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Don't know how....

MissJSecker

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Type of diabetes
Type 2
Firstly I've been diagnosed with type 2 since around may. I have yet to sort myself out... I'm avoiding appointments. I don't test. I don't have any meds. I've not changed my diet. But out of routine I have been exercising more... Not by choice though.

Also... I've always since a young teenagerhad problems with my feet & toes. Hard skin that cracks and super painful to walk on. Along with ingrowing toe nails on both big toes. Lately my heels have been really bad and so have my toes.. the toes always being puss filled. This has been probably been going on for a few weeks.....I know these are things to be worried about, but I seriously don't want to go to the doctors to be yelled at about it all.

I really dont know what to do anymore..I have nil support at home. My partner even says.. and I quote " I don't reckon your diabetic at all, the doctor got it wrong"

So yea my head space ain't the greatest.
 
Sorry to read about how you are at the moment.
Just reading about your feet makes me want you to stop and say that was then. They really are important to your well being. I would recommend going to the Doctors and getting a start on getting them better. I really hope they won't shout at you and if they do, make a complaint against them and ask for another.

How do you look after your feet. I wash mine every day, make sure they are dry and give them a good doing with a moisturizer. Keeping your feet soft is important as cracked skin, as well as being sore, can be an entry point for bad things.

Take one thing at a time.

Good luck to you
 
I found out I was diabetic in February when I got a really bad infection in my right foot. Result, nearly died, 3 months in hospital. Lost a toe and nearly lost whole foot. Still struggle to walk. Not saying this to scare you but to urge you please don't ignore this. If you find out what's going on you can at least take informed decisions and if a doctor has a whinge just shrug it off they may even surprise you and be compassionate. Take great care and look after yourself.
 
Hi @MissJSecker
I would encourage you to go and see your doctor as soon as possible. You should be having foot checks as part of your diabetes care and I would suggest in your case this is needed now. Please don't panic but take action.
 
Hello @MissJSecker - You must go and see your GP and/or Practise Nurse ASAP and have your feet checked out, if you need a referral to say Podiatry - then they can do it for you. I am tagging @daisy1 who will provide you with some basic information that all new members receive. Please have a read of the information and start today to get your Diabetes under control. Keep us informed and updated on here on how you are getting on:)
 
I was 'labelled' T2 in May, but (think) I have done everything I was told to get on board with this (excepting testing and religiously LCHFing) .... and think I've kinda got it right so far.
After a long run last weekend I got a big blister which had gone raw on my heel (as has happened before and just carried on). Panicking I was going to end up in 'trouble' and feeling a complete fraud over something I thought so trivial, I visited my PN who said I had done absolutely the right thing and kindly dressed it for me, she reiterated I need to be careful now having previously given my feet the full MOT.
The one thing I have realised with 'it' (and sorry to be so graphic) is if you bury your head in the sand, you will probably be burying leg alongside it too .... possibly followed by yourself!
 
I am type2. I have always as far back as I can remember, have had very bad hard skin where like you cracked and was very painful to walk on. No matter how hard, I could never get rid of the skin.when I was diagnosed two years ago, I asked my gp and diabetic nurse to refer me to the NHS foot care people. They said they could but there's a very long waiting list and then people only get two appointments allocated a year. I decided to pay a foot lady to come to my house. I see her every 6 weeks and costs me 26 pounds per visit. Well worth the money. she has got rid of the hard skin but it did take about 6 months to do it as it was very bad. I do still get hard skin but it's only minor now.
Please see your gp. He should not shout at you
 
Everyone above has given superb advice about looking after your feet and to keep your appointments, so I'm not going to say the same things. I'm more concerned about your general wellbeing.

Apart from the initial shock of diagnosis where a part of you does go into denial and another part says "what's the point?", what else is going on in your life? Stressed? Busy? Depressed? Ask yourself, what is it that is stopping you from getting the help and support you need?

This is the time to put yourself first. Ignore what your partner is saying. Your partner is not the one who is diabetic. And yes, we've all fantasised about the call we are going to get from the surgery saying "Good news! We gave you the wrong results!".

