So not sure what my question is, but I would like to hear your thoughts and experiences, maybe it helps!
Hi
@Antje77
Little late to the post .
So sorry to hear that for you.
But as to coping strategies.
I know you've got this covered, but here's my pfennigs worth.
After my accident, it was all doom & gloom.
Which gradually lightened when I considered how much worse it could have been, & that inner me got its teeth into "no going down without a fight"
Nearly 3 years later, it's better but like you, I lost some abilities I thought I'd have forever.
So how to cope
Well, unlike the dinosaurs we adapt , as I'm sure you have.
Finding other ways of doing things you used to do, in ways that you can do, now.
Not perfect, but I think most of us are tough enough to get to & through that point .
And I'd say yes, it's a death of sorts .
I think I'm see-sawing now between anger & acceptance
Was 90/10, more likely 50/50 now.
Sure it dulls to be 10/90 at some point, but not sure if that wistful feeling ever stops it resurfacing when we reflect back .
As for work, while some manual labour jobs might be beyond you, others might not, depending on just what your dodgy arm can do .
And I'd give a big thumbs up for the communications type of work, you got that skill
And a world full of new ways of making a buck.
From influencers to travel guides etc
If nothing is lined up, no harm throwing everything into the mix and seeing if something you might not have seriously considered catches your eye, that right now is hidden under what we all 'expect' to be our route out .
I've had to do loads of little jobs outside my main job to keep myself afloat many years back at times.
Some I loved .. driving high end cars to and from London airport...
From driving the cars, to delivering drivers to the airport to manning the phones, etc.
If you find you've got a certain knack, use it I say.
And I did some that were more Meh.
And even from those I learned what I didn't like or wasn't very good at .
So life's never as clear as it seems, we just sometimes have to endure beyond the dark to see the cracks of lights that are always there, if we look hard enough.
So tl;dr.
We can't change the past, but we can adapt to the future, better then we thought
Best wishes my friend .
