So I'm 20 years old I got type 1 diabetes this year around the finishing month of January around February I started taking my insulin on my own after leaving the hospital but then i just stopped caring.I was depressed and still am I won't check my blood sugar or take my insulin or lantus it burns alot and I hate needles I just lost it around February i stopped caring. My grandfather died from diabetes when I was 13 years old half his left side stopped working he was in the hospital bed couldn't walk any more forgot all his kids and grandkids who they were he was to me my best friend and I wasn't their for his funeral because I was in school and they sent him to his home land and I couldn't go my mother had no money for the both of us to fly and i had to keep an eye on my young brother cant trust nannys these days. and in the hospital I would just sit and think why me I had so much to live for and big plans like if i ever want kids i was told its more complicated and if you dont do this you and the baby will be affected like why just why did this happen why did it have to happen bad enough i feel bad if i have a kid and he or she get diabetes i would blame myself i try to take inulin but I end up forgetting or just not trying I have thought about just giving up on life itself my mother is a nurse and I tried to explain to her how I feel I just get a lecture on how I'm lucky I have diabetes because she's seen other patients who has it harder like cancer and how iam going to excuse my language ***** up* my body slowly damage my body on the other hand iam a daddy's girl and he cried for weeks learning the fact i have this for the rest of my life and because of him i want to change and better my self every day i see him crying it hurts me and i never seen a grown man cried till that day i woke up in the hospital with my dad by my side ik I probably sound like a ass or child like but any tips.
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Type 1 diabetes
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Daibell
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Hi and welcome. I'm sorry to hear of your diabetes life so far. I would certainly recoomend some counselling if you haven't already been down that route. To some extent diabetes isn't the worst condition you can have because it can be well managed whereas there are many other conditions which can't be. Both my parents died of cancer, one at 50, and they couldn't do anything about it.whereas we can. Do take your insulin and measure your sugars. If Lantus stings do ask to be swapped to Levemir which is less likely to. Note that you shouldn't assume that any children you have will also have T1. The genetics is very complicated. The risk may be higher but that doesn't mean it will happen. Good luck and do seek more help.
Natalie1974
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Hi @Channyb
I'm so sad to hear you are not coping too well...your post had me in tears...especially reading about how your father is dealing with your diagnosis...he obviously loves you very much.
Diabetes is a big blow for anyone and it takes some time to come to terms with. Please be assured though...that it is not the end of the world and nor does it mean that you can't go on to lead a perfectly normal life...there are many people on this site who've been diagnosed extremely young and have gone on to have children...sure there are risks involved but it's not impossible, you just need to take control of your diabetes rather than let it control you...because that's how complications set in.
I think that what happened to your grandad must've had a very big impact on you and has scared you into thinking this will happen to you too but I think maybe you need to try and put things into perspective. Yes...diabetes can cause complications but insulins and testing methods have come a long way over the last 20-30 years which gives us the tools we need to take control...perhaps your grandad didn't have access to these tools in the early days of his diagnosis which led to his particular complications. You however...have heaps of tools and information at your fingertips and information is power...learn about diabetes...talk to other diabetics and learn how to control it.
I'm sure your mum doesn't mean to sound dismissive but as has been said many times on this site...it's very hard for non-diabetics to truly understand what life is like for us...which is where this site comes into it's own...people here live with it every day and really do understand...so keep posting and ask away...you will get plenty of support and advice.
What you are feeling is perfectly normal and most if not all diabetics can relate to these feelings following diagnosis but as @Daibell says...you may benefit from seeking some counselling...never be afraid to seek help. Have a good browse around this forum you will be amazed at what you can learn...I personally have been diabetic for 15 years now and since coming here I've learned way more than I ever learnt from my care team or any book. If nothing else...for your dads sake...take control...you'll feel way better for it...I promise.
I'm off on holiday this afternoon so won't be around for a while so I'm going to tag a couple of other Type1's @Robinredbreast, @donnellysdogs, @Eldorado who will be able to offer you more support and advice.
Wish you all the best
Natalie x
I'm so sad to hear you are not coping too well...your post had me in tears...especially reading about how your father is dealing with your diagnosis...he obviously loves you very much.
