Hi,
I've joined to see if I can maybe get some help with my just turned 17 year old daughter, we are in real trouble here
My daughter was diagnosed with T1D at 14 after having lots of time off school and me being told there was nothing wrong with her, it just so happened one day I was at my Dad house and he ( I just lost my lovely dad far to young just weeks ago ) was diabetic and he recognised symptoms and he tested her blood which was 27.2
I took her into A&E and that's when and how she was diagnosed.
At first she seemed to accept it all quite well and was injecting herself and carb counting in no time, everybody was very pleased and surprised how well she coped.
How things have changed..
I now have a just turned 17 year old daughter that has lost over 8 stone in weight, refuses to go to any appointments at all, refuses to speak to the diabetic team, they have tried everything, going into college she refuses to see them, she will not pick up if they call her, she ignores texts and emails from them all, She is not injecting as she should be and never tests her blood at all, she has been admitted to hospital 3 time in the last year and really I think has come very close to a lot more than that. I am disabled myself and I do not drive and I have no way of making my daughter go to any appointments and she refuses to come with me by taxi or if I arrange for family to take us, she just leaves the house, if the diabetic nurses come to the house she walks out. So she is refusing anything to do with doctors, hospitals or any mention of diabeties, if I try to ask her about any of it she either flies into a rage, cries and cries and won't speak to me or just walks out, I've tried everything to try and get through to her and so have all family members, she also has cut up her arms a few times saying she can't stand them all keep trying to ruin her life.
I'm at my wits end, her father ( ex husband ) is so busy shouting at me for moving 20 miles up the road two years ago and trying to blame me saying I'm not strict enough that he is no help at all because my daughter blames him for a lot of how depressed and down she feels. She has never forgiven him for walking out on us with another woman even though that's 10 years ago.
I've begged at the hospital one time for them to keep her in longer and make her inject, or to help, to do something because I can't make her do any of it, they just said neither could they and discharged her, So now after this last admitting which I still do not believe she should have been discharged from, she still looks I'll and even though they changed her insuline to one she doesn't have to inject so often, I can see by looking at her that she isn't using it properly, the diabetic team have involved social services, I am actually relieved, I already lost one child to cot death and I am so terrified I am going to find my daughter that way also, I am actually scared for her life, she is now stick thin and pale looking, has pains in her chest a lot and real bad pains in her legs, I relieved that I just had a call from a social worker, I pray that they can help me, I don't know how they will make a 17 year old do as they say anymore than I or the rest of the family can, but I just pray they have a way, I love my daughter, I am scared I am going to loose her and I try but I do not understand why she is behaving this way, she understands exactly what she is doing to herself and I've tried to tell her what this is doing to me, although apparently she thinks I'm not supposed to say that because it's not about me! I'm her mother and I love her and I want her to go on to live a long happy life and so I am letting social services into our life's , I never in my life thought I'd ever have to do something like that, but it's my daughters life I have to think about.
Anybody here have any advice at all?
Anybody having the same kind of problems?
If you got this far, thank you for reading.
April X
I've joined to see if I can maybe get some help with my just turned 17 year old daughter, we are in real trouble here
My daughter was diagnosed with T1D at 14 after having lots of time off school and me being told there was nothing wrong with her, it just so happened one day I was at my Dad house and he ( I just lost my lovely dad far to young just weeks ago ) was diabetic and he recognised symptoms and he tested her blood which was 27.2
I took her into A&E and that's when and how she was diagnosed.
At first she seemed to accept it all quite well and was injecting herself and carb counting in no time, everybody was very pleased and surprised how well she coped.
How things have changed..
I now have a just turned 17 year old daughter that has lost over 8 stone in weight, refuses to go to any appointments at all, refuses to speak to the diabetic team, they have tried everything, going into college she refuses to see them, she will not pick up if they call her, she ignores texts and emails from them all, She is not injecting as she should be and never tests her blood at all, she has been admitted to hospital 3 time in the last year and really I think has come very close to a lot more than that. I am disabled myself and I do not drive and I have no way of making my daughter go to any appointments and she refuses to come with me by taxi or if I arrange for family to take us, she just leaves the house, if the diabetic nurses come to the house she walks out. So she is refusing anything to do with doctors, hospitals or any mention of diabeties, if I try to ask her about any of it she either flies into a rage, cries and cries and won't speak to me or just walks out, I've tried everything to try and get through to her and so have all family members, she also has cut up her arms a few times saying she can't stand them all keep trying to ruin her life.
I'm at my wits end, her father ( ex husband ) is so busy shouting at me for moving 20 miles up the road two years ago and trying to blame me saying I'm not strict enough that he is no help at all because my daughter blames him for a lot of how depressed and down she feels. She has never forgiven him for walking out on us with another woman even though that's 10 years ago.
I've begged at the hospital one time for them to keep her in longer and make her inject, or to help, to do something because I can't make her do any of it, they just said neither could they and discharged her, So now after this last admitting which I still do not believe she should have been discharged from, she still looks I'll and even though they changed her insuline to one she doesn't have to inject so often, I can see by looking at her that she isn't using it properly, the diabetic team have involved social services, I am actually relieved, I already lost one child to cot death and I am so terrified I am going to find my daughter that way also, I am actually scared for her life, she is now stick thin and pale looking, has pains in her chest a lot and real bad pains in her legs, I relieved that I just had a call from a social worker, I pray that they can help me, I don't know how they will make a 17 year old do as they say anymore than I or the rest of the family can, but I just pray they have a way, I love my daughter, I am scared I am going to loose her and I try but I do not understand why she is behaving this way, she understands exactly what she is doing to herself and I've tried to tell her what this is doing to me, although apparently she thinks I'm not supposed to say that because it's not about me! I'm her mother and I love her and I want her to go on to live a long happy life and so I am letting social services into our life's , I never in my life thought I'd ever have to do something like that, but it's my daughters life I have to think about.
Anybody here have any advice at all?
Anybody having the same kind of problems?
If you got this far, thank you for reading.
April X