lucyturniptree
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- Type of diabetes
- Type 1
- Treatment type
- Pump
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I was diagnosed 12 years ago when I was 16. When I was 18 I went through a phase that sounds exactly like what your daughter is going through. I was so angry at being diabetic. I hated everyone. My parents, my friends, the medical team, non diabetics, diabetics, everyone. I felt like nobody quite understood what I was going through. I would binge eat rubbish (whole packets of cookies, donuts, ice cream) and barely take my insulin. I quite liked that high feeling, but also I just wanted to not be diabetic. I hid it from my family because the more concerned they got the more I resented them. My Mum would ask if I had taken my reading or nag about insulin. The more she asked about it, the less I wanted to talk because she obviously didn't get it!! It made sense at the time. I felt let down by the medical team and I stopped going to my clinics because they were a depressing waste of time.
But having gone through this and come out of the other side, I know it wasn't my mum's fault, just like this isn't your fault. You haven't done anything wrong. My Mum still blames herself, but it was about me getting my head around my lifelong sentence.
I don't know what it was that made me stop feeling like that, but once I accepted that it was part of me, it started to get better. It was a change in mindset that happened to me, not something that someone said to me. Your daughter is going through a difficult time and will find her own solutions. All you can do is be there when she decides she is ready, support her decisions and love her despite her mistakes.
It is really scary, but my experience was that I needed to go through it and find my own way.
Hope things get better soon. Xx
But having gone through this and come out of the other side, I know it wasn't my mum's fault, just like this isn't your fault. You haven't done anything wrong. My Mum still blames herself, but it was about me getting my head around my lifelong sentence.
I don't know what it was that made me stop feeling like that, but once I accepted that it was part of me, it started to get better. It was a change in mindset that happened to me, not something that someone said to me. Your daughter is going through a difficult time and will find her own solutions. All you can do is be there when she decides she is ready, support her decisions and love her despite her mistakes.
It is really scary, but my experience was that I needed to go through it and find my own way.
Hope things get better soon. Xx