So, I've had a break from the forums and tried to live out a normal life during time off with my partner, it's been a time of mixed feelings, we are off work and the sun is shining pretty much every day.
I've been doubling up my efforts at the gym and going twice a day,(Don't worry she is getting ready during my first morning session), and my emotions are mixed(as usual) there are times and days where things are mostly good(and the thought of upsetting her because I want to leave her makes e cry), but, I can't help but feel there is some kind of emotional distance between us at a very subtle level, however it manifests at a higher level after she has drank, like tonight.
This is the binding element in all of this. Her drinking.
I got back from the gym tonight and she had started to cook dinner, I didn't ask her to. she was clearly drunk, and, yeah...I did a stupid thing, which was remind her that she owed me £5 from the birthday party meal out we'd been to on the night before..of course she couldn't remember this, because she had drank that night, and we are in the argument zone...she is so petty about money that this conversation ended with her crying in the front room, eating dinner separately and her going to bed, or rather falling asleep on the bed drunk fully clothed.
I've had a think about things and I think this is more than a midlife crisis, I have awakened to myself, and, I don't think she likes it. She doesn't like me being image conscious about myself, which I now am, and that was partly the haze of high blood sugars covering it, but...I think she liked the lazy docile high blood sugared me, and not the alert, freethinking version of me that has emerged over the past year.