carophie04 said:
Thanks Truffle for your reply. Well done for resisting scraping the bowl! I know what you have said is right and I just hope I can quickly feel that way too instead of at the moment feeling extremely hard done by, as I said, giving up virtually everthing else and now having to give up the foods I like and enjoy as well. I have a beautiful 7 year old granddaughter - I gave up smoking when she was born - so I shall have to console myself that the sacrifices I am now having to make will hopefully gain me extra years to enjoy her company in the future. Thanks again.
Now here's the thing. You need to separate your anger (I was really angry!) away from the consequences. You gave up smoking because you recognised it would be wrong and selfish to smoke around your granddaughter. This is no different. You need to recognise you need to give up (or cut right down)
some foods for exactly the same reasons. When that realisation came over me that is what gave me the willpower to give the stuff up. Essentially it amounts to why should I selfishly impose any future grief I might get on my wife and family? Why should I expect THEM to sort me out? I need to take responsibility for my own actions.
The good news is it really is the same as giving up smoking as like yourself I gave that up a while back as well. Remember how you felt when you were smoking but were thinking about giving up and how you head kept telling you "I know its bad but I enjoy smoking". To me you are just saying "I know its bad but I enjoy rice". The cravings for those things do pass just as the cravings for smoking did. Once you do give up the starch you suddenly find you can substitute stuff into your diet that is actually far nicer!
What you say about being able to eat anything you want so long as you keep under 10
IS very much the same philosophy as many of us have including myself. We call that philosophy "Eat to your meter" which says eat what you want but just make sure you keep safe. We are not killjoys just realists. The only difference between you and us is most of us say 8 not 10. It's 8 because there is a lot of evidence that going over 8 is where you will end up having to rely on your partner and family in later years...
Without getting too technical above 8 is where levels have been shown to start to damage the backs of your eyes and to progressively kill off your insulin production capability. So keeping above 8 will invariably lead you onto insulin in the end as your insulin production will at some point be totally lost.
This 10 number seems to have become the new "goal" that DSN's have been told to push probably so that it is easier to show some government target is being met. It is strange that in the UK there is now a completely unofficial safe target level of 10 even though the official UK NICE guidelines remain at 8.5. Even the old UK NICE 8.5 level is out of date as most other countries reduced the same level to 7.8 around 5 years ago.
Take care and try and redirect your anger in a positive way. No one would deny you the right to feel angry but don't let it eat away at you.