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Fayefaye1429

Fayefaye1429

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Durham
Type of diabetes
Type 1
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Pump
hey

I wondered your thoughts.

I was told today I am a pain as I pick up illnesses so easily. I feel judged by how ill I get. It's like I'm ok if I'm not I'll if I'm ill I am a pain. My mother always has said," your be lucky if anyone friends or boyfriend put up with you with your diabetes" I've always ignored the comment even the gestures to formal boyfriends off shaking their hand and saying how grateful they are to take me on.

I have always brushed it off because within I know my diabetes is a part of me something that has given me great depth and I value it but it doesn't define me. I feel some are starting to define me with it. By the way I haven't been ill for a while now. I guess I wondered if I'm alone? I feel it especially today and it's been a low weekend for me as I've had to cancel everything because of how my diabetes has been reacting to an infection I just feel upset is all and wanted to get it out of me
 
i think you're fab:)

of course we are more prone to everything because of an autoimmune disorder.
but that does not define us -- our character and attitude define us
( i ignore negative people )
 
Thanks guys I appreciate this I am writing with tears forming. I've been judged a lot for diabetes I just wish I could meet people who understood or at least didn't judge I just get fed up of it! Especially from my experience boyfriends my current one is to point understanding so he's been the best
 
hey faye -- sorry to ask ....... do you need to test ?
it's ok to have a tear -- i do myself -- we're human and live full time with this D
 
himtoo said:
hey faye -- sorry to ask ....... do you need to test ?
it's ok to have a tear -- i do myself -- we're human and live full time with this D
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Hey Paul yeh it's ok I'm testing with my libre a lot because of this infection. Yeh I just feel very upset today
 
mahola said:
Have a good cry. It's cathartic. Let it all out then get up tomorrow and think "STUFF 'EM"

Sending you love, light and strength xx
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Aw love that reply and thank you I much appreciate it. I am just feeling upset and lonely tonight. It's diabetes and other stuff so it just feels a lot. I feel limited to who I can talk to so I felt here would be the best
 
My Nan used to say stand in front of the mirror and repeat whilst looking straight at yourself, "You are all and everything to those who love you" and as Mahola says "****** them" they're not worth a tinkers cuss........... you are worth your weight in gold.....:happy:
 
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Fayefaye1429 said:
Hey Paul yeh it's ok I'm testing with my libre a lot because of this infection. Yeh I just feel very upset today
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ok cool faye -- just checking
bloods may be giving you the runaround cuz of the infection
you know you got me on your team !!!!
 
It's lovely having you all here and your kindness. My life is a lot of holding like problems thoughts and feelings, which isn't bad and I'd say95% of the time I do fine. The last time some said to me sincerely in person can I help? Or you look like your carrying too much let me help! Is a long time ...... I guess being ill has just brought it all to light
 
Fayefaye1429 said:
Thanks guys I appreciate this I am writing with tears forming. I've been judged a lot for diabetes I just wish I could meet people who understood or at least didn't judge I just get fed up of it! Especially from my experience boyfriends my current one is to point understanding so he's been the best
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Some towns have Diabetes self help groups that meet to provide support. You may find details in your local library or on the patients notice board in your GP surgery, or maybe a supermarket or newsagents postit board. Or contact Diabetes uK (Thats the other lot DUK, not here (DCUK) they have a website that can put you in touch with the nearest group they know of. It may not be the sexiest place in town, but you would meet others in a similar position as you, and gain some support there. Of course there is this forum which is a comfortable place for finding out more about things, and it has a good Humour thread too. I hope you find someone soon who will help you stand up for yourself.
 
Thank you for information unfortunately there no groups near me and usually this wouldn't bother me and I tell people where to go but I'm finding it hard after constantly being told but different people. Just people don't get it around me
 
People don't get it for sure. Nor do they want to. I discovered when my late husband had leukemia that ppl stopped coming around. Now if I mention diabetes or anything...diet etc...it's well let's talk about something happier. The only support I ever found was in groups that were living it. And sadly that applied to family too...more heartbreaking because you expect them to understand. So you give up trying. Hugs. Just so you know there is understanding out there.
 
Hey hope you are feeling better this morning, sometimes a good nights sleep can do wonders.
One of my favourite sayings is Dr Seus - Be who you are and say what you feel, because those who mind don't matter and those who matter don't mind.
It's a shame but we seem to hold onto negative thoughts when we feel down, thats why a good moan or a walk in the fresh air can help tons. We are your most sympathetic fan club Faye feel free to moan here and hope today you are feeling much better ;)
 
I hope you're ok today.

Think of it this way - it's not your friends and boyfriends who are doing you a favour by 'taking you on', it's you doing them a favour by being their friend or partner. You're obviously a kind, sensitive person and I don't doubt for one moment that you have a huge amount to offer other people. You're an asset not a burden :)
 
I had a friend say something similar to me years ago, long before I was diabetic. It really hurt, it was like he was laughing at me because I got so many coughs and cold which resulted in chest infections. I didn't know I had undiagnosed asthma. I didn't know how to improve my immune system. That friend has since had a serious illness which he has fully recovered from. His immune system hasn't recovered yet and boy you should hear him whinge when he gets colds now!

I hope today is better for you. :)
 
aww thank you everyone those are some of the nicest comments ever!! Thank you so much they have touched me so great full for it.
Usually you would meet me and think I've gone through nowt and am very upbeat. My friend says I do a Faye when I can find the positive in anything or situation. Just this weekend I could not ☹️.
I still feel low today but physically I am feeling a tad better. I have very few people around me so I find it hard when the ones I have trusted and know comment on me. I've generally been going through a rough time lately and I think this weekend was the last straw and took me into a low world especially as I almost was dk because I didn't see an infection creeping in me. I feel he more tough life gets the more it chips at your resilience even if it's just temporary chips it's hard to continue to say on your bike all the time.
 
Hi @Fayefaye1429
It is nice to know that you have picked yourself up and are feeling better.

I wonder if you are near enough to attend a meet-up with other diabetics. These get togethers have been very successful and the feedback proves it.
The next one is advertised here and it may give you a boost to know that there are other people who face the trials and tribulations that diabetics go through and might make you feel less isolated.
http://www.diabetes.co.uk/forum/thr...ww-star-tavern-belgravia-co-uk-find-us.97902/
 
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