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And It's Goodbye From Me

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Diabeticliberty said:
Goodbye :)
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@Diabeticliberty, Why do you feel the need to leave we have all missed your banter especially me and Karen we don't understand what's happened for you to do this, you have many friends on here people who care and admire you. Please reconsider and come back you are sorely missed by many. And Karen is struggling with her new libra and needs your help and advice,so come on boyo reconsider come back. Wishing you all the very best whatever you decide take care and look after yourself. Kathleen
 
Granny_grump_ said:
@Diabeticliberty, Why do you feel the need to leave we have all missed your banter especially me and Karen we don't understand what's happened for you to do this, you have many friends on here people who care and admire you. Please reconsider and come back you are sorely missed by many. And Karen is struggling with her new libra and needs your help and advice,so come on boyo reconsider come back. Wishing you all the very best whatever you decide take care and look after yourself. Kathleen
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It looks very much like he has cancelled his membership and no longer has a profile. He is registered as a guest.
 
Bluetit1802 said:
It looks very much like he has cancelled his membership and no longer has a profile. He is registered as a guest.
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@Bluetit1802 does nobody know what's brought this on, I cannot believe he would just up and leave like this,he brought so much laughter and friendliness help and advice it beggars belief doesn't it? K
 
Conflicts (perceived or otherwise) are inevitable but there are many many people who've just left without bidding members goodbye. The raft of these recent departures thru a farewell message when others have not is, IMO, distorting a reality as one group passes into obscurity, the other takes another path.. Regardless, no guilt assigned as "each to their own" Doesn't bother me as life exists far beyond this or any other forum
 
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Agree with @Mike D
Been on the forum since I was diagnosed and since then there have been any number of spats that have kicked off. One such was soon after I joined, I was just about finding my way around the forum, getting to "know" one or two folk and then boom! a number of them left.... I'm still here, for good or ill, and the forum goes on.
In the long run, you get what you give.
 
Only I can't remember Diabeticliberty being involved in any such spat. So I think he has gone because of some personal reason best known to himself and not for sharing. So I say best of luck to you and it's been nice knowing you.. Not that I think he will be reading this.
 
mahola said:
The forum has not been the most pleasant of places for a while now. There's been a definite undercurrent and people have been dropping like flies. Not dead, just leaving or being banned. I'd go as far to say, it seems to have all started when the new mods got voted in. Or maybe that was just a coincidence.
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As one of the new mods, I am finding this comment insulting, and belittling. If the comment had been made about a non-moderator member I would have taken action as I deemed it to be in breach of rule C9. The post certainly is in breach of rule C10.

As it is a criticism of moderators, if we were to apply the rule regarding bullying here some members would turn that around as being moderators’ heavy handedness.

I would add that any member with evidence of unfair moderation can make use of rule D2.

Vague, unsubstantiated comments based on speculation, and rumour are disingenuous, and unsettling for all.

If there is a complaint against a particular moderator or moderators we have to pass it up the command chain. Moderators do not investigate complaints against moderators, so I would appreciate clarification if this is the case here @mahola.

Moderators are bound by the rules, just as any other member. That is how moderator actions are decided. Also, just as with all members, we are not allowed to disclose contents of PMs. So, whether we know reasons for people choosing to leave or not, we cannot reveal those reasons.
 
mahola said:
C9, C10... Please highlight where exactly I have attacked anyone, mod or not. I said it all seems to have started around the time the new mods got voted in. Nothing to do WITH the new mods, just around the time you all became new mods.

You've read my post and just ran with it.
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aye right!
 
Strange to see comments being quoted in the previous 2 contributions, but no sign of the original posts
 
Boo1979 said:
Strange to see comments being quoted in the previous 2 contributions, but no sign of the original posts
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If the posts had been edited by a moderator that would have been stated . If a person posting edits or deletes their own post, they can chosse whether or not to state that they have done so.
If the deleted post has been quoted by another member, in a post then the originator has no control over that content.
 
