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FEELING SORRY FOR MYSELF NEED TO GET A GRIP ON THINGS

elainechi said:
my daughter is t1 and we.ve had many problems in the last 18 mths. i.m stressed up to the eyeballs with janes bs. last hba1c was over 12%. however 17 days of low carbs 140g which was low for her made her 10%. . her carb addiction is so much better. cravings minimal apart from some part of the month. no chips rice and only a tiny amount of pasta as a treat. home made icecream is her saviour. no sweets or chocilate

having said all that. i.m not diabetic ang been lower carbing for a while. if i eat bread i just want more. if i eat pasta and rice im starving 1/2 hour after. i.ve never liked cakes or pastry but love the fillings the best. i have to say my carbs are low and fat ? too high as im not losing much weight.

diabetes is hell. i don.t know how you feel only you know that. but being a mum with a pre teen diabetic i can empathize. chin up!!!. good luck. x
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thank you, I have 2 teenage children and I would hate them to be diabetic so I would rather it be me than them but if they were then I would take more care of them than I do myself !!! I am hoping low carb is going to help my levels, but am suffering withdrawals already and had a migraine yesterday and feel another one coming on, if I eat chocolate though I will feel better but I cant do that as I need to cut it out completely as I cant stop at one little piece, its only chocolate im a pig with though as I am a very small eater withhardly any appetite and i honestly could eat chocolate as a main meal, perhaps that is why it has got this bad :/
 
I felt just as you do Lauraan. I found giving up carbs and chocolate as hard as giving up smoking.

Be kind to yourself. This is very hard and you deserve a round of applause for wanting to do something positive :clap: :clap: :clap:

I check in here everyday and it has really helped. Everyone is very supportive and has lots of ideas. I was only diagnose a couple of months ago T2 and reducing my carbs has been very good for my blood sugar levels.

My doctor says that my high blood sugar levels can make me feel depressed and hopeless, so maybe its just part of this whole Diabetes thing and, once you have conquered the carb cravings, you will feel more positive.
 
lucylocket61 said:
I felt just as you do Lauraan. I found giving up carbs and chocolate as hard as giving up smoking.

Be kind to yourself. This is very hard and you deserve a round of applause for wanting to do something positive :clap: :clap: :clap:

I check in here everyday and it has really helped. Everyone is very supportive and has lots of ideas. I was only diagnose a couple of months ago T2 and reducing my carbs has been very good for my blood sugar levels.

My doctor says that my high blood sugar levels can make me feel depressed and hopeless, so maybe its just part of this whole Diabetes thing and, once you have conquered the carb cravings, you will feel more positive.
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True, as when it was well controlled last year I felt on top of the world and so many people commented on how well I looked, and now my sugars are high I feel hopelesss, its a vicious circle isnt it, hopefully my mood will lift when my blood sugars are more controlled :)
 
I was well controlled and making good progress but stagnated (not got worse just stagnated!) due to personal problems. It is easy to forget care for yourself when these things happen, but you know what? they're easier to cope with if you're in good shape physically and mentally so I'm getting back on track. I use anger as a motivation, I get angry people doubt me, so I use that anger as motivation that to prove them wrong!
 
Lauraann said:
apple123 said:
Hi Laura,

Just read your post - I've had trouble getting a grip on this and its only just really hitting home now. I just wondered if with the chocolate cravings you might be low on Magnesium or other minerals - do you take a good multivitamin/mineral supplement?

take care,

Rachel
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funny you should say that as I have looked on google and am going to get some magnesium supplements today to help, do you take them :)
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Hi Laura

If you're going to take magnesium supplements you need Magnesium Citrate - it's the easiest to absorb. I use a brand called MagAsorb (there are others) and I take 150mg 3 times daily. I've taken it for about 6 years and I'm not dead yet!

As for chocolate - try switching to a dark chocolate brand with more than 70% cocoa solids. The higher the cocoa content the fewer the carbs, and you get a lot more chocolate bang for your buck. And if you eat too much you'll get the runs :shock: - not funny, but a good deterent.

