SueJB
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Aaaaaaa h........ People can't appreciate the value of silence and just have to prattle and talk rubbish telling you the details of people's lives you haven't heard of. (Forgive the dangling participle)
OMG that's awful. Hope your son is ok.I've got a big scream . Tonight my son gets attacked by three yobs . While he was getting medical treatment in hospital some scum bag has broken into his car to try and steal it . I literally feel sick to the stomach .
Has a bleed on the brain.OMG that's awful. Hope your son is ok.
Best wishes for your sonHas a bleed on the brain.
I can see it from both sides but talking to each other with respect will always hold the key. From both ends.Ok maybe I'm being a moaning Minnie but who else sort of can see where I'm coming from
I have an adult daughter (she's 29) with 2 children (one aged 9, the other 14 months)
Now I love to see my granddaughters but its hard going especially as neither myself or hubby are in the best of health. Now my daughter will bring the girls for tea on a Thursday and does nothing to help. She sits playing games on her phone or texts the boyfriend. So that leaves one of us cooking and the other of us looking after a child that wants her mom. Yesterday was particularly bad and as it was the 9 year old's birthday they had takeaway pizza. Little one had been crying from 3.30 til 6 and then when we sat little one down to eat she demolished everything in front of her and then my daughter remarked 'oh she hasnt eaten today'
Any thoughts? Social services are involved with the family due to the boyfriend and his past criminal record
I can see it from both sides but talking to each other with respect will always hold the key. From both ends.
Daughter wants a break from kids and you want to see them but not physically help, as much as you are now.
Can you see things from your daughters side and is it possible for her to see your side?
Clearly not a case of not wanting kids in your house but you don't want to care for them, just see them.
I'm guessing your daughter doesnt like that idea?
You both need to talk, not shout. Sit your daughter down and explain why you're not able to do the caring part and give her a break from it.
Hopefully she will understand.
A very common situation. If you ask other grandparents.
My older sister talks and talks about absolutely nothing of interest. She tells me how she brushed the paint on her bedroom wall and how she painted the corners. I fell asleep in the time it took her to tell me the whole boring 20mins of her saga. Yawn! Some people!People that prattle on about other people talking rubbish
A very upsetting situation. You are doing your best.My daughter doesnt have granddaughter number 1 from Thurs through to Monday. She doesnt have granddaughter number 2 from Friday through Monday.
We're not expecting miracles as my daughter isnt very motherly but just a bit of courtesy would help. After all if a child is crying 'momma' then nanna isnt going to quite cut it.
We do want to care for them because at least they get consistency with us but if either of us arent feeling too good that day - hubby physical health, me mental health - then it is a lot to deal with.
And we have both the granddaughters on a Sunday without my daughter as she is too busy looking after her boyfriend's daughter.
It's all a big mess and we're cramming in as much as we can now before those children are taken
Thank you. You are right. I just wish my 2 sisters and mum cherished them, like I do.I understand about your mom - had one similar myself. You know what you should think 'it's her losing out not the kids or you'. After all your children have mom and dad and each other, who else do they need? As they will get older they will understand who was there and who wasnt