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Hi, I don’t have diabetes but my best friend does, and recently it’s been causing arguments between us, I was hoping you could give me some advice on how to be supportive without being overbearing?
The other day, we were out for a while, and I didn’t pester him about testing or putting in because I thought he would be taking care of himself. I crashed at his and his mum came in about midnight to test him, and she told me his levels were 22 and he hadn’t tested since 7am that morning.
The next day I was obviously worried about him, and so after we went out for breakfast I reminded him to put in, but he refused, he wouldn’t even test 2 hours later unless i bought him a sausage roll and a drink.
About a week later we were out and got pizza, I said he should probably test and he told me he didn’t even have any kit. I said that i could go and get it for him, he said he didn’t care so i went and got it and gave it to him.
When I gave it to him he got really mad at me, started swearing at me and telling me im not his mum etc, i tried to tell him i was just worried but he wouldn’t listen and made me leave. We haven’t spoken since.
He has told me that he feels like he has diabulimia so i know that it’s hard for him, and he’s been going through this for like 14 years, since he was like 2, so i wasn’t going to start telling him about neuropathy and retinopathy and DKA because i’m sure he’s heard it all before but i am really worried he’s gonna hurt himself.
So basically i want to a) rant and b) try to understand how i can help him and put his mum’s mind at ease (i’m one of the few friends she trusts to look after him) without actually sounding like his mum. Thanks
The other day, we were out for a while, and I didn’t pester him about testing or putting in because I thought he would be taking care of himself. I crashed at his and his mum came in about midnight to test him, and she told me his levels were 22 and he hadn’t tested since 7am that morning.
The next day I was obviously worried about him, and so after we went out for breakfast I reminded him to put in, but he refused, he wouldn’t even test 2 hours later unless i bought him a sausage roll and a drink.
About a week later we were out and got pizza, I said he should probably test and he told me he didn’t even have any kit. I said that i could go and get it for him, he said he didn’t care so i went and got it and gave it to him.
When I gave it to him he got really mad at me, started swearing at me and telling me im not his mum etc, i tried to tell him i was just worried but he wouldn’t listen and made me leave. We haven’t spoken since.
He has told me that he feels like he has diabulimia so i know that it’s hard for him, and he’s been going through this for like 14 years, since he was like 2, so i wasn’t going to start telling him about neuropathy and retinopathy and DKA because i’m sure he’s heard it all before but i am really worried he’s gonna hurt himself.
So basically i want to a) rant and b) try to understand how i can help him and put his mum’s mind at ease (i’m one of the few friends she trusts to look after him) without actually sounding like his mum. Thanks