Indeed, the damage-done is not the same for everyone/everywhere. Where i live power, wealth, health, career ... are everything as the whole life is a war where the weak are eliminated at the start or humiliated in midway. No one cares if you are someone good or evil, not important whatever you think unless you fit the mentioned standards ... you are already disqualified. I don't really aim to give out world-shaking suggestions as it would literally make me a hypocrite.
I can't sincerely disagree with your point of view as i have myself just recently removed every single waste of life that keeps me around as a rundle to step on for them to look higher. Have been avoiding all and now, alone in a vacuum, drinking alcohol until i fall asleep with 3 packs of cigarettes a day. Still not worse than the times while i was fighting for my way out just to hit the buffers everyday. At least now i don't have anything to be ashamed of, not being humiliated, there is no one around to blame/question me for my failures.
I was born alone. My life depended on my own mere achievements, only option to take part in this rotten society/world, to be at least acknowledged. It has taken away from me ... every single gate has been shut right on my face.
Glad you have a lovely wife, are living a peaceful, happy life ... another slap right on my face, meaning that the only thing in-common between us, is not the actual reason making me a loser, right ? ... '' sigh ''
Sounds grim, my friend. I don't know where you are...sounds brutal...sounds like a place which has evolved too fast economically to me...where old and honourable culture has been bent through changes into what it is today by greedy people in search of status and power, leaving little hope for those born outside the success or sound social standing.
It is all relative...where we live, when we live, what we were born into, what random things have struck us, what mistakes we have made...the way the world can be. I may have said I was fortunate to have a lovely wife who accepts me for who I am but I did not say I was "living a peaceful, happy life"....you did.
It is all relative. I have faced hard reality many times in my life and have had tough fights to get through things. I have little faith in the world myself, as I tried to emphasize. Maybe we have more in common than you realise. BUT...
it is all relative. I have simply learned that health and love are way more important than some broken society's value of me or some brainwashed or judgemental fool's opinion of me. I define myself. This does not mean I feel successful at all. It does not mean I have not had days where I give in to feeling low and outside of things, misunderstood, underappreciated etc etc...and yes, it is all the easier because I have a strong relationship - but that didn't just appear or stay by magic or luck.
It is all relative. We do have more in common than you say. We are both imperfect humans in a far from perfect world, doing what we can to cope. We can let it swallow us up or we can stand up and value ourselves and not be crushed by what "society" dictates or by the views of others, by the shallow, the ignorant, the greedy, the banal. All I am trying to say really (in a very long winded manner) is that if we pretend to be something we are not by hiding who we are, we not only gain a social circle of false relationships, we also contribute to "
the rotten society/world" you refer to by keeping it all fake and void of truth. Look at it this way...wherever we are, whoever we are...if we tell someone we love them but they do not know who we truly are, then when they say it back to us..it's not real; it's them saying they love only who they believe us to be. That is not real..and we will not feel loved - not really. Be who you are...that is the only way to find any kind of real love, real peace, real sense of depth in this experience called living. You are 26...I was once too, yeah ? I'm 55 now. I am not exactly who or where I was at 26. Sometimes, just as bad things fall on us for no good reason - other things can just happen too. We can never be in control of everything. Aim to survive it with as much integrity as possible. Right now, in the context of diabetes, I will just settle for being in control of my blood sugar as much as is possible without it dominating my life or my overall state of mind. I hope you keep fighting for your own way and that you don't let the negative thoughts your experience of life so far has pushed onto you shape your future. I do not say this to be patronising or to be critical at all. I wish you well and hope that when you are 55, things are easier than they are at 26 - and that your life, given all you have to deal with is okay.
It is all relative...really it is. Good luck. Sorry, if I have gone on and on and ...