Mike D said:
Conflicts (perceived or otherwise) are inevitable but there are many many people who've just left without bidding members goodbye. The raft of these recent departures thru a farewell message when others have not is, IMO, distorting a reality as one group passes into obscurity, the other takes another path.. Regardless, no guilt assigned as "each to their own". Doesn't bother me as life exists far beyond this or any other forum
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Not sure, I'd entirely agree with that...though I find I do agree with pretty much everything you post, Mike. For me, a short whole back, I considered it important to explain to some extent why I was taking some time out. I think it can seem attention seeking to an extent or perhaps look like an attempt to stir things up even but I think while some have taken issue over one area of concern, people come and go for various reasons, some posting to that effect while others just vanish sans au revoir (and, admittedly, that, as you say, can sort of distort reality)...but, personally, I wanted to whinge and moan a bit while expressing concerns at what I perceived was an issue that wasn't being addressed by those "running" the site. I also, therefore, felt I had to post when I came out of my moany place to thank one moderator in particular for taking the time to message me to clarify some points to an extent which satisfied me. I absolutely agree with you, however, that life does exist "far beyond this or any other forum". I apologise if I have picked you up incorrectly...your point may well simply be suggesting that the picture is less than balanced and you do stress the "each to their own" part. Does that make sense ?
 
pleinster said:
Not sure, I'd entirely agree with that...though I find I do agree with pretty much everything you post, Mike. For me, a short whole back, I considered it important to explain to some extent why I was taking some time out. I think it can seem attention seeking to an extent or perhaps look like an attempt to stir things up even but I think while some have taken issue over one area of concern, people come and go for various reasons, some posting to that effect while others just vanish sans au revoir (and, admittedly, that, as you say, can sort of distort reality)...but, personally, I wanted to whinge and moan a bit while expressing concerns at what I perceived was an issue that wasn't being addressed by those "running" the site. I also, therefore, felt I had to post when I came out of my moany place to thank one moderator in particular for taking the time to message me to clarify some points to an extent which satisfied me. I absolutely agree with you, however, that life does exist "far beyond this or any other forum". I apologise if I have picked you up incorrectly...your point may well simply be suggesting that the picture is less than balanced and you do stress the "each to their own" part. Does that make sense ?
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No issue at all @pleinster .... a moan or a quiet time away is fine. Explanations either way rest easy with me. Of course what you've said has much sense to it. A couple of mods have sent me messages, all of which I took on board and they were justified as they were harmless, be it from my part or theirs.

The only issue that bothers me is with posters who ask for advice, receive it, then complain (never so much as a "thank you") that for one reason or another, they choose to ignore both the time and effort given up by others for assistance. I'm very wary of them with the threads over the last few years despite the fact I know what's coming in that they will never re-appear. Minor irritants but that's the nature of some that must take offence .... they're just shooting the messenger.

Not hard to show some common courtesy but a few have done anything but, so I avoid them as half the time, I can tell what's due next. Silence or a fight. Got no time for either

Mike
 
This forum changes along the way, in some periods some people will be dominating and then later others will , there are so many of us in here, we need to understand that in a forum such as this one can get easily hurt many times because of misunderstandings or if a person feels ignored and also that is in many cases not an actual fact as we all use this forum in our different ways and some are suddenly occupied with their lives out of this forum and forget this community for a few days or weeks ....which was not in any way meant as a purposeful ignoring of anybody

if you want to be here for a longer perspective then maybe realise what you feel is more a mirror of yourself than of other people’s intentions in here; most are actually extremely kind persons even when being in the mood for some sharp discussions and few are ignoring others in a purposeful way anyway
 
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Mike D said:
No issue at all @pleinster .... a moan or a quiet time away is fine. Explanations either way rest easy with me. Of course what you've said has much sense to it. A couple of mods have sent me messages, all of which I took on board and they were justified as they were harmless, be it from my part or theirs.

The only issue that bothers me is with posters who ask for advice, receive it, then complain (never so much as a "thank you") that for one reason or another, they choose to ignore both the time and effort given up by others for assistance. I'm very wary of them with the threads over the last few years despite the fact I know what's coming in that they will never re-appear. Minor irritants but that's the nature of some that must take offence .... they're just shooting the messenger.

Not hard to show some common courtesy but a few have done anything but, so I avoid them as half the time, I can tell what's due next. Silence or a fight. Got no time for either

Mike
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Yup. Totally get that, Mike.

Paul
 
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