Diabetes is a big blow for anyone and it takes some time to come to terms with. Please be assured though...that it is not the end of the world and nor does it mean that you can't go on to lead a perfectly normal life...there are many people on this site who've been diagnosed extremely young and have gone on to have children...sure there are risks involved but it's not impossible, you just need to take control of your diabetes rather than let it control you...because that's how complications set in.
I think that what happened to your grandad must've had a very big impact on you and has scared you into thinking this will happen to you too but I think maybe you need to try and put things into perspective. Yes...diabetes can cause complications but insulins and testing methods have come a long way over the last 20-30 years which gives us the tools we need to take control...perhaps your grandad didn't have access to these tools in the early days of his diagnosis which led to his particular complications. You however...have heaps of tools and information at your fingertips and information is power...learn about diabetes...talk to other diabetics and learn how to control it.
I'm sure your mum doesn't mean to sound dismissive but as has been said many times on this site...it's very hard for non-diabetics to truly understand what life is like for us...which is where this site comes into it's own...people here live with it every day and really do understand...so keep posting and ask away...you will get plenty of support and advice.
What you are feeling is perfectly normal and most if not all diabetics can relate to these feelings following diagnosis but as @Daibell says...you may benefit from seeking some counselling...never be afraid to seek help. Have a good browse around this forum you will be amazed at what you can learn...I personally have been diabetic for 15 years now and since coming here I've learned way more than I ever learnt from my care team or any book. If nothing else...for your dads sake...take control...you'll feel way better for it...I promise.
I'm off on holiday this afternoon so won't be around for a while so I'm going to tag a couple of other Type1's @Robinredbreast, @donnellysdogs, @Eldorado who will be able to offer you more support and advice.
Wish you all the best
Natalie x
ButtterflyLady
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I have type 2 diabetes so I can only relate to some of what you are going through. I agree with what the others said and I think their suggestions are really good. I just wanted to say hi and send you a big hug, and let you know that I care. I believe you will be able to do anything you set your mind to in life. There are type 1 diabetics in all walks of life, achieving great things, having children, travelling the world. Don't let it hold you back, there is so much fun and adventure out there, once you have got things sorted with your diabetes you will be able to set goals and makes your dreams happen.
4ratbags
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Hi and welcome to the forum. Diabetes can certainly be a shock to the system no matter what type you have and it unfortunately takes a certain level of personal commitment to keep it on an even keel. I'm sorry to hear that your journey so far has been a bit rough but hopefully you will find the forum a great source of help and support. Sending you a great big hug and a 
NinaB73
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You post is really heart felt and touched me! You sound quiet desperate and despairing! The best thing you could of done was to post on here where others understand you! What happened with your grandfather is probably playing out like a horror story for you! This probably won't happen to you! It is hard to take control of your diabetes at a young age, I struggled the most in my late teens, early 20's It is very daunting! But it does sound like you want to take control... I had a healthy child who is now 16 and as Daibell says you must not assume a child will also be diabetic, in fact it will be likely that they will not! Pregnancy is not an easy ride but not too difficult in this day and age. The advances in diabetes treatment since your grandfathers time is amazing! If you are finding it hard to manage, there are loads of people in their 20's on here that I am sure will empathise with you!
Just remember you still have the same things to live for, it has never held me back, it just takes a bit of thought from time to time but as you get more familiar with dealing with it the thought becomes second nature! If you continue to struggle, as others have said, try and speak to someone about this. I do believe you will feel very differently about this in time to come, good luck x
What happened with your grandfather is probably playing out like a horror story for you! This probably won't happen to you! It is hard to take control of your diabetes at a young age, I struggled the most in my late teens, early 20's It is very daunting! But it does sound like you want to take control... I had a healthy child who is now 16 and as Daibell says you must not assume a child will also be diabetic, in fact it will be likely that they will not! Pregnancy is not an easy ride but not too difficult in this day and age. The advances in diabetes treatment since your grandfathers time is amazing! If you are finding it hard to manage, there are loads of people in their 20's on here that I am sure will empathise with you!Just remember you still have the same things to live for, it has never held me back, it just takes a bit of thought from time to time but as you get more familiar with dealing with it the thought becomes second nature! If you continue to struggle, as others have said, try and speak to someone about this. I do believe you will feel very differently about this in time to come, good luck x
