@Lilysun , yes, be kind to yourself in all this, I would say. You are doing all the right things now to turn your situation around.
I feel for you regarding the garlic bread and the cake. With an HBA1c at 97 - yeah - I don't know how motivation works for you. But I would use that very high blood glucose as incentive to not take those bites! Could your husband not overly tempt you by not bringing the cake home? It's not that it's criminal - just that with an overloaded, hugely overloaded glucose and insulin system - such food is toxic to you. Well, that's one way to look at it at any rate. (That's how I look at it.)
And I agree with those above - it can take a while for the low-carbing to really kick in, and all of our metabolisms are different. The same goes for any anti-diabetic medications - they can actually work on different folks in different ways, is my understanding, even if the basic chemical situation is the same, our bodies levels of ill-health aren't. With metformin they say to wait three weeks to three months to see how it is going to work for you, and what, if any, side effects you are going to have. But nothing beats 'diet and exericse' for really getting to the underlying cause of type two, emphasis on diet.
It took me five months of hard slog and newly to meds to get from low 60s hba1c to mid to high 40s (this is not my first time) - a longer time to bring blood glucose (and the insulin of course) down for insulin-resistance based type two can be how it is for you. Be patient with yourself and your blood glucose regulation system while you find out how your type two plays out? Is what I would recommend.