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Help! I have so much weight to lose

Hi Zand when I went to Boston which was only for 5 days I managed to put on about 5 Pounds so your gain is nothing to worry about . I think mine was down to discovering the joys of banana daiquiris in the bar of our hotel !


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Ah well Connie.... our hotel didn't have a bar so I had to get some exercise by walking to various bars to find the beers, so that probably made all the difference!
 
I am working at home today so have allowed myself to read these exchanges as a treat. Zand - you have done well! It won't take too long to shift the couple of pounds you have put on! My goodness, you deserve a holiday and a break from thinking about this all the time. I was amused by your admission that you are very OCD - I have come to realise since January that I am too! However, now all I can think about is a ... banana daiquiri! Might have to stop and have a cup of tea.
 
I am working at home today so have allowed myself to read these exchanges as a treat. Zand - you have done well! It won't take too long to shift the couple of pounds you have put on! My goodness, you deserve a holiday and a break from thinking about this all the time. I was amused by your admission that you are very OCD - I have come to realise since January that I am too! However, now all I can think about is a ... banana daiquiri! Might have to stop and have a cup of tea.
Lol.....I can't stop thinking about that either! Thanks for the encouragement, I am in a much better frame of mind now, so hopefully you are right about the couple of pounds. A cup of tea sounds like a really good idea!:)
 
I read a quote from another perfectionist at another forum and thought it might ring a bell for you too, Zand:
"Perfectionism is the root of all depression".

As a long term sufferer of both conditions, I could certainly relate o_O
 
I read a quote from another perfectionist at another forum and thought it might ring a bell for you too, Zand:
"Perfectionism is the root of all depression".

As a long term sufferer of both conditions, I could certainly relate o_O

Yes this has been so true for me too......but what is at the root of perfectionism?

I don't believe I was born that way, so something must have caused it. In my case I am convinced it started because of repressed/suppressed childhood memories, which only came to the surface when I was in my 40's. I was a good kid, I hated being told off for anything, so I never willfully did anything wrong, but sometimes I did the wrong thing simply because I didn't know it was wrong and was then punished for it. Even as a teenager my 'rebellion' consisted of smoking 10 ciggies aged 15 and telling fibs (once!) so I could meet a boy (he was a Leeds Utd fan and was the one who got me interested in football). Also when I was little my Mum was often too busy to help teach me things so she just took over when what I was doing wasn't good enough/quick enough.....all except the ironing which she hated!....I got quite good at that from age 8 onwards.

So now I know where my own perfectionist trait stemmed from I am much better at coping with it and it isn't quite so destructive to me....but I still get a 'kick' out of very occasionally doing something perfectly.
 
Yes this has been so true for me too......but what is at the root of perfectionism?

I don't believe I was born that way, so something must have caused it. In my case I am convinced it started because of repressed/suppressed childhood memories, which only came to the surface when I was in my 40's. I was a good kid, I hated being told off for anything, so I never willfully did anything wrong, but sometimes I did the wrong thing simply because I didn't know it was wrong and was then punished for it. Even as a teenager my 'rebellion' consisted of smoking 10 ciggies aged 15 and telling fibs (once!) so I could meet a boy (he was a Leeds Utd fan and was the one who got me interested in football). Also when I was little my Mum was often too busy to help teach me things so she just took over when what I was doing wasn't good enough/quick enough.....all except the ironing which she hated!....I got quite good at that from age 8 onwards.

So now I know where my own perfectionist trait stemmed from I am much better at coping with it and it isn't quite so destructive to me....but I still get a 'kick' out of very occasionally doing something perfectly.

It helps me to think I don't always have to be the 'best' at everything, just the best that I can be.
 
Yay! fasting BG down to 6.3 this morning. Still not where I want it to be, but getting there. I have been for blood tests this morning. This always takes ages because they can never find my veins, the nurse was really good today and only jabbed me once. She also changed an appointment I have for next week to the day after so that I can go for 2 appointments on the same morning rather than making 2 separate journeys.