Go back to your doctor. Read as much as you can on here. Post as much as you like on here. I know a lot of us criticise our doctors and our DNs, but they are, nonetheless, the ones who can provide the actual care.

Do let us know how you get on.
 
I was 'labelled' T2 in May, but (think) I have done everything I was told to get on board with this (excepting testing and religiously LCHFing) .... and think I've kinda got it right so far.
After a long run last weekend I got a big blister which had gone raw on my heel (as has happened before and just carried on). Panicking I was going to end up in 'trouble' and feeling a complete fraud over something I thought so trivial, I visited my PN who said I had done absolutely the right thing and kindly dressed it for me, she reiterated I need to be careful now having previously given my feet the full MOT.
The one thing I have realised with 'it' (and sorry to be so graphic) is if you bury your head in the sand, you will probably be burying leg alongside it too .... possibly followed by yourself!
As a footnote to my story (pun intended) I seriously had visions of this taking ages to heal, getting infected, ulcerated etc etc .... actually it seems to be healing better than usual, .... and I wear Boots all day!
As the nurse said .... a good indication that me feet are in VERY good order, and long may my 'little piggies' stay that way!
 
Hey, thanks for the answers so far.... I know it's not the best post with me having a moany panic. I don't know where else to go for advice....

Another thing I've noticed I a funny smell or two. Like I can taste it... Almost a sweet smell? I'm not googling it because I'm sure it'll just say I'm dying or something.

I don't know if this is related but I get very put off with going out and seeing people. I avoid meeting new people as i get very anxious and my heart beats so so fast. I wonder if they would talk to me on the phone first? I have a pretty stressful life with four young boys. I found it pretty difficult with the diet when I had gestational, but I did it for my son. Now I don't have that mind set.... It'll be a fair bit more difficult now with another child.

How do I sort my partner out? Im really need him on my side. But not to the point, where he's yanking food out of my mouth. I don't want him bring over the top.
 
Please be assured you are definitely in the right place.

I suffer from anxiety too and have been on antidepressants for years. Just before I was diagnosed T2, I asked my doctor to change my medication because I was getting jittery over all sorts of things (like seeing people - not good if you are customer facing in your job). He agreed and after a couple of weeks I felt a lot better. Then came the T2 diabetes diagnosis. If I'd been on the old meds I probably would have crumbled.

Much of my anxiety is based around situations where I feel I have little control, so as soon as I could grab some back after the diagnosis, I snatched! Once I started a LCHF diet, started walking a lot more and bought a blood glucose monitor and tracked my progress and learned from my setbacks, I felt a lot calmer. This may work for you too.

Re your partner - you're right, you really do need them on board. You need to tell them that you need help, love and support. This means taking care of the kids if you need to get to appointments, attending appointments with you if you are feeling anxious, supporting you in dietary changes (and that includes doing the shopping), giving you a hug when you're feeling down, celebrating your successes, etc. In a nutshell, it's letting you be the boss of your own diabetes.

I can't shed any light on the sweet smell though!
 
@MissJSecker Give your surgery a call. Explain you feel very nervous. It may be that a Nurse will speak to you first - sometimes they have more time to put you at ease.

You really do need your feet checked. If you have pus there, you probably have an infection. You might need antibiotics. You might also benefit from meds for your diabetes.

You say you worked hard to sort the Gestational diabetes for your son. Well, now you need to,sort the diabetes for all your children. Please don't be afraid. The doctors and nurses will have seen much worse.

You'll feel so much better once you get some help and advice.

Edited to add - could you take a trusted friend with you? They don't have to come in to the appointment if you don't want them to, but just having them with you in the waiting room might help.
 
@MissJSecker

Hello and welcome to the forum :) I'm glad you have received so much valuable advice from members. Here is some more information which we give to new members and I hope you will find it useful.


BASIC INFORMATION FOR NEW MEMBERS

Diabetes is the general term to describe people who have blood that is sweeter than normal. A number of different types of diabetes exist.

A diagnosis of diabetes tends to be a big shock for most of us. It’s far from the end of the world though and on this forum you'll find well over 210,000 people who are demonstrating this.

