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Sorry to bother you, but I am feeling really really depressed, about had enough. Had T2 for a year. seemed to have tried everything, even lost 2 stone in weight. which is just slightly more than I was asked to do. Due at hospital this morning to find out what happens next as I now got it in my eyes. Even crying writing this, can anybody please help. Ginner
 
Hi Ginner and welcome to the forum :) You are not alone here we are all your friends. We all have a lot in common. We can often feel depressed too and some say its a part of diabetes. I hope all goes well at your hospital appointment today.

Perhaps it might help you to see how we recommend to members how to look after their diabetes. It might give you new ideas to try and perhaps you will make progress in controlling your levels. This is advice written by the forum monitors for newly diagnosed members, although I know you were diagnosed a year ago. I am sure you will find something helpful in it. Come back and let us know how you got on at the hospital we would all be interested to know.

BASIC INFORMATION FOR NEWLY DIAGNOSED DIABETICS.
Here is the advice we usually give to newly diagnosed diabetics. We hope that these few ideas gained through experience help you to gain control and give you some understanding of Diabetes. This forum doesn't always follow the recommended dietary advice, you have to work out what works for you as we are all different.

It's not just 'sugars' you need to avoid, diabetes is an inability to process glucose properly. Carbohydrate converts, in the body, to glucose. So it makes sense to reduce the amount of carbohydrate that you eat which includes sugars.

This is NOT a low carb diet suggestion, just a reduction in your intake of carbohydrate. You have to decide yourself how much of a reduction will keep your blood glucose levels in control.

The main carbs to avoid OR reduce are the complex or starchy carbohydrates such as bread, potatoes, pasta, rice, starchy root veg and also any flour based products. The starchy carbs all convert 100% to glucose in the body and raise the blood sugar levels significantly.

If you are on Insulin you may find that reducing the carb intake also means that you can reduce your dose of insulin. This can help you to keep weight gain down as Insulin tends to make you put on weight and eventually cause insulin resistance. This should be done slowly so as not to cause hypos.

The way to find out how different foods affect you is to do regular daily testing and keep a food diary for a couple of weeks. If you test just before eating, then two hours after eating, you will see the effect of certain foods on your blood glucose levels. Some foods, which are slow acting carbohydrates, are absorbed more slowly so you may need to test three or even four hours later to see the effect that these have on your blood glucose levels.

Buy yourself a carb counter book (you can get these on-line) and you will be able to work out how much carbs you are eating, when you test, the reading two hours after should be roughly the same as the before eating reading, if it is then that meal was fine, if it isn’t then you need to check what you have eaten and think about reducing the portion size of carbs.

When you are buying products check the total carbohydrate content, this includes the sugar content. Do not just go by the amount of sugar on the packaging as this is misleading to a diabetic.


As for a tester, try asking the nurse/doctor and explain that you want to be proactive in managing your own diabetes and therefore need to test so that you can see just how foods affect your blood sugar levels. Hopefully this will work ! Sometimes they are not keen to give Type 2’s the strips on prescription, (in the UK) but you can but try!!

If you are an Insulin user in theory you should have no problem getting test strips.

The latest 2010 NICE guidelines for Bg levels are as follows:
Fasting (waking).......between 4 - 7 mmol/l........(Type 1 & 2)
2 hrs after meals......no more than 8.5 mmol/l.....( Type 2)

2hrs after meals....... no more than 9 mmol/l ......(Type 1)

If you are able to keep the post meal numbers lower, so much the better.

It also helps if you can do 30 minutes moderate exercise a day. It doesn't have to be strenuous.

The above is just general advice and it is recommended that you discuss with your HCP before making any changes. You can also ask questions on the forum on anything that is not clear.

Sue/Ken.
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Hi Ginner, and welcome.

Lots of friendly and supportive people on here, so you've come to the right place. It's been a lifeline for me, and you're not alone in getting depressed.

One word of advice, from personal experience - never listen to yourself at three or four o'clock in the morning! Everything looks much worse than it is, at that time.

Please let us know how you got on at the hospital. Veryone wants to help.

Viv :)
 
Hi Ginner and welcome. I am so sorry you are feeling low. I know just how you feel - like the light at the end of the tunnel is a train!!! There are lots of people who can give you advice and support. Please PM me if you wish to talk about anything in confidence. I have problems other than the diabetes and know how low you it can make you feel. Let us know how you get on, will be thinking about you :wink:
 
Wishing you good luck Mate.
I can only speak for myself..I get low sometimes..think most of us do..It may help you to come here and just read sometimes
 
Many many thanks to those who have replied, sorry its taken so long for me to answer, examinations on Friday confirmed my eye problems, I was lucky to be able to speak for quite a long time to the doctor trying to explain why I was perhaps not doing exactly what I should be doing concerning my medication etc lately, but am feeling so VERY VERY let down at the moment,I am supposed to be seeing a psychiatrist, done it twice but..... ( last week he was off for the day when I had an appointment, I sat in reception for an hour before I found that out. there excuse was they couldn't let me know because they didn't have any of my contact details on record......until I showed them my letter from THEM !!!! the week before that I waited for 3/4's of an hour before he came in, and he said he didn't know he had an appointment with me)
I have also spent several days/nights/hours waiting for someone from the so called crisis team to call and see me.............I'm sure you can guess what happens
I was also told in October that I would be assigned a C.P.N. I met her for the first ever time on Friday.......She didn't seem very happy because I wouldn't let myself go and tell her everything.Tried to tell her that I wasn't prepared to do that at the moment, did have hope in the past but now realise all that means is if you raise your hopes all it really means is you have even further to fall when they let you down again.
Again sorry to let you know about this.....but don't honestly know whether its worth carrying on, am going to take some convincing though.