I checked my blood pressure and pulse on the machine in the waiting room. Systolic still too high, but someone I didn't really want to see walked in just as I had pressed the button so that's probably why. Resting pulse rate........64 !!!!!

So I am back on track now, yesterday the only thing I ate that wasn't low carb was a seeded whole meal roll and that was early morning before I had 'pulled myself together'. Hubby said he wanted to take me out for a meal......yeh, right, guess where we went ....motorway services. .. Still they had a decent burger which I had without roll and without battered onion rings and without chips which they let me swap for 3 different salads. So all was not lost.
 
Yay fasting BG down to 5.9 today! It's good to be back in the 5's again. I'm going for a walk now to see if I can wake myself up a bit.
 
Have you seen the 4 questions for diabetics thread? If you answer honestly the research might make a difference in the future.

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Yes I have seen it. I can't do it. I don't know why, I know I should but I just can't answer those questions. I tried to just start typing like I often do when I don't know what to say, but nothing happened.
 
Have you seen the 4 questions for diabetics thread? If you answer honestly the research might make a difference in the future.

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Jamrox, why are you promoting this?
 
Aaaarrgghh! OK on the diabetes week 2014 thread I half-jokingly said I would spend less time on this forum so I could be more active. Well, that is exactly what I am going to try to do. It will be hard 'cos I'm addicted, but some days it doesn't do me any good. Like tonight for instance. Everyone seems to be talking about foods which I am craving for and alcohol which I am now craving again. This isn't a moan about everyone else it's a moan about me and where I am at right now. So I will still pop in and post once or twice a day but will try to limit my time here. I'm not saying I will succeed though, but sometimes this virtual world isn't very safe for me. I have rediscovered another world to lose myself in when the real world gets too much - a book which I started to read 25 years ago, then life got too busy to find the time to read anymore so I forgot about it, well there's 10 of them to get through now. It's so good to find 'me' again.
 
Nothing beats a good book. I try not to sit on facebook and forums as much too but tonight I'm home alone so it's almost like having a conversation and it helps that people are in same boat. Drop in whenever you want to or need to. I think that's the beauty of support forums.
 
Aaaarrgghh! OK on the diabetes week 2014 thread I half-jokingly said I would spend less time on this forum so I could be more active. Well, that is exactly what I am going to try to do. It will be hard 'cos I'm addicted, but some days it doesn't do me any good. Like tonight for instance. Everyone seems to be talking about foods which I am craving for and alcohol which I am now craving again. This isn't a moan about everyone else it's a moan about me and where I am at right now. So I will still pop in and post once or twice a day but will try to limit my time here. I'm not saying I will succeed though, but sometimes this virtual world isn't very safe for me. I have rediscovered another world to lose myself in when the real world gets too much - a book which I started to read 25 years ago, then life got too busy to find the time to read anymore so I forgot about it, well there's 10 of them to get through now. It's so good to find 'me' again.

Ah, zand
Post hol blues?
I recommend relaxing and losing yourself in a good book.
I spend too much time on here too, so going to limit myself and read from a paper book not a screen.
 
Jamrox, why are you promoting this?

I took it at face value I thought it was probably a nurse who was doing a study for education purpose.
Also I felt the questions aren't to intrusive for me , nothing that I haven't already shared on here to be honest.

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Yes I have seen it. I can't do it. I don't know why, I know I should but I just can't answer those questions. I tried to just start typing like I often do when I don't know what to say, but nothing happened.
Good. It looks very amateur to me.
 
I took it at face value I thought it was probably a nurse who was doing a study for education purpose.
Also I felt the questions aren't to intrusive for me , nothing that I haven't already shared on here to be honest.

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Ok, thanks Jamrox.
I am probably being cynical, but I thought it looked very unprofessional.
 
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