On the forum we have found that with the number of new people being diagnosed with diabetes each day, sometimes the NHS is not being able to give all the advice it would perhaps like to deliver - particularly with regards to people with type 2 diabetes.

The role of carbohydrate

Carbohydrates are a factor in diabetes because they ultimately break down into sugar (glucose) within our blood. We then need enough insulin to either convert the blood sugar into energy for our body, or to store the blood sugar as body fat.

If the amount of carbohydrate we take in is more than our body’s own (or injected) insulin can cope with, then our blood sugar will rise.

The bad news

Research indicates that raised blood sugar levels over a period of years can lead to organ damage, commonly referred to as diabetic complications.

The good news

People on the forum here have shown that there is plenty of opportunity to keep blood sugar levels from going too high. It’s a daily task but it’s within our reach and it’s well worth the effort.

Controlling your carbs

The info below is primarily aimed at people with type 2 diabetes, however, it may also be of benefit for other types of diabetes as well.

There are two approaches to controlling your carbs:

  • Reduce your carbohydrate intake
  • Choose ‘better’ carbohydrates
Reduce your carbohydrates

A large number of people on this forum have chosen to reduce the amount of carbohydrates they eat as they have found this to be an effective way of improving (lowering) their blood sugar levels.

The carbohydrates which tend to have the most pronounced effect on blood sugar levels tend to be starchy carbohydrates such as rice, pasta, bread, potatoes and similar root vegetables, flour based products (pastry, cakes, biscuits, battered food etc) and certain fruits.

Choosing better carbohydrates

The low glycaemic index diet is often favoured by healthcare professionals but some people with diabetes find that low GI does not help their blood sugar enough and may wish to cut out these foods altogether.

Read more on carbohydrates and diabetes.

Over 145,000 people have taken part in the Low Carb Program - a free 10 week structured education course that is helping people lose weight and reduce medication dependency by explaining the science behind carbs, insulin and GI.

Eating what works for you

Different people respond differently to different types of food. What works for one person may not work so well for another. The best way to see which foods are working for you is to test your blood sugar with a glucose meter.

To be able to see what effect a particular type of food or meal has on your blood sugar is to do a test before the meal and then test after the meal. A test 2 hours after the meal gives a good idea of how your body has reacted to the meal.

The blood sugar ranges recommended by NICE are as follows:

Blood glucose ranges for type 2 diabetes
  • Before meals: 4 to 7 mmol/l
  • 2 hours after meals: under 8.5 mmol/l
Blood glucose ranges for type 1 diabetes (adults)
  • Before meals: 4 to 7 mmol/l
  • 2 hours after meals: under 9 mmol/l
Blood glucose ranges for type 1 diabetes (children)
  • Before meals: 4 to 8 mmol/l
  • 2 hours after meals: under 10 mmol/l
However, those that are able to, may wish to keep blood sugar levels below the NICE after meal targets.

Access to blood glucose test strips

The NICE guidelines suggest that people newly diagnosed with type 2 diabetes should be offered:

  • structured education to every person and/or their carer at and around the time of diagnosis, with annual reinforcement and review
  • self-monitoring of plasma glucose to a person newly diagnosed with type 2 diabetes only as an integral part of his or her self-management education

Therefore both structured education and self-monitoring of blood glucose should be offered to people with type 2 diabetes. Read more on getting access to blood glucose testing supplies.

You may also be interested to read questions to ask at a diabetic clinic.

Note: This post has been edited from Sue/Ken's post to include up to date information.
 
@MissJSecker my husband won't engage with my diabetes either. But it it is MY diabetes so I have to manage it for my health and future.
Support is great if you can get it, but ultimately this is your disease/condition/annoying thing and you need to see the doctor, look at testing and have the best life possible. X
 
Hi. That sweet smell could be ketones which would indicate you must see the GP urgently. These result from fat burning when the body can't use carbs properly due to lack of insulin or the inability to use it. Ketones can develop into a very serious condition if blood sugar remains uncontrolled. Do a few things urgently, see the GP, buy a glucose meter and seriously reduce the carbs in your diet. If you feel unwell get to A&E.
 
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