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W08ds

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Location
Shrewsbury
Type of diabetes
Type 1
Treatment type
Insulin
Hi I've been a T1 for two years and my partner has been my rock through it all last week she told me she's leaving me for someone else she says it's down to my attitude over the past few months as I always get into moods etc and she can't cope with the highs and lows , it's left me thinking I'm never going to be happy as I will always be like this it's led to me wanting to end my life in diabetic coma if anyone has any advice or has been trough this please help as I can't cope
 
Hi, I'm type 2 so really don't know how diabetese affects type 1 but have and do suffer from depression and it sounds like you may be suffering too, have you spoken to your doctor about how you feel? I would make an appointment and talk over what has been happening to you, maybe the break up would have happened anyway if she's already met someone else, maybe yor diabetese is an excuse for her to end the relationship. Yes it's painful and I remember being fourteen and a boyfriend dumping me it felt like the end of my world but life went on and other boyfriends came and went until I met the right person. Death is a very permanant solution to a temporary phase in your life, talk to your GP and stay on the forum you will make friends here and they will help
 
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So sorry about your situation @W08ds

You will find happiness again but understand that you don't see this at this present moment in time, but if it all gets too much for you then do seek some professional help.
 
I'm very lucky to have partner who supports me so much through this, so I know how it feels to really rely on someone like that. I do appreciate that's a big responsibility to him too though. Before I met him I'd been with someone else for a couple years and didn't know how I'd cope when he broke up with me (this was before I got diabetes). The best thing you can do is try your hardest to see it as a new start rather than an ending. Keep yourself busy, the worst thing you can do after a break up is be alone a lot, meet up with friends, if you like sport then keep yourself active, I probably did my best uni work when I was in that phase! I would keep chatting to people on here too, even if it's not in a romantic way I'm sure like me you'll find talking to other T1s a comfort.
 
Although he's not diabetic my son was seriously depressed when his girlfriend dumped him as he was stressed by various life changes. He saw the doc & got anti depressants and also started seeing a therapist. I wouldn't say he's 100% but he's getting there. Please see your gp and talk to him. Think of how your death would affect others around you. You might feel there's no light at the end of the tunnel but with help you will start to see the end of the tunnel
 
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Hi I've been a T1 for two years and my partner has been my rock through it all last week she told me she's leaving me for someone else she says it's down to my attitude over the past few months as I always get into moods etc and she can't cope with the highs and lows , it's left me thinking I'm never going to be happy as I will always be like this it's led to me wanting to end my life in diabetic coma if anyone has any advice or has been trough this please help as I can't cope
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Sounds to me like diabetes is a convenient excuse for her, it's a cliche but you can do better than her.
 
Hi,

It's a timeless story I'm afraid. Ironically I walked out of a relationship once & the non D girl in question retained my insulin & attempted something similar...

You need to ask yourself, do you have family & friends? What you propose would have a seriously devastating effect on them.
I'm not going to elaborate on what would be left behind. However, finding your future & staying in their respective lives is a far easier option..

Good luck!
 
I would also agree with some of the previous posters and this is not necessarily about your diabetes, but you have had her support over the last couple of years with your diagnosis so it is a double blow! I also agree that you are probably caught in the moment so don't be rash! I think 'talking' therapy such as counselling of cognitive behavioural therapy would help give you strength and tips on dealing with problems in your life without having to rely on others. If you speak to your GP you can often refer yourself to these services. It is the 'pits' feeling like you do at the moment and I'm sure a lot of us have been in your position and survived, probably stronger more independent people. I'm sure you can get lots of knowledge and support with your diabetes by asking questions on here, not just practically but emotionally as well but as others have implied don't let the dark thoughts linger, get some help if you need!
 
Ah she hit you with the it's not me but you, well really it is her, she knows it and is using your diabetes as an excuse, she is a cheat and not a very kind one. Better to know this now than after you rely on her any more.
By ending it you will be given her the final say in your life and she isn't worth it
As other has said you need to speak to your GP, get your friends and family involved in looking after you, remember there is always some one on here to talk to.
 
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Hi I've been a T1 for two years and my partner has been my rock through it all last week she told me she's leaving me for someone else she says it's down to my attitude over the past few months as I always get into moods etc and she can't cope with the highs and lows , it's left me thinking I'm never going to be happy as I will always be like this it's led to me wanting to end my life in diabetic coma if anyone has any advice or has been trough this please help as I can't cope
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I think as the others do, she seems to have used your diabetes as an excuse to get out of the relationship. It hurts like mad and it feels as though your heart has been ripped apart and it will never end. But honestly, in time, believe me, it will get better, a little easier as time goes by. My ex left me and our 2 children, he said he didn't love me any more. He was my first real boyfriend at age 16, he broke my heart, but I did get over it.
It's not the end of the world, it's just feels like it at the time. If you still continue to feel the way you do, please seek some professional help, support and guidance. Please look after your self and take care.

Quote :-
'Some day you’ll cry for me
Like I cried for you
Some day you’ll miss me
Like I miss you
Some day you’ll need me
Like I needed you
Some day you’ll Love me… But I won’t Love you…
 
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I've just read everyone's replies and I must say I didn't realise there was soo many nice people out there I really really appreciate what everyone has said there's some great advice I have booked doctors tomorrow to seek some help thankyou hope to chat to chat to you all again x
 
Stay strong! Love is unconditional and the mood swings come with us as a package, there will be a girl who supports you in your highs and lows, who understands. she clearly did not grasp that relationships are full of compromises and mood swings/ highs and lows can be overcome, there are worse situations to be in. You need someone who makes you proud to be you, warts and all, not someone who makes you feel guilty... Fear not! We all love you on this forum, and you must carry on and be happy with your head held high... For our sake! Xx
 
I agree with the others - the diabetes is just an excuse. Any decent woman would've supported you and helped you overcome the swings, but she chose to run to someone else - never excusable.

I hope you get the help you need from your GP to see you through this difficult time x
 
Big hug, as quoted before this is a temporary phase and it will get alot better, you've done brilliantly by booking an apt with your doctor. An ex left me for another woman about 10 years ago, my world fell apart, it was really the worst time of my life but I went to see my doctor and had a good chat and saw alot more sense afterwards and now looking back I see him for what he really was which was a lying deceitful individual who would of made my life miserable, he got married and is now divorced (think she saw sense too) - time gives you perspective to see things as they really are and from what I can gather you've had a lucky escape, although it won't feel like that at the moment it certainly will in time. Take care and look after you x
 
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