"What have you eaten" Parallel Chat

Annb said:

Must try using cottage cheese like that - not with proper lasagne, of course, but with a substitute.

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Me too! Sliced aubergine or courgette perhaps?

Annb said:

I never saw cottage cheese as a child - during rationing and a bit after. Maybe it wasn't available.

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I don't think it was commercially produced until home refrigeration became widespread. The first one I remember was Sainsbury's own brand in the late 70s, next to "curd cheese" in similar packaging. There was a little Mr Men-like house in sludgy green and yellow on the pot I seem to recall.

Annb said:

(my parents were believers in malt and cod liver oil)

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Another, less fond, childhood memory is the daily spoon of cod liver oil . We kids were allowed a small orange juice afterwards (it was still disgusting) but my mum enjoyed hers in a glass of milk. The mind boggles.

Annb said:

My dad bought a glass of "Cherry B" (a kind of cherry wine but much reduced alcohol content) in the early 60's. That made me swear off alcohol for good as well.

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Cherry B was my grandmother's favourite. I tried it about 20 years ago, but was unimpressed. Like Babycham, I think it was marketed as being appropriate for respectable ladies who weren't middle-class enough for sherry! I was more of a pint of cider girl (definitely not a lady)

Good thing this is "parallel chat" or I'd be in trouble.

Anyways, today I've had 3 fried eggs and tonight will be picky tea of cold pork, cheese, gherkins, olives and anything else we think of. Back to one meal and one snack per day for the most part.

debs248 said:

Me too! Sliced aubergine or courgette perhaps?

I don't think it was commercially produced until home refrigeration became widespread. The first one I remember was Sainsbury's own brand in the late 70s, next to "curd cheese" in similar packaging. There was a little Mr Men-like house in sludgy green and yellow on the pot I seem to recall.

Another, less fond, childhood memory is the daily spoon of cod liver oil . We kids were allowed a small orange juice afterwards (it was still disgusting) but my mum enjoyed hers in a glass of milk. The mind boggles.

Cherry B was my grandmother's favourite. I tried it about 20 years ago, but was unimpressed. Like Babycham, I think it was marketed as being appropriate for respectable ladies who weren't middle-class enough for sherry! I was more of a pint of cider girl (definitely not a lady)

Good thing this is "parallel chat" or I'd be in trouble.

Anyways, today I've had 3 fried eggs and tonight will be picky tea of cold pork, cheese, gherkins, olives and anything else we think of. Back to one meal and one snack per day for the most part.

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My mother liked a glass of Babycham, but could never have a 2nd glass. The first one made her happy, the second, tiddly. Didn't like that either.

debs248 said:

Me too! Sliced aubergine or courgette perhaps

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I make a passable lasagne using savoy cabbage leaves, blanched in boiling water first, then drained well

My mum liked Snowballs, advocat and lemonade. Never see them these days.

In a few days I'm going to pick up her charm bracelet...never see them these days, and I haven't seen this one for over 50 years but instantly remembered it.

Food today was
11 ish, leftover fritatta from last night
4 ish a Five Guys burger in a lettuce wrap, remembering @Goonergal who introduced me to these. They serve them with wooden knife and fork these days!!! I spurned the cutlery though, the mess running down one's hand is half the fun.
7 ish a mini icecream.
That's it for food today

Saw The Salt Path at the cinema. A good rendition of the book but I do wonder how it would be for some one who hasn't read it

I never had cod liver oil when I was a child. Every Sunday night my step-mother would dissolve a teaspoon of Epsom salts in a saucer and I had to drink it. it was absolutely disgusting! It was for clearing my system (which, as a normal, healthy, active child. was perfectly fine). And, don't forget we had squares of newspaper hanging in the outside toilet..... or is that TMI? lol

MrsA2 said:

4 ish a Five Guys burger in a lettuce wrap, remembering @Goonergal who introduced me to these.

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I love how she's still around with Five Guys burgers or a pretty dish with fishes. Small 'hello's like little presents.

Yesterday I had a quick meal of a pork chop fried with onions, bell pepper and oyster mushrooms. On Goonergals fishy plate.
The plan was to have the pork chop with cauliflower cheese but that was more complicated and too much after having an intense whatsapp conversation with date to be.