I have a good low-carb diet on the 'Sticky Thread' section - Viv's Modified Atkins Diet. It's a slightly altered version of the Atkins Induction Phase, but it's a useful and easy list of low carb/no carb foods. If it's too low carb for you, get a Carb Counter book - plenty available - and add in extra Low GI carbs until you reach the daily intake you want. It might be worth trying to be strict with yourself for a couple of weeks just to break the destructive habits you've got into. It is pure self-destruction, I know - been there, got the T-shirt! Lots of support on here whenever you need it :D .

Don't forget to drink plenty of water - I try for 2 litres a day. It helps get rid of those awful headachey feelings.

You could cook low-carb for all the family, and give the non-low-carbers potatoes or pasta or rice. Ask them to help you and not to tease you. Be blunt - do they want you to go blind or have your feet amputated? If you get them on side they'll be a great help to you.

Good luck! you know you can do it.

Viv 8)
 
thanks Viv, to be honest its best if I go cold turkey on the chocolate as just a little bit of any variety starts of a binge :shock:
feeling awful at mo, headachey, cold and light headed hopefully it is just down to carb withdrawal and will start to feel better soon x
 
Lauraann said:
thanks Viv, to be honest its best if I go cold turkey on the chocolate as just a little bit of any variety starts of a binge :shock:
feeling awful at mo, headachey, cold and light headed hopefully it is just down to carb withdrawal and will start to feel better soon x
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Hi Laura

i just been reading through this thread and let me tell you....it could have been me writing them. I am exactly like you - barr the married and kids - i do struggle with what i eat. i can be good for days and then something happens and i go and binge on as many carbs as i can. so then i undo all my work - feel discouranged and what's the point - and then start again.

it is a vicious circle!!!! i believe depression has something to do with it....cause and consequence i think. i have been prone to it before.

What i ll say is that this place is great...the people and the encouragment you find here is next to none. i think people like us would have been better if we had found places and advise like this before when we were diagnosed - it would have been easier to do something about it.

we MUST NOT give up hope...we MUST try and try until we get it right....and we WILL!! so hang in there!!!!
if you want to pm feel free to do so!!!!

take care
Clay x
 
claymic said:
Lauraann said:
thanks Viv, to be honest its best if I go cold turkey on the chocolate as just a little bit of any variety starts of a binge :shock:
feeling awful at mo, headachey, cold and light headed hopefully it is just down to carb withdrawal and will start to feel better soon x
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Hi Laura

i just been reading through this thread and let me tell you....it could have been me writing them. I am exactly like you - barr the married and kids - i do struggle with what i eat. i can be good for days and then something happens and i go and binge on as many carbs as i can. so then i undo all my work - feel discouranged and what's the point - and then start again.

it is a vicious circle!!!! i believe depression has something to do with it....cause and consequence i think. i have been prone to it before.

What i ll say is that this place is great...the people and the encouragment you find here is next to none. i think people like us would have been better if we had found places and advise like this before when we were diagnosed - it would have been easier to do something about it.

we MUST NOT give up hope...we MUST try and try until we get it right....and we WILL!! so hang in there!!!!
if you want to pm feel free to do so!!!!

take care
Clay x
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hi there
sorry you feel like I do but on one hand it helps that we dont feel like we are the only ones going through this, I have been 'good' for 3 days but I know that anything can set me off and I will fall off the wagon, it can be tiredness, desperation, you name it, I just wish I could stick to eating properly, I lie awake most nights worrying about going blind and having limbs amputated and say to myself right from tomorrow I will start to look after myself but by the next day I find myself stuffing myself with chocolate and carb laden foods as it cheers me up :shock: , but it doesnt last long and then Im back to square one laying awake at night worrying, this time last year I did really well and then stopped coming on here and fell back into my old ways, so here I am again, and Im coimng on here everyday from now on to try to keep motivated and get a kick up the bum when I need it, I see you are on byetta has that helped and did you lose weight on it x
 
Post your fasting blood glucose on here every morning. Never mind if it's high - it will come down.

I've noticed that the days I don't take and post my fasting reading in a morning, are the days I'm most likely to stray from the straight-and narrow - don't worry, we all do that occasionally! :shock: Just make sure it stays "occasionally".

