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Have people got it in for me?

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ne0h

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Type of diabetes
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Tablets (oral)
I have noticed that whenever I reply to some posting my comments are ignored by the group. Also if I post a thread I get people searching through what I have written before and then splitting hairs to try and put me down. I just don't understand why I am the target of this sort of bullying. I feel let down that the moderators stand by and allow this to happen time and time again.

I just cannot understand why I am being singled out like this.:(
 
ne0h I can only speak for myself here. No I don't 'have it in for you'. I would love to have a sensible discussion with you. The problem is some of your views are quite outrageous, which is fine they are your views after all. However I do worry that sometimes you may be misleading others with your very strong opinions. I am sorry if you feel I have bullied you, that was not my intention. Did I upset you when I said I didn't eat bread?
 
When you reply to someone else's post, it is mostly the case that other members won't respond. They tend to respond to the original poster. Many people don't see it as a conversation whereby people join in. They are just making comments, so please don't feel bad about it.

As far a people being picky, yes sometimes they are but often people write as if they are talking and invariably what they write isn't actually what they meant. You miss all the visual signals, so its harder to interpret. Also, when they are being picky, they may be picky about something which they think is important but which you don't think is important.

I wouldn't bother trying to understand everyone. As they say, it takes all sorts.
 
If you have a specific complaint, feel free to report it. As for being ignored, there are many, many posts that go un-answered. We can't moderate that. May I politely suggest you look at the sort of threads you start as that could be an issue for some. Many people come here for advice or support and this is generally what happens. If you start a thread by announcing you are going to cease all medications then you may not like the responses you get back. Anyway, if you feel you've been treated unfairly, drop myself or another moderator a message. Take care, Mo
 
i disagree with everything youve ever posted, so ill try not to respond (apart from now) im not trying to bully anyone, i dont come here to fight or be mean (believe it or not) i am here only to learn and TRY to help newbies, to payback for the help i received, i choose newbies because they are the only folks i can offer advice to, everyone else probly knows more than me about db


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I remember that I and others responded and advised you on one of your first posts where you asked what 'HI' meant on your meter. I and others felt that you were misleading posters on later threads because you gave the impression that you could eat what you liked when you liked and getting HI readings didn't matter or affect you. It's early days for you. You should have added that these foods haven't affected you YET.
I also told you about a lady I knew who thought that the higher the blood glucose the better. Her premature death proved that she couldn't have been more wrong.
I really don't think that my responses to you could be classed as bullying. Please advise me if you believe otherwise.
 
ne0h said:
I have noticed that whenever I reply to some posting my comments are ignored by the group. Also if I post a thread I get people searching through what I have written before and then splitting hairs to try and put me down. I just don't understand why I am the target of this sort of bullying. I feel let down that the moderators stand by and allow this to happen time and time again.

I just cannot understand why I am being singled out like this.:(
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Good grief! Not the case at all! If you want more attention then join a pub quiz or darts team or social club or something.
 
I have just gone through some of your messages I can't see that anyone is ignoring you. Some like me don't have an opinion on what you have posted. And some I just don't know enough about. I do think you are being over sensitive.
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Hi ne0h,

If you take into account the likes you have received as a percentage of posts you have made it's quite high so people don't dislike what you are posting, rather it's just, as others have pointed out, some comments don't seem to need a response so people don't bother.
Carry on as you have been and all will be fine.
 
Hi ....people are just being kind and open and honest as required ....
See you do have friends here .....best wishes ....Kat
 
Yep I agree with a lot of these replies. There's nothing sinister or sneaky about how you have been responded to imo. On this forum there are many many times that I have no knowledge about what has been posted and to give a response would be irresponsible of me.

An open forum is just that...open and free will operates which means that if your opinions run opposite to the general flow then you may not get many responses other than ones disagreeing with you. As for being picked apart? When you post you invite others to join in but you have to be prepared for others to disagree with you. We all live and learn but on here there is a ton of experience with diabetes and quite honestly, there are an awful lot of people who know that your methods won't work for them. If they don't say so it may mean that newly diagnosed will carry on in a dangerous way that might endanger their health and that isn't good for anyone.
 
I dont dislike you but I do understand how you feel I have left forums before because of the same thing, dont worry about it no one hates you and if people ignore you they are not worth your time, feel free to talk to me if you want to because you shouldnt be made to feel isolated and ignored.
 
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