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Dating & Diabetes - how to get the two 'D's' to work togethe

Re: Dating & Diabetes - how to get the two 'D's' to work tog

I would just be honest, it doesn't need to be a big deal. My current boyfriend found out because his sister (who knew me) told him before we started talking. I told him myself before we went on a date as we chatted for a week or so before the first date.
On dates it has always been slipped in with the inevitable 'so, tell me about yourself.'
If they're curious and want to know more, they're a potential second date ;)



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Re: Dating & Diabetes - how to get the two 'D's' to work tog

Sunshine kisses,

It is a no brainer! It's Diabetes not that you are a mass murderer! Just say I am carb intolerant and they will start telling you all about their "issues" . That way you have covered your bases. Just make good choices as to your food order and you can eat as Normally as your "friend". I eat out regularly, normally order a Grilled Fish dish with a side order of garden salad and Balsamic vinegar. Easy Peasy! For desert I have Blueberries with Greek Yoghurt, on the sly add 2 sweeteners. There are no restrictions with Diabetes, it's merely a lifestyle change! Chin up Babes - be blessed.


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Re: Dating & Diabetes - how to get the two 'D's' to work tog

Hi.

I would tell your dates if it comes up in conversation. I've had it since my teens so anyone I dated / went on dates with I told if it came up, for example if I didn't want a dessert as they were all full of sugar, or like others have mentioned if they asked me to tell them about myself.

In my experience it never scared anyone off but just made them curious.

Good luck on the dates :-)
 
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Thanks peeps - some really great tips! I feel better about just chilling and seeing what happens, thank you as always for your wise words... :-)
 
Re: Dating & Diabetes - how to get the two 'D's' to work tog

The cause of arguments between myself (query type 2, diet only) and my lover (type 1) is choosing what we eat. He wants carb heaven and can just adjust his insulin :/

Make sure you can merge your dietary needs and he understands the effect of foods on you and you are not being 'faddy' or 'fussy'

Good luck x


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Re: Dating & Diabetes - how to get the two 'D's' to work tog

I agree honesty in the best way, & no hiding it, there is no point in deceiving anyone. Be confident with it, people say confidence is a turn on (right guys?), so I don't see why it can't apply to this, especially if we might struggle in other areas. Doesn't mean we don't want someone we like to come swooping in with a sugary snack sometimes when we need it though ;).

I think just be honest & confident in yourself. It's a good conversation starter, & if they aren't interested then they are not worth your time :)


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Re: Dating & Diabetes - how to get the two 'D's' to work tog

Rayh78 said:
Sunshine I'm single and been diabetic 27 years so we could just cut out all the bother and go for dinner !! Lol


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There you go Sunshine - your love life is all sorted for you!
 
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hale710 said:
Rayh78 said:
Sunshine I'm single and been diabetic 27 years so we could just cut out all the bother and go for dinner !! Lol


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There you go Sunshine - your love life is all sorted for you!
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LOL!!! Well I knew this forum was changing / helping with many different aspects... :-D
 
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Diabeticdating.com "I'll show you my sugar if you show me yours".
Well there's the whole concept in 3 lines - boom!
 
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MCMLXXIII said:
Diabeticdating.com "I'll show you my sugar if you show me yours".
Well there's the whole concept in 3 lines - boom!
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If there was a social evening there's bound to be someone dealing doughnuts in the bathroom!
 
Re: Dating & Diabetes - how to get the two 'D's' to work tog

This has got me thinking now !!! My last partner knew I was diabetic from the start and we were together when I got my pump the thing that worries me now is getting passionate with the person then it's a case of " just a minute luv got to unplug me self " never thought about things like that on the pen lol


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Sunshine_Kisses said:
Hey there... So this may seem a trivial question, but how do you navigate diabetes if you're a single gal (or guy!) who's actively going on dates...?

I've been asked on a few dates lately, but completely stumped as to what to do or say when it comes to the recent diagnosis... Should I mention it (potentially off putting) or wait a while (potentially seems like I'm being deceptive!?)

And as for dinner - have noooo clue how to navigate that at the mo!!

Any tips?
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On your first date make sure you go to a restauarant serving a lovely Smoked salmon salad, sip a spritzer, engage him/her in conversation then workout if this one is worth sharing any of your secrets/life with before enhancing their life with you're being :D
 
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Sunshine_Kisses I hope that you have found some useful advice. I would agree it's nothing to hide or be afraid of. If it comes up then talk about it, if it doesn't then don't.

Reading some of the comments on this post made me laugh, really cheered me up after a rubbish job interview yesterday.
 
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Kilty Kilty said:
Sunshine_Kisses said:
Hey there... So this may seem a trivial question, but how do you navigate diabetes if you're a single gal (or guy!) who's actively going on dates...?

I've been asked on a few dates lately, but completely stumped as to what to do or say when it comes to the recent diagnosis... Should I mention it (potentially off putting) or wait a while (potentially seems like I'm being deceptive!?)

And as for dinner - have noooo clue how to navigate that at the mo!!

Any tips?
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On your first date make sure you go to a restauarant serving a lovely Smoked salmon salad, sip a spritzer, engage him/her in conversation then workout if this one is worth sharing any of your secrets/life with before enhancing their life with you're being :D
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LOVE it, that's what I need to be thinking! :D
 
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sheepareevil said:
Sunshine_Kisses I hope that you have found some useful advice. I would agree it's nothing to hide or be afraid of. If it comes up then talk about it, if it doesn't then don't.

Reading some of the comments on this post made me laugh, really cheered me up after a rubbish job interview yesterday.
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Haha, I totally agree - some great/funny peeps on here - they really help don't they... Always very grateful :)
 
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