

is she good with her diabetes? does she test her blood sugar and inject when she is meant to?

either way it may be a goof idea for you to take an interest, or at least make the effort to pretend to be interested........this could motivate her and help you understand what here control is actually like.........it may be good control, which would suggest the arguments are non related......

arguments are a part of all healthy relationships remember.......its the ability to move on from them that makes it work....

 

[JayPRocks]

Hi there my wife knows all about my diabetes and I like the above poster never bring my diabetes into an argument. That said though I am aware of my mood change to "snappiness" when blood sugars high. I have been diabetic for forty odd years and therefore am knowledgable about my swings. I never snap at my wife but do tell her that I need to inject! It's a bummer as I end up talking to myself saying how silly I am being....