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First off sorry for the length and super sorry if this is quite out of place here or if I’m imposing. I felt compelled to make an account just to ask this. I just didn’t know where else to turn. I’ve spent countless moments looking into the effects of diabetes on the mind , what life entails with it and extensively arming myself with info. I’ve learned a lot but human advice beats out articles.
Guys....I just really need any insight or help :•( Any clarity offered would be eternally appreciate beyond measure.
I was dating this 21 year old male with type 1 diabetes and we had the saddest break up after I flown out to see him alone for the first time. Ended up having to stay over night in the hospital a few days with him after he had a diabetic ketoacidosis attack. He vomited in front of me continuously ( crying saying how I never would have wanted anyone to see me like this especially you and how he ruined the trip) and got embarrassed by it, plus when we met up months later on a video game trip with friends he told to me that after I left to the airport he went upstairs to his apartment and said “ this is where we should have hung out, not a hospital”. Sorry if this is TMI but whenever we tried to be intimate for his first time he got upset cause he found it difficult to get hard , he had said “I really want to but it’s like my body won’t let me” super frustrated. The month before he had appendicitis so he had scars that were healing as well that hurt him. When we were in the hospital he said diabetes has ruined so much for him and he just struggles with taking care of himself with ordering take out so much.
I had ordered him a diabetic cook book to try to help yet I don’t know if he even uses it but I wanted to do something. I was willing to be by his side for the rides. Not matter what. Both ups and downs in accordance to his diabetes. He suffers from depression and high anxiety. We had a big sad fight in December which all just ties into him pushing away people and being closed off....we haven’t spoken since.
I cry and cry. It’s too much in wondering what he goes through.
I truly love/loved him with all my heart and wanted to continuously support him with all I am. I just need even a little glimpse of perspective. I just please please ask anyone, especially a male, how diabetes effected your view on involving another person romantically. Or if there was a time you felt unworthy of love because you didn’t want to put someone else through the process. Thank you guys.
Guys....I just really need any insight or help :•( Any clarity offered would be eternally appreciate beyond measure.
I was dating this 21 year old male with type 1 diabetes and we had the saddest break up after I flown out to see him alone for the first time. Ended up having to stay over night in the hospital a few days with him after he had a diabetic ketoacidosis attack. He vomited in front of me continuously ( crying saying how I never would have wanted anyone to see me like this especially you and how he ruined the trip) and got embarrassed by it, plus when we met up months later on a video game trip with friends he told to me that after I left to the airport he went upstairs to his apartment and said “ this is where we should have hung out, not a hospital”. Sorry if this is TMI but whenever we tried to be intimate for his first time he got upset cause he found it difficult to get hard , he had said “I really want to but it’s like my body won’t let me” super frustrated. The month before he had appendicitis so he had scars that were healing as well that hurt him. When we were in the hospital he said diabetes has ruined so much for him and he just struggles with taking care of himself with ordering take out so much.
I had ordered him a diabetic cook book to try to help yet I don’t know if he even uses it but I wanted to do something. I was willing to be by his side for the rides. Not matter what. Both ups and downs in accordance to his diabetes. He suffers from depression and high anxiety. We had a big sad fight in December which all just ties into him pushing away people and being closed off....we haven’t spoken since.
I cry and cry. It’s too much in wondering what he goes through.
I truly love/loved him with all my heart and wanted to continuously support him with all I am. I just need even a little glimpse of perspective. I just please please ask anyone, especially a male, how diabetes effected your view on involving another person romantically. Or if there was a time you felt unworthy of love because you didn’t want to put someone else through the process. Thank you guys.