Hello,
Please bare with me while I try to sum up a little background on what has been going on.
5 years ago, my husband got really sick and thought he was coming down with a common cold. I told him that he should go see a doctor because it didn’t seem like a cold.
Then he called me up and said he was going to urgent care because he was feeling faint at work. But after they checked him out, urgent care told him he needed to go straight to the ER. So, I met him there and his lips were bluish and his toes were almost blue too.
He then told me that his blood sugar was high and that the doctors at the hospital wanted to monitor him. He ended up being in the hospital for a week. The doctor diagnosed him as being pre-diabetic (this is what my husband told me).
My husband started to go to the VA where they prescribed him Metformin. But he didn’t do well on it. He lost a lot of weight, could barely walk, his feet were in so much pain that he said it felt like he was walking on bones and he was weak and lethargic. Oh, he lost weight because food made him sick to his stomach.
He eventually decided to stop taking Metformin. And he started to slowly get back to himself again. But he also started to stop checking his blood level and taking his insulin.
Fast forward to today, I’ve been noticing his elbows were really rough looking. They felt extremely dry and bumpy, even looking unusually dark in that specific area. Also, his breath is smelling sweet (something I had noticed in the past and know is associated with diabetes) and he is extremely moody if he hasn’t eaten, especially in the mornings.
But he won’t listen to me when I express my concerns.
Tonight, l pointed out his elbows and he told me he just needs better lotion and hasn’t been drinking enough water.
I asked him if he brought his insulin (we just moved to Texas) and he said he didn’t, however, brought his glucose monitor but has checked it lately.
He believes his diabetes (because now he claims to be Type II) is under control and that by him cutting out sugar, eating fruit and drinking water is doing the trick.
If I tell him, “I’m concerned that his breath smells sweet and he should check his blood sugar”, he will claim he checked and it’s normal. If I express concerns that he should go see his doctor he’ll say he doesn’t need to and that his diabetes is gone…or he will get defensive.
I don’t know what to do or say at this point. Three months ago I had my leg amputated due to cancer, I’m exhausted and don’t have the energy to go back and forth with him…but I don’t want anything to happen him as a result of not managing his health.
What are some encouraging words to say to help motivate him to look after his diabetes and take this seriously?
Please bare with me while I try to sum up a little background on what has been going on.
5 years ago, my husband got really sick and thought he was coming down with a common cold. I told him that he should go see a doctor because it didn’t seem like a cold.
Then he called me up and said he was going to urgent care because he was feeling faint at work. But after they checked him out, urgent care told him he needed to go straight to the ER. So, I met him there and his lips were bluish and his toes were almost blue too.
He then told me that his blood sugar was high and that the doctors at the hospital wanted to monitor him. He ended up being in the hospital for a week. The doctor diagnosed him as being pre-diabetic (this is what my husband told me).
My husband started to go to the VA where they prescribed him Metformin. But he didn’t do well on it. He lost a lot of weight, could barely walk, his feet were in so much pain that he said it felt like he was walking on bones and he was weak and lethargic. Oh, he lost weight because food made him sick to his stomach.
He eventually decided to stop taking Metformin. And he started to slowly get back to himself again. But he also started to stop checking his blood level and taking his insulin.
Fast forward to today, I’ve been noticing his elbows were really rough looking. They felt extremely dry and bumpy, even looking unusually dark in that specific area. Also, his breath is smelling sweet (something I had noticed in the past and know is associated with diabetes) and he is extremely moody if he hasn’t eaten, especially in the mornings.
But he won’t listen to me when I express my concerns.
Tonight, l pointed out his elbows and he told me he just needs better lotion and hasn’t been drinking enough water.
I asked him if he brought his insulin (we just moved to Texas) and he said he didn’t, however, brought his glucose monitor but has checked it lately.
He believes his diabetes (because now he claims to be Type II) is under control and that by him cutting out sugar, eating fruit and drinking water is doing the trick.
If I tell him, “I’m concerned that his breath smells sweet and he should check his blood sugar”, he will claim he checked and it’s normal. If I express concerns that he should go see his doctor he’ll say he doesn’t need to and that his diabetes is gone…or he will get defensive.
I don’t know what to do or say at this point. Three months ago I had my leg amputated due to cancer, I’m exhausted and don’t have the energy to go back and forth with him…but I don’t want anything to happen him as a result of not managing his health.
What are some encouraging words to say to help motivate him to look after his diabetes and take this seriously?