I also cooked a meatloaf with lots of onion to be eaten on my bridge for the next three days. Very pretty, and definitely as tasty as it looks:



With all the added onion the meatloaf is more than enough for 3 days, so I asked the date if he'd join me for dinner on the bridge on friday.
The plan is to spend the whole weekend together and we're very much looking forward to it.
We've already met, when it was not a date, he came to my bridge because he was interested in seeing it only days after our first contact on the dating site. We liked eachother and had a very interesting conversation but we didn't think about dating at all. I think this has changed after weeks of whatsapp, we both very much look forward to being together, and we both crave human touch.

I'm very much looking forward to the weekend!
We'll both be tired after a work week, which is fine. He has been very recently diagnosed with autism, and is working very hard to find his way with that. He tends to overdo stuff and not allow himself to recover.
So I made a place in the spare room where he can unwind if needed, a whole weekend is a long time to be socialising.

He can't write without horrible mistakes, and my inner grammar police officer is getting used to it, not sure what to think about that. I guess it'll teach me.

This is the meal I had today on the bridge, and the meal we'll share on friday, except I'll add some fresh basil to the tomatoes and mozzarella.

MrsA2 said:

My mum liked Snowballs, advocat and lemonade. Never see them these days.

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We do them every Xmas, it's almost the only alcohol I drink nowadays. It's a family tradition in both my and my husband's families.

Breakfast: egg mayo and RyVita.

Hoping Neil will get me some chicken wings for a 2nd meal. Barbecue style wings with salad.

@Antje77 share the recipe for the meatloaf

Why are you eating onions if you're going to kiss?

Zhnyaka said:

Why are you eating onions if you're going to kiss?

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Lots of garlic in the meatloaf as well.
But it'll be fine, he'll join me for dinner on the bridge right before the end of my shift so we'll both stink the same!

Zhnyaka said:

@Antje77 share the recipe for the meatloaf

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I didn't do any weighing of ingredients, and adding flavour was mostly spontaneously adding things from my cupboard I thought would taste well, will be different next time but here you go:

300 gr minced meat, I used a mix of pork and beef.
Two onions
Half a head of garlic
Some bell pepper
Grated cheese
A chilli pepper
A good glug of cream
A duck egg (doesn't have to be duck of course, it was just what I had)

Mustard
Sambal badjak (Indonesian hot sauce)
A spicy kecap (also Indonesian)
Black bean and garlic paste, very salty so I didn't use salt.
A spoonful of black beans in chilli oil
Nutmeg, powdered ginger, powdered cloves, powdered cumin.

Mix well, bake. (Not sure how long or how hot I baked, sorry.

Annb said:

Breakfast: egg mayo and RyVita.

Hoping Neil will get me some chicken wings for a 2nd meal. Barbecue style wings with salad.

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Correction: Barbecue style drumsticks.

Zhnyaka said:

Why are you eating onions if you're going to kiss?

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Good test as to whether he's a keeper

I couldn't contemplate a long term relationship with someone who disliked onions and garlic. It was hard enough giving up baked beans (hubby has an issue, almost a phobia) and it's not like I ate them often anyway.

Yesterday I had

3 fried eggs.

Smoked mackerel with salad and olives. Also had cheese and cold pork on the plate but filled up early in the hot weather so saved them for later.

A young coconut. I drank all the liquid and hubby and I shared the flesh.

A double cherry Magnum.

The pork and cheese with a gherkin, crisps and a few haribos.

Today I have had a bite or two of hubby's hoi sin duck wrap, and we're having salmon later.

Edit: hubby popped into Lidl on his way home and has texted me a photo of some reduced sushi. Looks like salmon may be postponed until tomorrow!

debs248 said:

Good test as to whether he's a keeper

I couldn't contemplate a long term relationship with someone who disliked onions and garlic. It was hard enough giving up baked beans (hubby has an issue, almost a phobia) and it's not like I ate them often anyway.

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The smell of boiled peas makes my boyfriend feel sick, but I love peas in all their forms, so I have to eat when I'm not around him

Although I really like onions and garlic, I don't like it when the mouth of a person who kisses me smells like it, so I usually brush my teeth and wait a few hours before kissing someone after such a meal.

debs248 said:

Good test as to whether he's a keeper

I couldn't contemplate a long term relationship with someone who disliked onions and garlic.

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I agree, would be very hard, most of my meals start with chopping an onion.

The date is allergic to anything containing cocoa, so I suppose no chocolate for me this weekend.

Antje77 said:

The date is allergic to anything containing cocoa, so I suppose no chocolate for me this weekend.

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OK to give up chocolate for a weekend but do take care long term!!!! Make sure he's worth the sacrifice!!

