Worrying about the wrong things for last 25 years

[Peppergirl]

I've got to the point now where, although things bother me, nothing worries me more than the diabetes complications. I've always worried about very stupid things, especially work and just anxious all the time and it led me to drink too much etc. But now the only thing that really scares me is retinopathy. I'm doing everything I can to delay/prevent it, but angry that I didn't start LCHF/tight control much earlier.

 

[db89]

What's done is done, we can't do anything about the past now. If you've made a change that you think will be beneficial going forward then great! Try and redirect the worrying into determination to stick with it

 

[mist]

I've got to the point now where, although things bother me, nothing worries me more than the diabetes complications. I've always worried about very stupid things, especially work and just anxious all the time and it led me to drink too much etc. But now the only thing that really scares me is retinopathy. I'm doing everything I can to delay/prevent it, but angry that I didn't start LCHF/tight control much earlier.

Hey try not to be too hard on yourself. You worried about the things that seemed important at that particular point in your life, this is no different. Life is just a series of phases and our priorities, concerns and worries change with each phase.

Try and recognise your accomplishments, that you are now better situated to address your current concerns and that you still have time to make a difference.

The past no longer exists, it did once, when it was present and happening, but it's gone now, it only exists in your mind as memories and thoughts and they have no power over you at all, you are the one responsible for your thoughts and consequently how you will feel in any given moment, as every emotion is preceded by a thought.

The future, which hasn't happened yet, but is unravelling with each passing second is what you hold in your hands, and you can mould it however you please, so make something good out of it.

Best of luck to you.

 

[covknit]

I've got to the point now where, although things bother me, nothing worries me more than the diabetes complications. I've always worried about very stupid things, especially work and just anxious all the time and it led me to drink too much etc. But now the only thing that really scares me is retinopathy. I'm doing everything I can to delay/prevent it, but angry that I didn't start LCHF/tight control much earlier.

Check this free, on line, no pressure course out. Even though you are now getting life into better proportion you may find the concepts discussed helpful https://www.futurelearn.com/courses/mindfulness-wellbeing-performance/6/todo/8614.

 

[deborabaratto]

I totally get you @Peppergirl sometimes I'm in my grumpy mood and I think abou the almost 14 years that I eat wrong. But we have to focus in the present, eat well, exercise and check what works for you.
Hope you feel better! If not, tell me and we'll be grumpy for a little while and come back to normal mood haha

 

[yingtong]

Hi I've been type1 for 55 year and nobody was worse than me abusing my diabetes in my teens and early 20's,but from 23 onwards I got to grips with this bloody disease and fortunately I have only a couple of very minor complications.What done you can't change.

 

[Peppergirl]

Thanks everyone. I mean, I've got background retinopathy which is stable and a bit of nerve damage in my legs, but nothing too severe, so I know I'm lucky for my diabetes to be as good as it is. It's just that I've stopped worrying about minor things, which makes me worry why I'm not worrying more My concern is that something happens which stops my good control and sends me backwards. But I am trying...

 

[mist]

Thanks everyone. I mean, I've got background retinopathy which is stable and a bit of nerve damage in my legs, but nothing too severe, so I know I'm lucky for my diabetes to be as good as it is. It's just that I've stopped worrying about minor things, which makes me worry why I'm not worrying more My concern is that something happens which stops my good control and sends me backwards. But I am trying...

Remember this:

If you're depressed, you're living in the past
If your anxious, your living in the future
Live in the moment

Most things we worry about never come to pass, you know what you need to do to maintain your good control, relax, you're doing great

 

[Peppergirl]

If you're depressed, you're living in the past
If your anxious, your living in the future
Live in the moment

I like that

 

[mist]

Also, never underestimate the good that laughter can do. I remember a time vividly when I was on the floor in a crumpled heap, crying and in a right old mess, when out of nowhere, my body erm, performed a common bodily function with an associated funny noise and it made me laugh, yes I'm childish like that, once I started laughing and smiling, I stood myself up, my tears started to dry and something in my mind just felt different after having that little chuckle to myself and everything seemed a little brighter and not half as bad as before.

Nothing had changed, I still had the same problems and concerns, my circumstances were still the same, it was only that moment of laughter that had picked me back up and given me a little extra headroom to work with.

Laugh, at anything you like, smile, at anything and everything.

 

[carty]

Two words that should never be together IF and ONLY
CAROL

 

[βɪℒʟẙ]

Remember this:

If you're depressed, you're living in the past
If your anxious, your living in the future
Live in the moment

Most things we worry about never come to pass, you know what you need to do to maintain your good control, relax, you're doing great

Great comment buddy ..

 

[Granny_grump_]

Hey try not to be too hard on yourself. You worried about the things that seemed important at that particular point in your life, this is no different. Life is just a series of phases and our priorities, concerns and worries change with each phase.

Try and recognise your accomplishments, that you are now better situated to address your current concerns and that you still have time to make a difference.

The past no longer exists, it did once, when it was present and happening, but it's gone now, it only exists in your mind as memories and thoughts and they have no power over you at all, you are the one responsible for your thoughts and consequently how you will feel in any given moment, as every emotion is preceded by a thought.

The future, which hasn't happened yet, but is unravelling with each passing second is what you hold in your hands, and you can mould it however you please, so make something good out of it.

Best of luck to you.

Like the way you think!quite the philosopher great advice,I'm a worrier but what you've said makes sense.K