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@stukie. I feel for you re the blind faith in a diabetes team that your bro in law and mother in law have! Especially re the chain of communication. My own experience with extended family and elderly parents' medical care, and around communication is - there's not much more you can do is breathe deeply in response, and just be there for your loved one! In this case your MIL. Give the info you have gleaned, and breathe deeply again if the eyes of your ill loved one glaze over...
But hey! A diagnosis at last! This is great news indeed. From my own research and maths the percentage of those with both an auto immune diabetes and T2 being treated with insulin is about 25%. My maths may be wrong - always happy to be corrected.
My own understanding and line, re your question a couple of postings above, is that T2D is way more complex than the standard lines about what T2D is, would indicate. And I get the huge focus is on her nutrtional needs right now, rather than how her T2D is playing out? Which is absolutely understandable considering her advanced age.
I know what I do with my own mother and her metabolic health - I do that breathing deeply, and remind myself the focus now, regarding my mother's health, is on her comfort and contentment in her twilight years. I give her support re her big belly, as in - well - don't worry about it and her metabolic health any more! (No ability to change her diet in any case in a rest home.) Give her a lot of ra ra re her reaching such an advanced age. And keep smiling!