A Hello and Goodbye

Pipp said:

Yes @NicolaAnne1994 it most certainly is right.
Life can give some garbage to us, but it can also give some treasure.

Alexander, you are 21. You don't always have to be unemployed. You may also feel very different when you are 31.

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Very true!

Alex do you have any qualifications?

Alexander13 said:

That's quite alright, Pip. I don't mind at all.

Chances of my children to inherit my Diabetes are low, yes. But chances of me having children are even lower. However, if I could own a cat, a cat would be most precious to me.

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You are still young, trust me I used to think the same way....now I have a lovely boyfriend....your princess will come soon

Alexander13 said:

Thank you for your kind response, Jojo. I am glad you have had the chance of a good life with children to bless this world. I've chose not to have children because I do not wish for them to inherit my curse. But perhaps, that's also because I don't think I'll be able to find a partner with how quiet I am and my inability to provide due to unemployment.

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Hi Alexander. I had my darling daughter at 42 1/2 years old and she is a happy, healthy teenager, erm most of the time, raging hormones
Try not to see diabetes as a curse, it's a medical condition that none of us want, and it can be so hard at times, but we deal with it and like I have a few times on the forum, diabetes needs a kick up the derriere some times, but don't let it smoother you with negative thoughts. life is for living.
In life, where we're going doesn't matter, it's what happens along the way that counts. ......... and something good could just be around that corner
You are still so young Alexander, so try and live for the present and then see what the future holds for you.

All the best and I hope today has been a good one for you. RRB X

Alexander13 said:

That's quite alright, Pip. I don't mind at all.

Chances of my children to inherit my Diabetes are low, yes. But chances of me having children are even lower. However, if I could own a cat, a cat would be most precious to me.

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Hi Alexander 13. I have just managed to reset my password after years of just reading others posts. Your post made me try again. Please don't give up. You've had lots of really helpful suggestions so I won't add to them except to say that at nearly 3 times your age I am still struggling with it. It hasn't stopped me doing lots of things and there's a lot in life I enjoy. I had no kids - partly circumstances and partly, I suspect, my genetic makeup. It's a shame but I have other things. Life is always a struggle I think but things have an odd way of working out ok. I won't bore you with the details but to say that I'm still here and ok. More time for this at the moment as I am stuck at home with a cracked bone in my foot. I sympathise with the worries about driving; I can't just now (splint on the clutch foot) and the dependence on others is driving me nuts! As soon as you can afford it get some lessons and pass the test! Work can be tricky. Try asking FIRMLY for an interview with the careers people ASAP. Best of luck. Diane

Yes it is right Nicola. You should conquer diabetes and not let it stop you doing anything. Ok, its a struggle to get a hgv license, and I don't think emergency services or flying pilots can be on injections... But thats 4 not the end of the world.

You have done amazing Nicola, and I so wish that Alexander could change his view that diabetes is a curse.

Volunteer work would be a great starting point. Especially as he says he loves animals.

Alexander, have you ever thought about house sitting? Some people pay for this... You stay at their house and look after their animals whilst they are away. The people that I do this for all pay me... I know some people don't..you just go to their houses and walk n feed their animals as they do. You normally get full access to everywhere and get to meet different animals and different people.

I have myself years ago, used a dog sitter for my 3 dogs. The lady was late 60's and fantastic and wonderful. We paid her and brought her home perfume and alchohol and left her food etc. my dogs loved her.


Loving life

NicolaAnne1994 said:

The chances that you're children will get it are very low....and even if they do get it, it wouldn't be the end of the world! You would teach them how to live and cope with it! Yes it will be hard but don't let this illness stop you from a very big thing in life....it seems you are letting diabetes take over your life, don't! Beat diabetes and show it who is boss!!

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Having read Alex's original post and his replies my understanding is that he isn't referring to diabetes as a curse. He was very open in all he shared with us and I believe it is very important in situations like this that we really listen to what is being said in order to respond appropriately.

I hope @Alexander13 will post again soon - perhaps under a new thread - with an update on how he is progressing and feeling.

I'm sure we all know that Alex doesn't see it as actually a"curse" if that makes sense?

However, I think my self, Nicola Anne and another are just merely concerned that he is struggling with coming to terms of being a T1. I think we were just trying to convince Alex that (certainly me) have lived and continue to do so very happily as a T1 and that it can be a way to keep yourself healthy because of the health check ups we get etc. i think Nicola has also struggled at times, but she is/has managed to find a way to keep her balance of diabetes improved and is still enjoying her life as a youngster.

donnellysdogs said:

I'm sure we all know that Alex doesn't see it as actually a"curse" if that makes sense?

However, I think my self, Nicola Anne and another are just merely concerned that he is struggling with coming to terms of being a T1. I think we were just trying to convince Alex that (certainly me) have lived and continue to do so very happily as a T1 and that it can be a way to keep yourself healthy because of the health check ups we get etc. i think Nicola has also struggled at times, but she is/has managed to find a way to keep her balance of diabetes improved and is still enjoying her life as a youngster.

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With thanks to you Sharon!!! x

Alex you are very young and you can get the qualifications you need in whatever you want to do.

Look up the Open University, you can do any of their courses online

Hello Alexander
Lots of people have been giving you great advice and held there hand out to you.
I grew up in a housing estate in Scotland, and I think only people who have lived in that situation can understand how hard it is to get out and away.
I left school with some qualifications and went to college for more, but I had no self confidence, I was offered a place at university and turned it down, I couldn't get work and when I eventually found the inner strength to get my self put of my own mire, I found a very menial job, doing cleaning, I have come to learn that the job was the making of me. I have worked my way into a very well paid office job, that I love. Part of that process was bulking out my CV with volunteer work.
I heard the quote if you do the thing you love most in the world you will never work a day in hour life.
I am dying each day I have is a blessing becoming diabetic was something I knew would happen as part of my illness and I was petrified of it happening, when it did hey it wasn't the end just another routine to at to my shortened life.
I get low mainly when I am at home, living is hard when you don't want it to stop, just as hard if you want it end.

You are 21 with diabetes don't give up take it one day at a time start small but think big, don 't turn down opportunities grab them with both hands look out for adult education classes, volunteer, if it is free take it.
Be kind to yourself and try to be the best version of yourself you can be, you never know you might be the person that saves a life in the future.

just sending you @Alexander13 a weekend hello and a little hug too (((((((( x )))))))) take good care, with my very best wishes RRB