It's as if taking and admitting to my fasting reading reminds me that I'm diabetic and am supposed to be losing weight! :crazy: :lol:

I went into a brand-new cafe this morning, with some really delicious-looking home-made cakes (including a chocolate fudge cake, all moist and squashy, and a lemon drizzle cake :mrgreen: ) - and I just had a coffee. Today I really am smug!

Viv 8)
 
viviennem said:
Post your fasting blood glucose on here every morning. Never mind if it's high - it will come down.

I've noticed that the days I don't take and post my fasting reading in a morning, are the days I'm most likely to stray from the straight-and narrow - don't worry, we all do that occasionally! :shock: Just make sure it stays "occasionally".
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That's why I test every morning and also in the evening. I like the reminder to myself that I am diabetic because it would be so easy to slip.
 
Don't ever feel like a failure! - I have just joined this site as I just had to respond to your post and the thread.
I got diagnosed as type 1 4 years ago - (plus i found out that I am Coeliac) I was 29. It all started well but since I had my little boy 2.5 years ago I have let myself go - I am, like you, obsessed with the complications that I might develop and vow that I will do better tomorrow - that never happens .

I think it is all just hitting me that this is forever - but as you say it can affect all areas of your life- I feel like I am grieving for the healthy person I used to be.

Anyway your post made me realise I could do with the support from a forum like this - so thankyou!
Anna
 
AnnaGAll said:
Don't ever feel like a failure! - I have just joined this site as I just had to respond to your post and the thread.
I got diagnosed as type 1 4 years ago - (plus i found out that I am Coeliac) I was 29. It all started well but since I had my little boy 2.5 years ago I have let myself go - I am, like you, obsessed with the complications that I might develop and vow that I will do better tomorrow - that never happens .

I think it is all just hitting me that this is forever - but as you say it can affect all areas of your life- I feel like I am grieving for the healthy person I used to be.

Anyway your post made me realise I could do with the support from a forum like this - so thankyou!
Anna
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Hi AnnaGall,

I so understand where your coming from I was diagnosed 6 yrs ago, 1 year after my son was born. ( I had thyroid problems in the years running up to diagnosis ) Previous to this I was fit healthy and could eat what I wanted and never put weight on ( I was actualy underweight but not intentionaly. ) I was In denial for alot of that time but also hadnt got a clue about owning and managing my condition. I was not shown how to carb count. Recently something clicked and I found out about carb counting, and my hospital seem to be helping more.

When you have a child and a family it is natural to see to everyone 1st and think of yourself last. My son is 7 now and I have realised that I cannot waste anymore time. I hope you get the help to turn it round. This forum is great and i would recommend learning to carb count as being in control makes all the difference. BDEC do one online and I will post another link that Pheonix gave me.

Lucy.
 
Hi AnnaGAll

Welcome to the forum. I'm also T1 and coeliac and I've noticed a few others around, so you're not alone. I've only been here a few weeks but am already getting some BG spiking issues under control. I see you're looking for support and you've come to the right place. Ask as many questions as you like - there's always someone to help.

Robert
 
shop said:
AnnaGAll said:
Don't ever feel like a failure! - I have just joined this site as I just had to respond to your post and the thread.
I got diagnosed as type 1 4 years ago - (plus i found out that I am Coeliac) I was 29. It all started well but since I had my little boy 2.5 years ago I have let myself go - I am, like you, obsessed with the complications that I might develop and vow that I will do better tomorrow - that never happens .

I think it is all just hitting me that this is forever - but as you say it can affect all areas of your life- I feel like I am grieving for the healthy person I used to be.

Anyway your post made me realise I could do with the support from a forum like this - so thankyou!
Anna
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Hi AnnaGall,

I so understand where your coming from I was diagnosed 6 yrs ago, 1 year after my son was born. ( I had thyroid problems in the years running up to diagnosis ) Previous to this I was fit healthy and could eat what I wanted and never put weight on ( I was actualy underweight but not intentionaly. ) I was In denial for alot of that time but also hadnt got a clue about owning and managing my condition. I was not shown how to carb count. Recently something clicked and I found out about carb counting, and my hospital seem to be helping more.

When you have a child and a family it is natural to see to everyone 1st and think of yourself last. My son is 7 now and I have realised that I cannot waste anymore time. I hope you get the help to turn it round. This forum is great and i would recommend learning to carb count as being in control makes all the difference. BDEC do one online and I will post another link that Pheonix gave me.