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Ginner - please don't do anything hasty. I have only just been diagnosed and feel awful so can only imagine how you feel. Maybe you could return to the doc (or a different one - I get on ok with one but the other one is a pain in the butt :lol: ). There are many others on here who will give you more/better advice than I can so hang on in there until they venture onto your post.

All the best :)
 
Ginner , I'm sorry you feel so alone.
I think it would help to be able to talk with someone who will listen.
You could contact the crisis team but if you would prefer to speak with people outside the system the Samritans are always there and you can tell them as much or as little as you want.
Their telephone number is:
: 08457 90 90 90

Will be thinking of you.

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ginner.
I wish I could just pick you up, dust you down and say everything will be fine from now on........

You and I know that isn't how it works. You are depressed, anxious and fed up with everything. I understand exactly how you are feeling. Trust me.....

Some several years ago I was diagnosed with severe depression, PTS disorder. At that time in my life I felt just like you, what is the point, nothing is getting better, nothing seems to work, I am useless.

Then I met up with a Counsellor, a Woman who I trusted, who I could talk to, who I could open up to and eventually lay out all my fears, my hopes, my dreams, my innermost thoughts. You need someone like that, maybe this CPN can be that person. You have only met once. That in itself is traumatic and nobody expects you to fix things all in one day......it will take time.

You have taken the first steps to getting control of your life back into your hands. You have joined here and the Members here will all offer you fantastic help and support. Plenty of advice even when you don't want it....... everybody here wants to help you. They are your friends.

It took me almost 12 months to begin to function as a 'normal' person. During that time I experienced heartache, tears, sadness, many dark days, weeks, months. Then things began to click back into place, those days began to ebb away. Days began to brighten, tears were fewer, sadness drifted away. I began to look forward to the days when I could achieve things, positive things. Finally, that deep hole I was in receded and I stood at the top........remembering....but now able to do all the things I wanted, laugh, cry, love.......I became the same old me that I was years before. I was healed. It was a different me though, someone who can appreciate others sadness, try and help others like those that helped me get back to my normal self. The real me.

ginner, you can do that too. We can all help. You are not alone, just remember.......small steps, they will get you to your destination........slowly but surely things get better. There will be setbacks, everybody has them. You can conquer them.......I know..... :)

Stick with us ginner. Let us help you stop feeling low........
 
As mentioned above, we are all here for you.
Keep posting how you are feeling, we all want to help. A trouble shared as they say.
All the best
Angie
 
Do you have an advocacy centre in your area? You have been so shabbily treated and I know it is difficult to fight for yourself when you are feeling so down. I just wonder if using an advocate for your medical matters would help and take the pressure off at the moment.
 
So many people here will know how you are feeling. It takes time to get to know and trust those who can help you. In some ways finding someone you can speak to and t.
trust is the hardest thing

I was devastated when i was foirst referred o the eyeclinic but the staff there have helped me more than anyone else with all aspects of my diabetes, I wish I could talk to my DSN and GP as es=asily as I can to my eye surgeon and his staff.

I am sure you will find someone you can talk to but it may take a little time.

if you keep reading here I am sure you will see that we all understand and want to help.
At least you can post exactly how you feel here. I hate the "falsely"optimistic tone you find on some other forums. While it might fool some people most diabetics must find it patronising and slightly offensive. You won't get hat here.
 
not much I can say - nothing that I think will make you feel better - so sending you a cyber hug and hope that helps - keep chatting to people on here please so that they know you are OK
 
Thanks for that,met my C.P.N yesterday obviously she has now seen my records which helped as I think she can now see why I was been angry with her. Shes now on holiday for a fortnight and my phyciatrist is still on long term sick.......banging your head against a brick wall springs to mind :x
 
When I feel down, I just get hold of a couple of new CD's.

I can recommend Drum and Bass Arena Anthology 3 CD set. :wink:

(Seriously - I've just got hold of it and I love it!)
 
ginner said:
Sorry to bother you, but I am feeling really really depressed, about had enough. Had T2 for a year. seemed to have tried everything, even lost 2 stone in weight. which is just slightly more than I was asked to do. Due at hospital this morning to find out what happens next as I now got it in my eyes. Even crying writing this, can anybody please help. Ginner
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I know how you feal, just hang on in there, and let God do his work. All my love, i am thinking of you.
 
Don't be too upset about it, Ginner, it happens to the best of us! It happened to me, and I came out the other side - no recurrence over 25 years!

A few tips: if you can eat them, bananas contain a natural anti-depressant;

knitting and jigsaws are good - they keep your mind just enough occupied that you can't think!;

and never, EVER listen to yourself at 3 o'clock in the morning (have I said this before?). Everything seems black then. Try to push your thoughts away and get back to sleep; if not, listen to the radio or read; if all else fails, get up and do the ironing! After all, you're depressed already :wink:

Take the opportunity for a bit of 'me' time - you're the most important person in your life at the moment, so take time to look after yourself - and hang on in there! Things will get better.

Viv :)
 
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