I was going to say I'm married to someone mildly on the autistic spectrum, and have another relative who is right at the strong end and while relationships are possible they can be hard work. Perhaps more so for a free spirit such yourself who likes spontaneity. With my hubby we have to diarise a time to be spontaneous (is that an appropriate emoji?). Compromise on both sides. 32 years now and still together.

Your guy sounds interesting and intelligent. With my relation, we have many deep conversations until we differ and he cannot compute that I can disagree or there can be another way. He's very exact and continues to press his view, no matter what. It gets exhausting.

Space, both physical and mental, will certainly give your date time to process and decompress and is a thoughtful strategy to put in place.

I hope it goes well for you both, and I can't wait to hear .

B: greek yoghurt with freshly picked raspberries. 2 sqs hm lc coffee cake
L: salad of tuna, olives, cucumber and tomato and coleslaw. Mini icecream
D: bolognaise mince on green beans with sprinkle cheese. Chia raspberry and chocolate pudding.

Did the heavy housework early before it got too hot. Spent the afternoon on social telephone calls, good for the soul

Thanks for the tips @MrsA2 , very useful!
Funny too, I joined a facebook group for neurovergent adults yesterday to ask for tips for dating someone with autism, esecially as he's newly diagnosed and still working very hard to find out how to adjust to make his life a bit easier. Your reply fits perfectly with what they advised.

MrsA2 said:

while relationships are possible they can be hard work. Perhaps more so for a free spirit such yourself who likes spontaneity.

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This weekend is for enjoying ourselves and eachother, and seeing if this becomes a friendship (possibly with benefits) or potentially more. I have absolutely no idea yet, but I do trust we'll have a good weekend together.
I'm not worried about adjusting to more planned spontaneity. He's pretty spontaneous himself, this meeting was proposed by him earlier this week because an 80 km walk was cancelled, and I have no problem asking if whatever spontaneous idea suits him and listening to the reply, even if it's no.
The things he seems to struggle with the most are very similar to my own when I was still depressed, what he tells me sounds very familiar.
I'm more worried about completely different social backgrounds, I hope we'll be able to understand eachother.

MrsA2 said:

I hope it goes well for you both, and I can't wait to hear .

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You'll hear, don't worry!
It may take a few days, he's planning to stay all weekend and even packed his work clothes so he can choose to spend half the night with me on sunday before leaving for work at 3 am, he lives a two and a half hour drive away. Sounds like a pretty bad idea to me, but it sounds pretty flexible as well!

Same food on the bridge as yesterday, prettier picture. And with added basil leaves, which I don't buy for myself but with having a guest on my bridge tomorrow I had the perfect excuse to buy a basil plant.
I have my break 4-6 pm and another two hours of work after that. So I eat at around 6:30, food tastes better during paid hours, no need to waste my break!

MrsA2 said:

OK to give up chocolate for a weekend but do take care long term!!!! Make sure he's worth the sacrifice!!

I was going to say I'm married to someone mildly on the autistic spectrum, and have another relative who is right at the strong end and while relationships are possible they can be hard work. Perhaps more so for a free spirit such yourself who likes spontaneity. With my hubby we have to diarise a time to be spontaneous (is that an appropriate emoji?). Compromise on both sides. 32 years now and still together.

Your guy sounds interesting and intelligent. With my relation, we have many deep conversations until we differ and he cannot compute that I can disagree or there can be another way. He's very exact and continues to press his view, no matter what. It gets exhausting.

Space, both physical and mental, will certainly give your date time to process and decompress and is a thoughtful strategy to put in place.

I hope it goes well for you both, and I can't wait to hear .

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I get the impression that there are lots of us who are somewhere on the autistic scale, but not obviously so. I have certainly come across both high performing autism and some at the other end of the spectrum - not sure where I am, or if I would be considered to be on it at all. My late husband had quite a few traits which could have put him on the spectrum, but was very intelligent and gifted in music, his cousin was one of those highly intelligent but extremely argumentative people, also, thinking back, quite possibly autistic and an excellent engineer. His sister's son has been diagnosed as autistic in his late 50's, also highly intelligent and successful in his field. My son also displays quite a few characteristics, also highly intelligent, musical and determined and quite unable to understand people, so would rather do without them. He was diagnosed when he was 48. My close friend's late husband - also highly intelligent - displayed many of the traits, also totally unable to understand people and suffered seriously as a result of bullying in his work place (also my work place and I had to make great effort to try to persuade members of staff not to bully him - some successes, some failures). Maybe it's just because I have come across the phenomenon so much that I think it is pretty normal and have the impression that many in the population are somewhere on the spectrum. I haven't come across any studies that support that impression though.