Lucy.
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http://www.diabetes.education.net/index...ge=centres
 
its great that we can support each other as the disease makes me feel very isolated and its true, there is a kind of grieving for the people we used to be, I took health for granted when I was younger and its only when you get older and maybe have kids of your own that you start to think more seriously, my morning reading was 8.4 it is going down steadily everyday since Monday which was just under 12 ! I honestly thought I was the only person in the world that had trouble accepting and dealing with being diabetic, I thought I was weak and useless and couldnt understand why I dont care enough about myself to look after myself properly, I am definately coming on here everyday to keep me on the straight and narrow so I apologise in advance for any rants I may have to vent :)
Just wish they could find a cure for all diabetics, I dont know why I developed it, I have exercised for over 20 years, wasnt very overweight, I developed gestational diabetes with my second child but it disappeared after I had her and then 5 years later I was diagnosed as diabetic, no one in my family has it, it seems so unfair but then life is unfair and lots of people have illnesses they dont want I guess. It just seems like a death sentence hanging over me and its on my mind every waking hour, I was diagnosed nearly 10 years ago so you would think that I would have come to terms with it by now :(
love and blessings to all x
Laura
 
Hi Laura,

No you are certainly not on yor own. Since i have learnt how to carb count and coming on here I don't feel resentful, bitter or helpless. I am taking control and being part of this community makes me feel normal. ( sounds weird I know. )

Noone really knows we we all get diabetes, and yes it is frustrating. A year before diagnosis I gave birth ( well emerg section ) to a beautiful big boy, 10lbs I am 5'2 and weighed 9stn at the time. I was only 2lb when I was born. Prior to conception I took folic acid a year before getting pregnant. ( I wasnt even diabetic then ) But I was aware of my family history of congenital heart defects so wanted to give my baby the best chance of being healthy. I therefore refused to put any kind of food that wasn't nutritious into my body, ate foods with a high iron content from brockley to chickpeas you name it I ate it. ( good thing as when i went for my section, my haemoglobin levels were very good. ) I have always eaten healthily and no more so than the few yrs before giving birth.

My pregnancy was pretty traumatic because my grandmother died ( the only parent I ever really had ) and a week after the funeral I had to have an ecocardiogram on my unborn baby to make sure he didnt have the same problem as my mum. ( I thank god that he didnt )

Just under a year after giving birth I got diagnosed with T1 diabetes.

So I dont think that it is all about diet T1 or 2. I do think ther are autoimmune and genetic reasons. We just have to get on with it I suppose and take control. I hope we can all accept it at one point or another and if a cure comes alosng the brilliant.

I am just glad that my son doesnt get it!! He eats well and has a healthy attitude towards food likes fruit, veg, salads, fish and only had sweet things after a meal ( to maintain good dental health )

So I am hoping that if he ever does become diabetic (god forbid) he will not have issues with healthy food.

Here is paying for all of us to keep and stay well..xxx
 
claymic said:
Lauraann said:
thanks Viv, to be honest its best if I go cold turkey on the chocolate as just a little bit of any variety starts of a binge :shock:
feeling awful at mo, headachey, cold and light headed hopefully it is just down to carb withdrawal and will start to feel better soon x
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Hi Laura

i just been reading through this thread and let me tell you....it could have been me writing them. I am exactly like you - barr the married and kids - i do struggle with what i eat. i can be good for days and then something happens and i go and binge on as many carbs as i can. so then i undo all my work - feel discouranged and what's the point - and then start again.

it is a vicious circle!!!! i believe depression has something to do with it....cause and consequence i think. i have been prone to it before.

What i ll say is that this place is great...the people and the encouragment you find here is next to none. i think people like us would have been better if we had found places and advise like this before when we were diagnosed - it would have been easier to do something about it.

we MUST NOT give up hope...we MUST try and try until we get it right....and we WILL!! so hang in there!!!!
if you want to pm feel free to do so!!!!

take care
Clay x
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hi Clay got your pm but it wont let me reply
 
morning reading is 7.4 so slowly going down, far from perfect but have not eaten anything 'bad' for 5 days :)
 
That's not bad at all. You should be proud of yourself :thumbup:
 
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