AloeSvea
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Neat to see this thread - I've been thinking about this stuff quite a bit lately too. Following a couple of dining scenarios with some hostile and suspicious responses around food and drink choices, and body weight issues.
I think it can be a really unfortunate part of how women relate to each other (and I hear you on the Aunt thing!), that part of the female success profile is about weight, and physical appearnace/grooming etc. So, some competition and rivalry centered around weight and appearance and that kind of negative stuff rears its ugly head.
And, I do believe it is an understandable consequence of current governmental guidelines on nutrition, that differs considerably to what I at least am reporting to anyone who wants to know re my own weight loss and maintenance story. I get that, and I am lucky that I have some great friends with weight (and blood glucose issues) that enter into debate with me on this topic, so I am not left wondering why they are taking exception to what I say about what constitutes fattening food. Or bloating food etc. (The 'balanced diet' idea and line has a lot to answer to in my experience with friends and family with fat storage issues.)
I have put it down to - no-one, but no-one wants to know that sugar is toxic in high doses for everyone, and particularly if you have already crossed to the other side with blood glucose issues. And wheat products, in everything, everywhere, for my own family of origin, could be causing them serious health and body issues. Just this last weekend, at an extended family dining function, a cousin was extremely upset with me to the point she told me I was delusional and paranoid (I believe she is currently mood disordered with untreated diabetes!), around my recurrent wee speech concerning my own known bad response to wheat, and that maybe, family members who share a lot of my DNA might be too... (I was talking about my dad, her uncle, not her, which of course it applies to her too, and her health and fat storage profile is pretty serious, which may account for her extreme response to my wheat story.)
Hostility and suspicion could in fact be a screen for great disappointment and sadness and anger at what food (and confusion re the differing messages) does and can do to us? And a normal weighted (once a big girl as I was) diabetic messenger gets the brunt of this feeling? I don't know. Just a suggestion....
I think it can be a really unfortunate part of how women relate to each other (and I hear you on the Aunt thing!), that part of the female success profile is about weight, and physical appearnace/grooming etc. So, some competition and rivalry centered around weight and appearance and that kind of negative stuff rears its ugly head.
And, I do believe it is an understandable consequence of current governmental guidelines on nutrition, that differs considerably to what I at least am reporting to anyone who wants to know re my own weight loss and maintenance story. I get that, and I am lucky that I have some great friends with weight (and blood glucose issues) that enter into debate with me on this topic, so I am not left wondering why they are taking exception to what I say about what constitutes fattening food. Or bloating food etc. (The 'balanced diet' idea and line has a lot to answer to in my experience with friends and family with fat storage issues.)
I have put it down to - no-one, but no-one wants to know that sugar is toxic in high doses for everyone, and particularly if you have already crossed to the other side with blood glucose issues. And wheat products, in everything, everywhere, for my own family of origin, could be causing them serious health and body issues. Just this last weekend, at an extended family dining function, a cousin was extremely upset with me to the point she told me I was delusional and paranoid (I believe she is currently mood disordered with untreated diabetes!), around my recurrent wee speech concerning my own known bad response to wheat, and that maybe, family members who share a lot of my DNA might be too... (I was talking about my dad, her uncle, not her, which of course it applies to her too, and her health and fat storage profile is pretty serious, which may account for her extreme response to my wheat story.)
Hostility and suspicion could in fact be a screen for great disappointment and sadness and anger at what food (and confusion re the differing messages) does and can do to us? And a normal weighted (once a big girl as I was) diabetic messenger gets the brunt of this feeling? I don't know. Just a suggestion....